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What makes a person emotionally strong?

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What makes a person emotionally strong?
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Comfortzone1067
December 18th, 2019 2:20am
It is mainly a person's ability to deal with challenges and bounce back from them, not how they respond in any given moment. Strong people will do what they say they will do. Emotionally strong people manage the stresses of daily life more effectively, and recover more quickly from challenges and crises when they arise. are less discouraged by setbacks and disappointments. are more adaptable to change. are able to recognize and express their needs. focus on getting around a hurdle rather than on the hurdle itself. can learn from mistakes and criticism. tend to see the larger perspective in a challenging situation. are able to recover more quickly from emotional wounds such as failure or rejection.
RiseUp2020
May 15th, 2018 4:13pm
3 Things have made me emotionally strong and I have seen them work well in some of my friends too. 1. Regularly working out. It ensures that no matter how things are going, you are feeling good some of the time and caring for your body. Also, caring for the body enables you to care for your emotions so much better. 2. Meditation. Practicing meditation for 6 months though challenging at times, has taught me the skill of watching my emotions and thoughts go by without getting so caught up in them. It helps you approach life from a much more grounded perspective. 3. A good night's sleep. This might be the most important one. A good night's sleep flushes out all of the excess chemicals from your body and brain and gives you a fresh start to the day. Performing just one of these as a regular habit can really help you step up your emotional game and be even more emotionally strong. I hope that helps!
Anonymous
November 24th, 2019 11:05pm
A lot of people like to say that going through trauma and hard stuff is what makes someone (emotionally) strong. However, I disagree with that common idea. Trauma makes you traumatized. What makes someone emotionally strong is how they have learned to deal with their emotions. For instance, not being submerged by them is a good sign. Some therapists and psychologists like to talk about "emotional intelligence", which is definitely a interesting subject. What it is, basically, is the capacity to be aware of and controlling one's emotions, also how to express them correctly. I think you do learn from trauma and tough times, but it's how you get in control afterwards that makes you a emotionally strong person.
considerateBeauty73
November 17th, 2019 6:49am
A person is able to come form all life backgrounds and come out emotionally strong, what it means is to be able to handle things in a sense that is helpful to yourself, and those around you. People in this society tend to cover up their feelings, but realistically that’s only harming yourself. Therefore to be emotionally strong is to be the best you can be and express those feelings in a positive way even if the situation is negative and has impacted you negatively. It is okay to not be okay at all times, but in order to come out on top the best thing to do is try, and talk to somebody or reach out for help. A lot of people tend to go through similar situations and one long that you’re not alone is helpful in this community. Therefore, being emotionally strong is being able to cope and handle things and ask for help when needed.
Sedtzl1
October 25th, 2019 5:21pm
Resilience and a suitcase full of lots of options for self care. A reliable support system is key. Community involvement is also beneficial. A set routine is also shown to be beneficial to resiliency. If a person has multiple safe avenues of self expression I believe they have emotional strength. Exercise is also a valuable outlet for emotional strength. Art is an invaluable tool for self expression. Social groups as well contribute to a person’s emotional well being. Some people find great resiliency by using alone time to recoup and heal their emotional and spiritual energy. Love is also integral. Purpose and self worthiness all contribute to emotional strength.
GlowingAngelfish111
September 26th, 2019 10:05am
Hm... good questions. Some people seem to be naturally strong. In my opinion, emotionally strong people are usually really empathetic towards others and themselves. And the “themselves” is very important in that case. They came to a good understanding of their feelings and emotions. They consider these are natural and don’t need to be repressed... though it’s more in the way they are expressed that they show their maturity. Emotional maturity brings emotional strength: acknowledging our own feelings and expressing them in a sane way so it doesn’t affect others in a problematic way. Emotions emerge naturally and flow. It’s important to be considerate of ourselves why they happen. We can’t really and shouldn’t try to turn them off. But we can control how we communicate them as best as we can. In the end we’re only humans
Anonymous
September 11th, 2019 3:21am
There's a popular quote saying: "Remember why you started". Often times, when we are under pressure, we cannot think straight and hence, we become overwhelmed with the simplest things. I got in a new program after completing University. I basically never took a break from school since elementary. I happen to be in one of the most stressful programs at my school and although, I was starting the semester pretty well last fall 2018, my depression kicked in and I started failing every exam. At the end of the semester, I ended up failing my final oral and in this intensive program, if you fail either the theory portion or the oral component, you fail the overall course automatically, even if your overall grade is a passing grade. I spent the last 8 months out of school trying not to feel like a failure. I traveled, worked out regularly, spent time with my friends, family, and most especially, I spent time with myself and this semester, I started school again with a much more positive mindset. All to say that, we all have bad days, we all have daily struggles, but it's how you deal with those situations. Also when you are faced with a situation, think of how you will deal with it. Often times, changing the way we look at a situation can have a positive impact on our overall mental state.
