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What makes a person emotionally strong?

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What makes a person emotionally strong?
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Anonymous
December 5th, 2018 7:09am
This is a very tough question. As there is no right or wrong answer. Emotionally strong could be someone who takes care of their mental health. It could also be someone who is immensely happy. There are so many definitions to this. A person may be emotionally strong because they journal all their thoughts and feelings. They may care greatly about themselves. They may take charge of their health. An emotionally strong person may be someone who cares for other people while caring for themselves. They may live for themselves. They may go above and beyond to fine their happiness
Iden
December 30th, 2018 2:37am
Emotional strength is a very individualistized characteristic. For some people, emotional strength is being able to identify and process their emotions and figure out what their feelings are telling them. For others, emotional strength is not letting their emotions overwhelm them or prevent them from doing things. To me, emotional strength means allowing yourself to feel your emotions and experience them instead of invalidating your feelings or trying to diminish them. When I worked on being emotionally strong, I also worked on allowing myself to reach out for help when I was overwhelmed, and worked on having the emotional intelligence to know when my feelings were becoming too much for me to handle alone, and when to back away from an emotional situation or conversation. Emotional strength is, in a way, about self-care and figuring out how to best care for you when you are experiencing powerful emotions.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2019 5:50am
For a huge part of my life, I was just sad and angry. The smallest things set me off. Even when I knew the things I was crying over or getting angry over were so silly, I couldn't control myself. I always felt vulnerable and had a lot of defenses. And then there came a turning point in my life and it was life changing and painful and heart breaking. For two years I kept mainly to myself and explored the depths of my soul and by the time, I had to step in to the world again, something had changed in me. I had recognized my shortcomings, mistakes and weaknesses. I accepted myself, tried to overcome some shit and ofcourse it's not easy to make everything right. I ended up making peace with who I was as a whole, faults and all. Now I feel grounded. I still breakdown sometimes but I know that I can get over most things in life. I have become open minded, understanding and empathetic. So I feel a person who is emotionally strong loves themselves and has the ability to accept others the way they are.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2019 12:17am
It all depends on what being emotionally strong means to you. From a life coach perspective, I would say a person is emotionally strong when they are balanced in their life. They are able to support others while maintaining their own emotional health. They are the person you can count on when you need them, but they also know their own boundaries and can say no without feeling guilt. Another sign is knowing how to empathize with others without losing your own self in their troubles. You feel for them while understanding that you are not responsible for their problems, only for supporting them through the problems.
gracefulKitty32
March 15th, 2019 2:59am
Experiences are what makes a person emotionally strong. You can't be emotionally strong if you've never gone through a tough experience. Experiences are what shape our lives and how we choose to live them as humans. When you go through hard times, you often come out the other side stronger. Whether physically or emotionally or otherwise. Defining what makes a person emotionally strong isn't a science. Different people can be emotionally strong in different ways. What is extremely painful for one person might be an average day for another. What's important is to know everyone is going through something, so treat everyone with kindness.
Anonymous
March 21st, 2019 8:34am
I believe that what makes a person emotionally strong is their ability to persist. Think of yourself as a flame, one that flickers and dies down but continues to burn nonetheless; sure, at times you may ebb to a light so dim you're unsure as to whether the fire is still going, and it may make you think lesser of yourself... but you'll come back. The quality of resilience is something that many find admirable, and it's not without reason. There will be times when you feel as though the world is trying to snuff out your light, but if you persist you'll find that there's more. That's what I think makes a person emotionally strong. It's human to come to a standstill, but it's also human to trudge onwards.
Anonymous
May 10th, 2019 3:46am
The are in touch with there emotions and can find ways to help them selves calm down. When someone is overwhelmed they can realize before they are panicked. When someone realizes they’re getting stressed they find helpful ways that calm their selves down. Someone who is in touched with there emotions don’t blow up easily or get irritated easily at other people. Before someone will yell or have unhealthy emotions they realize it and will notice they need a break. Someone emotionally strong knows ways that they can calm down. Someone who’s emotionally strong knows a way they can take a break to calm themselves down.
