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What makes a person emotionally strong?

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What makes a person emotionally strong?
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blissfulMango45
August 25th, 2016 10:18am
A person can be emotionally strong, by not letting others effect there emotional well being. Other peoples negative opinions of you shouldn't let you see yourself differently when you look in the mirror. You are you, we are all individually different but that's what makes you even more special! Best wishes :)
adoredIcicle46
June 25th, 2016 12:30am
A person who is emotionally strong is one who doesn't let a person get to their emotions and make them sad or angry and can be calm and control their emotions during a stressful time or situation.
drayofLight
June 24th, 2016 10:29am
Awesome question! I believe it can be different for each person and depends on what you see as strength. Some see strength as ability to weather hardships. We each might handle them differently. For me, I find strength in accepting I am human and bound to make mistakes and learn from them. Accepting we might have a bad day once in a while and forgiving ourselves when we goof up helps me to. I think it is something you kind of learn over time and with experience and is gonna be based on your perception of strength. What do feel is considered being emotionally strong?
CastleQueen8
August 31st, 2016 6:13am
Being able to admit that they cry, that they hurt. To have a total breakdown. To be at the very end of their rope. Then, to fight back and take control over their life and their happiness. To be broken and to still be willing to take on anything.
Anonymous
September 17th, 2016 8:07pm
A person gets emotionally strong if he or she is willing to face the difficulties of life without giving in to them.
Fraz
September 14th, 2016 9:10am
The ability to look at things objectively without being influenced by emotions or impulsiveness while still being able to express their individuality and feelings freely.
marvelousBlossom86
March 24th, 2017 7:13am
It is many things, but most of all, it is the ability to move on. Grit plays a role, in that it lets you persevere through the situation itself, but once the dust settles, it becomes time to forgive and forget. That is what emotionally strong people: they are not held back by the past and so they can continue to improve.
awesomeVision52
October 26th, 2016 10:12am
There loved ones makes a person emotionally strong. Positive attitude & the hope of getting better in life
PeacefulFlute74
June 29th, 2016 6:20pm
I think there are a lot of factors which play into that. Knowing who you are and what you value. Having loving and supportive people in your life. Being part of a nurturing community. And being able to express who you are and be accepted by society.
Samadhi5
September 22nd, 2016 7:13am
Strong-"not easily disturbed, upset or affected. Showing determination, self-control and good judgement". From what I've learned, be true to self. Love and accept yourself, before sharing that with others. That's the fundamentals of being "strong". And of course, my go-to is using the breath. Take advantage of the breath, it's there for a reason. So often we forget to use it, and it's such a simpler thing to do. When self is in some sort of distress, breath in peace and exhale release and let go of whatever doesn't serve you. Take. Care. Of. Self.
Anonymous
October 16th, 2016 5:24pm
When the person controls the emotions just before loosing the cool. It might be holding your anger, and letting go, it might be holding your cry when you are about to shed tears.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2016 10:24am
Being strong, deflecting life' slings and arrows, helping others and caring for themselves as well.
riv3rrr
April 25th, 2018 3:11pm
An emotionally strong person is not someone who never cries or never feels upset. An emotionally strong person accepts that they are upset, and finds a positive in the situation.
Demons3
April 4th, 2018 3:33am
Someone who is less discouraged by setbacks and disappointments, more adaptable to change, able to recognize and express their needs, focus on getting around a hurdle rather than on the hurdle itself, can learn from mistakes and criticism, tend to see the larger perspective in a challenging situation, are able to recover more quickly from emotional wounds such as failure or rejection.
Saraf
April 5th, 2018 4:46pm
Three things. 1. Not depending on others for one's own happiness and joy in life. 2. Having the ability to see one's own flow of thoughts and emotions and not getting too tangled up in either 3. Being able to forgive and move on.
AsmilePlease
July 11th, 2018 6:58am
One word answer: Understanding and acceptance. You gotta understand what is what, and see situation logically. And if logics don't fit into it, you need to accept what's going on rather than resisting it.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2020 6:57pm
A person who's emotionally strong doesn't let their feelings and emotions take over their thoughts and actions during a time where they could be struggling or stressed out. Someone who stays calm is emotionally strong. Another type of emotionally strong is being resilient and able to bounce back from any challenges and not letting it tear you down and take over. Another way to be emotionally strong is to be able to accept who we are, accept our life circumstances and know how to work with it to achieve more even though it's difficult. That's the definition of emotionally strong :)
Greatlistener87
- Expert in Managing Emotions
June 23rd, 2016 4:04am
Some people go through the emotions and come out strong knowing that they made it through and it did not kill them.
Y0LANDAH
June 29th, 2016 10:49am
Knowing that there's a time and season for things. When you're going through certain aspects in life you're growing and when it comes to pass (ends) you've harvested. You can never be in one position for a graduate amount of time without gaining nor learning something from it
SacredArtist
September 22nd, 2017 9:03pm
I think that what makes a person emotionally strong is the will to keep ON, to keep DOING, despite what is happening "outside" of ourselves. Not giving up doesn't have to look heroic... but it might still feel like picking up the globe and that's OK. Because you've done it. To be even stronger still is to learn from every emotional downfall and high. To find a discipline in a strategy for overcoming, moving forward, and still remaining true to the evolution of yourself that will, truly, always continue. To know that life is about its contrasts and that we must feel and weave in and around with purpose is already being a step ahead of the curve. You are your own powerhouse and the source of your own emotions and learning how to live in them and with them is not about avoiding them. We are strong when we embrace them and still never shut ourselves down and off. Emotions guide us. Knowing that is part of emotional strength.