DragonView2
August 31st, 2019 11:00pm
1) Knowing their boundaries, and respecting one's and other people's boundaries. 2) Knowing or learning how to self-soothe. 3) Knowing or learning how to get into helpful thinking patterns. 4) Knowing or learning how to ask oneself the right questions. 5) Focusing on compassion, but not so much that reason, facts and justice are abandoned. 6) Respecting own emotions and those of others. 7) Practicing emotional management often. 8) Having an internal and external self care plan or strategy for when things go poorly and applying it. 9) Getting help when needed, even professional help. 10) Not blaming others for our lack of control over our emotions. 11) Not trying to punish others for triggering our emotions, much less when they did it by accident. 12) Not punishing others for expressing their emotions politely.
Hanaa00
July 11th, 2019 9:23pm
There are, of course, many things that can make a person emotionally strong, but, in my opinion, it is the ability to pick ourselves up after a downfall in life. In my personal experience, it was getting tons of college rejection letters. Yikes. Had my whole future planned and it was crushed so instantly, followed with a breakup. But I knew I needed to overcome that situation and those feelings eventually, in order to grow as a person and be able to be happy again. I didn’t think of how I was unhappy at the time, I thought of how I wanted to be happy again, and I needed to start picking myself up again, in order to be on the right path of achieving that goal. Still working on it❤️💪🏻
Anonymous
May 25th, 2019 6:41pm
Though however cliched this answer might sound but this is my personal experience :P PAIN makes a person emotionally strong , be it physical pain or emotional ! Pain is not only a great teacher , motivator but also a friend (of sorts) we always get to learn something new out of pain we receive, just to avoid the same pain in future . But it does not end , it keeps coming back and we keep learning from it just to keep it as far away from us as possible . When you have been broken enough times , by enough people, in enough ways - you make that your strength ! and that's how you grow Strong Emotionally :) Life is hard agreed , but it has it's moments too, so let's cherish the good and keep learning from the pain ! Lastly keep smiling because you are more brave than you think :D !
Anonymous
May 10th, 2019 3:46am
The are in touch with there emotions and can find ways to help them selves calm down. When someone is overwhelmed they can realize before they are panicked. When someone realizes they’re getting stressed they find helpful ways that calm their selves down. Someone who is in touched with there emotions don’t blow up easily or get irritated easily at other people. Before someone will yell or have unhealthy emotions they realize it and will notice they need a break. Someone emotionally strong knows ways that they can calm down. Someone who’s emotionally strong knows a way they can take a break to calm themselves down.
Anonymous
March 21st, 2019 8:34am
I believe that what makes a person emotionally strong is their ability to persist. Think of yourself as a flame, one that flickers and dies down but continues to burn nonetheless; sure, at times you may ebb to a light so dim you're unsure as to whether the fire is still going, and it may make you think lesser of yourself... but you'll come back. The quality of resilience is something that many find admirable, and it's not without reason. There will be times when you feel as though the world is trying to snuff out your light, but if you persist you'll find that there's more. That's what I think makes a person emotionally strong. It's human to come to a standstill, but it's also human to trudge onwards.
gracefulKitty32
March 15th, 2019 2:59am
Experiences are what makes a person emotionally strong. You can't be emotionally strong if you've never gone through a tough experience. Experiences are what shape our lives and how we choose to live them as humans. When you go through hard times, you often come out the other side stronger. Whether physically or emotionally or otherwise. Defining what makes a person emotionally strong isn't a science. Different people can be emotionally strong in different ways. What is extremely painful for one person might be an average day for another. What's important is to know everyone is going through something, so treat everyone with kindness.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2019 12:17am
It all depends on what being emotionally strong means to you. From a life coach perspective, I would say a person is emotionally strong when they are balanced in their life. They are able to support others while maintaining their own emotional health. They are the person you can count on when you need them, but they also know their own boundaries and can say no without feeling guilt. Another sign is knowing how to empathize with others without losing your own self in their troubles. You feel for them while understanding that you are not responsible for their problems, only for supporting them through the problems.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2019 5:50am
For a huge part of my life, I was just sad and angry. The smallest things set me off. Even when I knew the things I was crying over or getting angry over were so silly, I couldn't control myself. I always felt vulnerable and had a lot of defenses. And then there came a turning point in my life and it was life changing and painful and heart breaking. For two years I kept mainly to myself and explored the depths of my soul and by the time, I had to step in to the world again, something had changed in me. I had recognized my shortcomings, mistakes and weaknesses. I accepted myself, tried to overcome some shit and ofcourse it's not easy to make everything right. I ended up making peace with who I was as a whole, faults and all. Now I feel grounded. I still breakdown sometimes but I know that I can get over most things in life. I have become open minded, understanding and empathetic. So I feel a person who is emotionally strong loves themselves and has the ability to accept others the way they are.