Anonymous
May 25th, 2019 6:41pm
Though however cliched this answer might sound but this is my personal experience :P PAIN makes a person emotionally strong , be it physical pain or emotional ! Pain is not only a great teacher , motivator but also a friend (of sorts) we always get to learn something new out of pain we receive, just to avoid the same pain in future . But it does not end , it keeps coming back and we keep learning from it just to keep it as far away from us as possible . When you have been broken enough times , by enough people, in enough ways - you make that your strength ! and that's how you grow Strong Emotionally :) Life is hard agreed , but it has it's moments too, so let's cherish the good and keep learning from the pain ! Lastly keep smiling because you are more brave than you think :D !
Hanaa00
July 11th, 2019 9:23pm
There are, of course, many things that can make a person emotionally strong, but, in my opinion, it is the ability to pick ourselves up after a downfall in life. In my personal experience, it was getting tons of college rejection letters. Yikes. Had my whole future planned and it was crushed so instantly, followed with a breakup. But I knew I needed to overcome that situation and those feelings eventually, in order to grow as a person and be able to be happy again. I didn’t think of how I was unhappy at the time, I thought of how I wanted to be happy again, and I needed to start picking myself up again, in order to be on the right path of achieving that goal. Still working on it❤️💪🏻
DragonView2
August 31st, 2019 11:00pm
1) Knowing their boundaries, and respecting one's and other people's boundaries. 2) Knowing or learning how to self-soothe. 3) Knowing or learning how to get into helpful thinking patterns. 4) Knowing or learning how to ask oneself the right questions. 5) Focusing on compassion, but not so much that reason, facts and justice are abandoned. 6) Respecting own emotions and those of others. 7) Practicing emotional management often. 8) Having an internal and external self care plan or strategy for when things go poorly and applying it. 9) Getting help when needed, even professional help. 10) Not blaming others for our lack of control over our emotions. 11) Not trying to punish others for triggering our emotions, much less when they did it by accident. 12) Not punishing others for expressing their emotions politely.
Anonymous
September 11th, 2019 3:21am
There's a popular quote saying: "Remember why you started". Often times, when we are under pressure, we cannot think straight and hence, we become overwhelmed with the simplest things. I got in a new program after completing University. I basically never took a break from school since elementary. I happen to be in one of the most stressful programs at my school and although, I was starting the semester pretty well last fall 2018, my depression kicked in and I started failing every exam. At the end of the semester, I ended up failing my final oral and in this intensive program, if you fail either the theory portion or the oral component, you fail the overall course automatically, even if your overall grade is a passing grade. I spent the last 8 months out of school trying not to feel like a failure. I traveled, worked out regularly, spent time with my friends, family, and most especially, I spent time with myself and this semester, I started school again with a much more positive mindset. All to say that, we all have bad days, we all have daily struggles, but it's how you deal with those situations. Also when you are faced with a situation, think of how you will deal with it. Often times, changing the way we look at a situation can have a positive impact on our overall mental state.
GlowingAngelfish111
September 26th, 2019 10:05am
Hm... good questions. Some people seem to be naturally strong. In my opinion, emotionally strong people are usually really empathetic towards others and themselves. And the “themselves” is very important in that case. They came to a good understanding of their feelings and emotions. They consider these are natural and don’t need to be repressed... though it’s more in the way they are expressed that they show their maturity. Emotional maturity brings emotional strength: acknowledging our own feelings and expressing them in a sane way so it doesn’t affect others in a problematic way. Emotions emerge naturally and flow. It’s important to be considerate of ourselves why they happen. We can’t really and shouldn’t try to turn them off. But we can control how we communicate them as best as we can. In the end we’re only humans
Sedtzl1
October 25th, 2019 5:21pm
Resilience and a suitcase full of lots of options for self care. A reliable support system is key. Community involvement is also beneficial. A set routine is also shown to be beneficial to resiliency. If a person has multiple safe avenues of self expression I believe they have emotional strength. Exercise is also a valuable outlet for emotional strength. Art is an invaluable tool for self expression. Social groups as well contribute to a person’s emotional well being. Some people find great resiliency by using alone time to recoup and heal their emotional and spiritual energy. Love is also integral. Purpose and self worthiness all contribute to emotional strength.
