What makes a person emotionally strong?

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blissfulMango45
August 25th, 2016 10:18am
A person can be emotionally strong, by not letting others effect there emotional well being. Other peoples negative opinions of you shouldn't let you see yourself differently when you look in the mirror. You are you, we are all individually different but that's what makes you even more special! Best wishes :)
adoredIcicle46
June 25th, 2016 12:30am
A person who is emotionally strong is one who doesn't let a person get to their emotions and make them sad or angry and can be calm and control their emotions during a stressful time or situation.
Fraz
September 14th, 2016 9:10am
The ability to look at things objectively without being influenced by emotions or impulsiveness while still being able to express their individuality and feelings freely.
drayofLight
June 24th, 2016 10:29am
Awesome question! I believe it can be different for each person and depends on what you see as strength. Some see strength as ability to weather hardships. We each might handle them differently. For me, I find strength in accepting I am human and bound to make mistakes and learn from them. Accepting we might have a bad day once in a while and forgiving ourselves when we goof up helps me to. I think it is something you kind of learn over time and with experience and is gonna be based on your perception of strength. What do feel is considered being emotionally strong?
PeacefulFlute74
June 29th, 2016 6:20pm
I think there are a lot of factors which play into that. Knowing who you are and what you value. Having loving and supportive people in your life. Being part of a nurturing community. And being able to express who you are and be accepted by society.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2016 10:24am
Being strong, deflecting life' slings and arrows, helping others and caring for themselves as well.
CastleQueen8
August 31st, 2016 6:13am
Being able to admit that they cry, that they hurt. To have a total breakdown. To be at the very end of their rope. Then, to fight back and take control over their life and their happiness. To be broken and to still be willing to take on anything.
Anonymous
October 16th, 2016 5:24pm
When the person controls the emotions just before loosing the cool. It might be holding your anger, and letting go, it might be holding your cry when you are about to shed tears.
Y0LANDAH
June 29th, 2016 10:49am
Knowing that there's a time and season for things. When you're going through certain aspects in life you're growing and when it comes to pass (ends) you've harvested. You can never be in one position for a graduate amount of time without gaining nor learning something from it
Anonymous
September 17th, 2016 8:07pm
A person gets emotionally strong if he or she is willing to face the difficulties of life without giving in to them.
awesomeVision52
October 26th, 2016 10:12am
There loved ones makes a person emotionally strong. Positive attitude & the hope of getting better in life
marvelousBlossom86
March 24th, 2017 7:13am
It is many things, but most of all, it is the ability to move on. Grit plays a role, in that it lets you persevere through the situation itself, but once the dust settles, it becomes time to forgive and forget. That is what emotionally strong people: they are not held back by the past and so they can continue to improve.
Greatlistener87
June 23rd, 2016 4:04am
Some people go through the emotions and come out strong knowing that they made it through and it did not kill them.
Samadhi5
September 22nd, 2016 7:13am
Strong-"not easily disturbed, upset or affected. Showing determination, self-control and good judgement". From what I've learned, be true to self. Love and accept yourself, before sharing that with others. That's the fundamentals of being "strong". And of course, my go-to is using the breath. Take advantage of the breath, it's there for a reason. So often we forget to use it, and it's such a simpler thing to do. When self is in some sort of distress, breath in peace and exhale release and let go of whatever doesn't serve you. Take. Care. Of. Self.
SacredArtist
September 22nd, 2017 9:03pm
I think that what makes a person emotionally strong is the will to keep ON, to keep DOING, despite what is happening "outside" of ourselves. Not giving up doesn't have to look heroic... but it might still feel like picking up the globe and that's OK. Because you've done it. To be even stronger still is to learn from every emotional downfall and high. To find a discipline in a strategy for overcoming, moving forward, and still remaining true to the evolution of yourself that will, truly, always continue. To know that life is about its contrasts and that we must feel and weave in and around with purpose is already being a step ahead of the curve. You are your own powerhouse and the source of your own emotions and learning how to live in them and with them is not about avoiding them. We are strong when we embrace them and still never shut ourselves down and off. Emotions guide us. Knowing that is part of emotional strength.