Iden
December 30th, 2018 2:37am
Emotional strength is a very individualistized characteristic. For some people, emotional strength is being able to identify and process their emotions and figure out what their feelings are telling them. For others, emotional strength is not letting their emotions overwhelm them or prevent them from doing things. To me, emotional strength means allowing yourself to feel your emotions and experience them instead of invalidating your feelings or trying to diminish them. When I worked on being emotionally strong, I also worked on allowing myself to reach out for help when I was overwhelmed, and worked on having the emotional intelligence to know when my feelings were becoming too much for me to handle alone, and when to back away from an emotional situation or conversation. Emotional strength is, in a way, about self-care and figuring out how to best care for you when you are experiencing powerful emotions.
Anonymous
December 5th, 2018 7:09am
This is a very tough question. As there is no right or wrong answer. Emotionally strong could be someone who takes care of their mental health. It could also be someone who is immensely happy. There are so many definitions to this. A person may be emotionally strong because they journal all their thoughts and feelings. They may care greatly about themselves. They may take charge of their health. An emotionally strong person may be someone who cares for other people while caring for themselves. They may live for themselves. They may go above and beyond to fine their happiness
niceMonkey80
November 25th, 2018 11:45am
A person who is emotionally strong isn’t necessarily someone who never cries and keeps their emotions within. It’s someone who acknowledges all their pain and emotion and deals with it, whether they need to rant about it and tell someone or if they need to cry and break down a little bit. Either way, they’re acknowledging their struggles and they’re coping with it, which is extremely brave and they must be incredibly emotionally strong to be accepting their pain, welcoming it so they can deal with it and overcome it so they get to a point where they no longer feel the pain.
TaylorLeigh
November 3rd, 2018 11:09am
An emotionally strong person has gone through many hardships and has learned how to(somewhat) navigate their feelings. Almost like you teach yourself how to deal with them & keep them in your grasp. Going through hardships, physical & mental illnesses, family tragedies; even the loss of someone. It’s not so much that people are emotionally strong, it’s just more about learning how to somewhat control them. I’m not saying it’s always going to work, but any step in a direction you WANT to go towards is an amazing one. Have faith in yourself & never give up on finding that self love.
JuliaK073
June 24th, 2018 9:44am
I think what makes you really strong emotionally - courage, acceptance, and a larger perspective on the challenging situation.
MagnanimousSymphony
July 8th, 2018 3:48am
To me, someone who is emotionally strong is able to handle situations without letting their emotions get the better of them. Also someone who can identify how they're feeling and why they're feeling this way.
ElaineSaysHello
July 5th, 2018 5:14am
Someone who is tolerable/has a certain level of resilience to negative experience that could otherwise traumatize others makes one "emotionally strong." Or, someone who has healthy coping mechanisms to negative situations.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2018 9:15am
Being positive! Unfortunately this isn't easy but with the right attitude, support and food (ice cream), this keeps you emotionally strong
2AmTherapist
June 27th, 2018 2:53am
Their past, how they grew up, and just basically the type of person they are. I personally believe I am an emotionally strong person, but I had a not so great childhood. If someone else had my past, they could become an emotional wreck or be strong like how I am
Anonymous
June 24th, 2018 9:08pm
Resilience. Being a emotionally strong comes from going through rough patches, these rough patches seem to be awful things (and they are at times) but they build resilience in people.
Rellen2013
June 24th, 2018 4:34pm
a good balance of family support, friends, positive spiritual belief system, enjoyable hobbies and interests, a working place that feels safe and is tolerable, and a strong inner belief system
YourPersonalUnicorn
May 19th, 2018 12:57pm
To me, it's the ability to acknowledge that negative emotions and events happen (together with good ones). When you learn to work through them and not hide, you become stronger.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2018 12:28pm
Going through good and bad times and continuing on. Understanding and believing that bad times don't last forever, life is on a merry go round.
CreativListener
June 13th, 2018 12:03am
Resiliency is what makes us emotionally strong. Taking care of ourselves physically and emotionally by practicing good eating, sleeping, and exercising habits while also building good relationships can build up our strength to handle difficult situations.
Anonymous
July 28th, 2022 2:51pm
An emotionally strong person is someone who is able to deal with things intelligently, especially when faced with challenges in life. They are able to accept things as they are, and are not discouraged by the hardships of life. Someone who is emotionally strong can also easily adapt to change and is able to set boundaries when needed. They have strong values, a solid sense of identity, are self-confident and independent. They also don't waste their time trying to manipulate, control or be possessive of anyone. They live in the present, and aren't afraid of being alone, but know how to deal with others diplomatically.