considerateBeauty73
November 17th, 2019 6:49am
A person is able to come form all life backgrounds and come out emotionally strong, what it means is to be able to handle things in a sense that is helpful to yourself, and those around you. People in this society tend to cover up their feelings, but realistically that’s only harming yourself. Therefore to be emotionally strong is to be the best you can be and express those feelings in a positive way even if the situation is negative and has impacted you negatively. It is okay to not be okay at all times, but in order to come out on top the best thing to do is try, and talk to somebody or reach out for help. A lot of people tend to go through similar situations and one long that you’re not alone is helpful in this community. Therefore, being emotionally strong is being able to cope and handle things and ask for help when needed.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2019 11:05pm
A lot of people like to say that going through trauma and hard stuff is what makes someone (emotionally) strong. However, I disagree with that common idea. Trauma makes you traumatized. What makes someone emotionally strong is how they have learned to deal with their emotions. For instance, not being submerged by them is a good sign. Some therapists and psychologists like to talk about "emotional intelligence", which is definitely a interesting subject. What it is, basically, is the capacity to be aware of and controlling one's emotions, also how to express them correctly. I think you do learn from trauma and tough times, but it's how you get in control afterwards that makes you a emotionally strong person.
Comfortzone1067
December 18th, 2019 2:20am
It is mainly a person's ability to deal with challenges and bounce back from them, not how they respond in any given moment. Strong people will do what they say they will do. Emotionally strong people manage the stresses of daily life more effectively, and recover more quickly from challenges and crises when they arise. are less discouraged by setbacks and disappointments. are more adaptable to change. are able to recognize and express their needs. focus on getting around a hurdle rather than on the hurdle itself. can learn from mistakes and criticism. tend to see the larger perspective in a challenging situation. are able to recover more quickly from emotional wounds such as failure or rejection.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2021 6:48pm
A person that is emotionally strong can be describe as a person that is secure of its own decisions and feelings. This type of person gives themselves the opportunity to feel, make mistakes, learn, discover themselves and most importantly loves themselves. Emotionally strong can also be someone that reflects on their own decisions, mistakes and strengths. If we can reflect the way we continue to go on with our lives, it becomes easier to accept ourselves and become emotionally strong. Someone emotionally strong also has a strong mentality and continues to learn on a daily basis. Emotionally strong requires to stay active and contribute to our own lives by doing small acting changes.
mellowmushroom0413
June 30th, 2021 8:10pm
i personally think that emotional strength consists of the following: 1) being able to self-assure and validate your own emotions. acknowledging them and not minimizing them is huge 2) being able to fully feel them and likewise, address them. not fighting what you feel, really allowing yourself to feel them, and then taking a step back to ask yourself where they came from, etc 4) not letting your emotions overly-dictate your actions. gaining control over your reactivity. Being able to step away from a conversation or situation and come back to it when you're calm is also an indication.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2021 2:51am
Emotionally strong is someone who is like you. You’re currently asking for help or coming to let someone listen to you. It’s the best thing that you can do is to ask for someone listen to you. That makes you strong as a human being. But crying makes you strong as well. Even the strongest people in the world cry and it’s important that you do. It makes you emotionally strong to express what’s wrong. And try to find solutions to what is wrong and have someone listen to you. It makes things incredibly better but it makes you better in the end of the situation
hopefulArrow2212
June 11th, 2021 7:55pm
A person can be emotionally strong when they accept, acknowledge, and take the time to manage their emotions whenever they are going through tough times. It has been ingrained into many of us that being "strong" and ignoring our emotions while continuing on with our daily responsibilities in life is the right way, but really it is just repressing our emotions and feelings further and that is not healthy as we will eventually reach a breaking point. Manging our emotions can be done by ourselves if we have the necessary knowledge to help ourselves, but sometimes we need to have the courage to seek help from others, whether be it professional help or just someone that we can trust to give us an unbiased opinion. Sometimes it's not even advice we need but the physical comforting presence of someone we are close to. To be strong is to be able to admit that at times we are feeling vulnerable and be in the present moment, and eventually, the bad times will pass.