Water224
January 6th, 2021 9:59pm
What make a person emotionally strong is that they are able to express their feelings in a calm manner and that they are able to talk openly about what is in their mind. Emotionally strong people are non judgemental and they know how to show empathy and sympathy in the right way. They are also able to connect to people more and relate to others by what they feel inside and they feel for other people. They can support and stand up for people. They can also look to the positive side of things and can spread happiness over the world.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2020 4:33pm
Being emotionally strong can mean many things. Sometimes it's having the ability to walk away from a situation even though it's hard because you know in the end that it will benefit you more. It could be making hard decisions, taking into consideration everything you know instead of guessing and hoping it works out well. Another one is being able to tell the difference between right and wrong. If you can see and understand that how you may be being treated is unacceptable and that something needs to be done about it, then that's a sign of being emotionally strong
Sunisshiningandsoareyou
March 27th, 2021 6:09am
I believe everyone may have different answers to what makes them emotionally strong, but personally I think that an emotionally strong person is someone who controls their emotions and actions and not the other way round . What helps is to not allow external factors, and people around us to impact our emotions, they are not us and they shouldn't get the right to dictate our feelings . So it's important to be in control of our emotions, not allow others ' actions determine our emotions and not let these get to us . It is not easy to prevent this , but it's needed we realise what's good for us and what is pulling us down . Another really great trait of an emotionally strong person, is that they don't keep things bottled up , they allow their feelings and emotions to flow , they accept those and take their time to let go and move on . So it's also important we have good relationships with people around us, and specially be kind to ourselves .
Anonymous
July 6th, 2016 6:50am
Those who are "strong" focus on their suffering and loss and "learn" from the experience in a positive manner.. However, without guidance and inspiration it is nearly impossible. Religion, whether you believe in a God or not, provides a lot of inspiration in this area to those with their minds open to instruction and wisdom. Meditation I've found to be the best way to control your emotions. Through meditation you get to know your mind and body. It depends, as each individual is unique. Sufferance. Hardships of life. Wisdom. Dramatic experiences. Faith. Hope. Belief in a better future. Insanity. Illness. Self preservation instinct.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2018 8:36pm
Someone who is resilient and doesn't give up when things get tough. It's a sign of strength when you pick others up no matter your own emotional state and even if they've hurt you at some point. A strong person won't envy or seek revenge or get jealous or try to take the easy path, strength is holding it together when everyone expects you to fall apart.
Candid0211
July 14th, 2016 6:50pm
Taking a stock of their feeling and understanding where they are stemming from and not let them guide your decision making process. is a way to be emotionally strong. How if you ask is simple, when you are feeling emotionally very vulnerable, the best idea is to give space to yourself. Physically remove yourself from the situation. If that is not poossible then slowly build up the resilience to emotion by deep breathing. Even one or two deep breaths can do wonders. and then think of a happy thought.
Anonymous
September 19th, 2019 2:59pm
A person becomes emotionally strong once he completely understand about his own character and try to reframe the situations with what way he feels comfortable. He should act instead of reacting to any situations. He tries to understand the base of every emotions. The origin for every emotions, rules and regulations. Once he gets to know the exact reason with touch with reality. He can able to understand it and act in a right way. human brain is still mysterious. These are the words which is valid upto which science understand human brain completely. Emotion is a part of human brain.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2018 2:24pm
The ability to power through even when all hope is lost, a resilience which is so rare to find nowadays. The ability to recognize fully and not lie to yourself and deal with your issues. When you are emotionally strong you can absorb everything that’s going wrong help others and be strong for people. When tough times come along you need emotional strength and perseverance to get you through. The strength is found in many different ways of coping in helping yourself managing and dealing.a stoic attitude is emotional strength tasking your pain and handling it yourself not overflowing your emotions on to others but using them to help others
Anonymous
February 17th, 2019 5:50am
For a huge part of my life, I was just sad and angry. The smallest things set me off. Even when I knew the things I was crying over or getting angry over were so silly, I couldn't control myself. I always felt vulnerable and had a lot of defenses. And then there came a turning point in my life and it was life changing and painful and heart breaking. For two years I kept mainly to myself and explored the depths of my soul and by the time, I had to step in to the world again, something had changed in me. I had recognized my shortcomings, mistakes and weaknesses. I accepted myself, tried to overcome some shit and ofcourse it's not easy to make everything right. I ended up making peace with who I was as a whole, faults and all. Now I feel grounded. I still breakdown sometimes but I know that I can get over most things in life. I have become open minded, understanding and empathetic. So I feel a person who is emotionally strong loves themselves and has the ability to accept others the way they are.
Iden
December 30th, 2018 2:37am
Emotional strength is a very individualistized characteristic. For some people, emotional strength is being able to identify and process their emotions and figure out what their feelings are telling them. For others, emotional strength is not letting their emotions overwhelm them or prevent them from doing things. To me, emotional strength means allowing yourself to feel your emotions and experience them instead of invalidating your feelings or trying to diminish them. When I worked on being emotionally strong, I also worked on allowing myself to reach out for help when I was overwhelmed, and worked on having the emotional intelligence to know when my feelings were becoming too much for me to handle alone, and when to back away from an emotional situation or conversation. Emotional strength is, in a way, about self-care and figuring out how to best care for you when you are experiencing powerful emotions.