Demons3
April 4th, 2018 3:33am
Someone who is less discouraged by setbacks and disappointments, more adaptable to change, able to recognize and express their needs, focus on getting around a hurdle rather than on the hurdle itself, can learn from mistakes and criticism, tend to see the larger perspective in a challenging situation, are able to recover more quickly from emotional wounds such as failure or rejection.
Saraf
April 5th, 2018 4:46pm
Three things. 1. Not depending on others for one's own happiness and joy in life. 2. Having the ability to see one's own flow of thoughts and emotions and not getting too tangled up in either 3. Being able to forgive and move on.
nataliejuliet
April 25th, 2018 3:11pm
An emotionally strong person is not someone who never cries or never feels upset. An emotionally strong person accepts that they are upset, and finds a positive in the situation.
AsmilePlease
July 11th, 2018 6:58am
One word answer: Understanding and acceptance. You gotta understand what is what, and see situation logically. And if logics don't fit into it, you need to accept what's going on rather than resisting it.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2018 8:36pm
Someone who is resilient and doesn't give up when things get tough. It's a sign of strength when you pick others up no matter your own emotional state and even if they've hurt you at some point. A strong person won't envy or seek revenge or get jealous or try to take the easy path, strength is holding it together when everyone expects you to fall apart.
Oisin3
November 17th, 2018 2:24pm
The ability to power through even when all hope is lost, a resilience which is so rare to find nowadays. The ability to recognize fully and not lie to yourself and deal with your issues. When you are emotionally strong you can absorb everything that’s going wrong help others and be strong for people. When tough times come along you need emotional strength and perseverance to get you through. The strength is found in many different ways of coping in helping yourself managing and dealing.a stoic attitude is emotional strength tasking your pain and handling it yourself not overflowing your emotions on to others but using them to help others
listener1216
June 26th, 2016 12:16pm
Knowing that eventually "emotions" do pass.. That doesn't mean you ignore their value. Do come to accept and understand them, while knowing that they will pass, just like various seasons of nature.
wishfulEnergy42
July 3rd, 2016 1:45am
Being emotionally strong means you are able to identify how you feel. You know what to avoid that makes you uncomfortable, so you walk away safe and sound!
Anonymous
July 6th, 2016 6:50am
Those who are "strong" focus on their suffering and loss and "learn" from the experience in a positive manner.. However, without guidance and inspiration it is nearly impossible. Religion, whether you believe in a God or not, provides a lot of inspiration in this area to those with their minds open to instruction and wisdom. Meditation I've found to be the best way to control your emotions. Through meditation you get to know your mind and body. It depends, as each individual is unique. Sufferance. Hardships of life. Wisdom. Dramatic experiences. Faith. Hope. Belief in a better future. Insanity. Illness. Self preservation instinct.
Armanta
July 9th, 2016 11:19pm
most of the time emotional strength comes hand in hand with experience and being able to deal with situations, it is something that takes much time to strengthen and varies from person to person, but it can be achieved with practice and strong mental will power.
Peaceful1234
July 14th, 2016 1:43am
Oftentimes, it is adversity which makes a person resilient. A balanced mindset is a big part of this too. Choosing to surround ourselves with warm, strong people that we admire always helps, because we become like the people we surround ourselves with.
Candid0211
July 14th, 2016 6:50pm
Taking a stock of their feeling and understanding where they are stemming from and not let them guide your decision making process. is a way to be emotionally strong. How if you ask is simple, when you are feeling emotionally very vulnerable, the best idea is to give space to yourself. Physically remove yourself from the situation. If that is not poossible then slowly build up the resilience to emotion by deep breathing. Even one or two deep breaths can do wonders. and then think of a happy thought.
endearingLove14
July 16th, 2016 6:39am
Experiencing things that can really break you, and wanting not to break, no matter what. Your will gives you strength and that makes you emotionally strong. But you really need to believe and know that you don't want to break
Anonymous
July 20th, 2016 7:06am
I think what makes someone emotionally strong is adversity. The things they have faced in life and being able to handle criticism.
mkehelper
July 23rd, 2016 12:05am
The strength to keep trying after a failure, loss, or setback is what makes someone strong. It's not whether you fall, it's whether you get back up.