Anonymous
April 29th, 2021 7:11pm
I think the idea of being emotionally strong is dependent on how much pressure your 'bottle' can take before it becomes full and explodes. Everyone has different sized bottles, some only have small bottles which can become full from the most minor situations. Some have bottles that are so large, that they will never really explode. We can increase the size of our bottle through self-awareness, understanding, acceptance and education. Or we can decrease the size of our bottle through not being kind/taking care of ourselves. Regardless of how 'emotionally strong' someone may seem however, not everyone expresses emotions in the same way and what you see on the surface, may not be the same as what is going on beneath.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2021 3:49pm
I believe what makes a person emotionally strong is that they had have tough experiences in their life. They had to have gone through the good, bad, and the ugly in their lives to see what is best for them. Sometimes experiences are ugly, but experiences is what shapes us. We typically learn from our mistakes. Sometimes maybe not the first time around, but life is about trial and error. You have to take risks in order to find what you are desired for in this lifetime. Life is only what you make of it. Don't let anyone stop you.
Jesselistens2294
April 18th, 2021 11:39pm
A person who's emotionally strong doesn't let their feelings and emotions take over their thoughts and actions during a time where they could be struggling or stressed out. ... Another type of emotionally strong is being resilient and able to bounce back from any challenges and not letting it tear you down and take over....i hope this helps! Use positive self-talk to build your mental and emotional strength. Positive daily affirmations can help you develop your mental and emotional strength. Take a few moments every day to look at yourself in the mirror and say something encouraging to yourself.
miraculousForever7367
March 21st, 2021 8:31pm
Trust and faith on energies. These both together create a positive energy and send the signals to universe which in return sets positive plans for us.. Thus, nothing is impossible as we have faith.. Then comes the trust on oneself as we have come so far and will achieve what we want to... Talking to people and putting out things creatively puts out the emotions of a person thus, helping to stability inside and lead a positive Life...
niceVision4145
March 17th, 2021 4:26pm
Clarify about self and surroundings makes one emotionally strong. Sometimes we have to accept things as they occur and be realistic about everything that goes on within us and outside of us. Any loss in our lives is a also part of life which we need to accept. Accepting things the way it is makes us emotionally resilient. We all need to be positive and learn to see the brighter side of any issue. We all need to be optimistic which gives us the confidence that we can build in ourselves. Each of us has the potential to be strong and confident if we stay positive.
Anonymous
March 18th, 2021 1:40am
To make a person emotionally strong is to know that you are okay, it can be challenging, what you feel is okay and seeking help when you need it does not make you weak. Seeking help helps to establish you now that you want to feel better and you know that getting help is not a sign that makes you weak it makes you strong and help to relieve your stress. An emotionally strong person also sets and knows their own boundaries when it comes to certain things and have found ways to healthily cope with their situations.
Makinzie
March 19th, 2021 4:24pm
What makes someone strong is to be able to open up, and not put up a front. It takes a lot of strength to talk about how you truly feel. Being silenced about your feelings is something I have experienced, and I want people to know that they are not alone. There is always someone here for you, you just have to look hard enough. You are strong and worthy of your own feelings and emotions💕
AMomentInTime1830
July 15th, 2021 12:26pm
Being okay with who you are and what you stand for. We can all think of little things we don’t like about ourselves, but if you can live yourself and know that you try to live each day with the best of intentions, you’ll feel peace. That doesn’t mean we don’t have bad days, but to remember that and know THAT was your best that day. Don’t hold yourself to judgment, allow the good with the bad, always striving to do and be your best.. whatever that means to you. By doing this we establish personal boundaries, and can be confident to not have those boundaries crossed. Boundaries are for us, not others. We decide what we accept and allow in our lives, and if you feel like there’s something that pushes your boundaries, you make the choice to set it back in place, to where you feel happiest and most comfortable
Girlwithsuperpower
March 27th, 2021 6:06pm
We all need to accept things that are happening and we should have the belief that everything will change. We can't stay sad or happy all the time- it changes. We have to move on with time. If you can feel this way, you will be emotionally strong and stable. We also have to believe that there is always someone there to help us. We need to search for the care and help that we deserve. There are plenty of people existing to help us, so we should not feel isolated. We have to be grateful for what we have now. It's a way to be emotionally strong at difficult situations.
openbook1814
April 7th, 2021 8:22pm
Often times our own weaknesses can provide us with the greatest emotion strength by providing the foundation for who we are in our entirety. Our weaknesses can make us stronger by showing us more about who we are. They provide insights into a different part of ourselves that we may not always be proudest of or even comfortable with, but are a great point of focusing on so that we may later improve on ourselves. In addition, once we embrace our weaknesses, we can truly accept ourselves for who we are and gain a greater emotional strength that can help us thrive in all environments and aspects of our lives.