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What should I do when my boyfriend ignores me?

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What should I do when my boyfriend ignores me?
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magicallymee
January 9th, 2016 3:40pm
Try to talk to him. Tell him that you can't deal with being ignored, and tell him how you are feeling. If he does not understand, maybe you should try and break up with him. I understand the hard situation you're in, but you need to put your priorities first- you shouldn't have to be stressed out because of your boyfriend.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 1:45pm
You should try talking to him or giving him some space then if he keeps ignoring you he's not the right guy for you.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 7:41pm
try to found the reason but keep your self in respect you are the important side try to know why do he do it and decide which if his reason excuse him
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 10:17pm
Try and get him to sit down with you, and try and discuss to him that it's annoying you that he is ignoring you, make him listen to you.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 3:44am
You could talk to him about how he's making you feel. Tell him that you need his attention. Communication is the key of a relationship.
ThesisinTime
January 24th, 2016 8:29pm
Ask yourself why that bothers you, and if that's something that you want to bring up, or table for a later discussion.
Anonymous
January 24th, 2016 10:55pm
Trust is key here. If he's ignoring your texts, give him a chance to prove himself. Assume he's busy, and not intentionally ignoring you. There is a limit though, if it's been an abnormal amount of time, simply be direct and ask what's going on or what's the issue.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 8:30am
Perhaps tell him that you feel ignored and how this affects you ? Suggest a pair activity ? Or simply try and engage him in whatever way you see fit :)
MindPalace93
January 28th, 2016 2:31am
There is a series of things you can do when a person you care about ignores you. First of all it is important to let the person know about the situation so that they know where you are coming from. You can try and talk to the person about how you feel and what makes you feel that specifically. Good and clear communication between the two is key - most times people can't guess how we feel, so telling them about it solves part of the problem. Always remember that when you tell someone about your feelings they also have to respect that this is how you feel. There is no place for them to deny that they made you feel like that, because, basically, they did and you telling them are the proof of it. Equally, it is important for you to understand that they are not 100% responsible for your reaction, because you also have control over your emotions and are able to do something about it. (which you already are if you are asking this question :)) After a discussion has finished and both of you are aware of each others side of the situation, you can decide together how you can progress from there and whether it was a misunderstanding or there was a serious reason behind it. In many cases where the issue occurred due to a misunderstanding or a clearly valid reason, the conversation ends there. Otherwise, if the discussion results to a mutual agreement that is not kept from one side it is important to form certain boundaries. For example, you explain to your boyfriend that you would like to spend time with him or him to pay more attention, and he agrees that he would also like to do something about it. Then he proceeds to not make an effort towards that agreement and keeps going in the same way. In that case, it is your choice to decide how important it is to you to have his attention and company and whether you can compromise that or need to take other steps like walk away from the relationship. In a healthy relationship both the people involved need to be satisfied in each other's company most of the time. There are various reasons why that may not happen at times, so it's always a good idea to have an open and clear discussion about each other's feelings. I hope that helps! :) Good luck!
Anonymous
January 28th, 2016 5:54am
When your boyfriend ignores you, the best way is to not make any assumptions. Making any assumptions can lead to bigger problems. I suggest seeing him in person and talking about it.
ciaraorourke333
January 31st, 2016 11:00pm
meeting up in person is always a better thing. ask him what is wrong? because he could be going through things to do with family or friends or another matter
Anonymous
March 25th, 2016 10:08am
You can either be really really really nice to him in return, maybe that's what he's looking for. Your extra attention
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Anonymous
November 12th, 2018 8:06pm
Voice your thoughts and express what you are feeling, but also understand that he might need some space and time for himself. You should use this time to think back and reflect on what may have caused him to react like this. Might i remind you that he will come to you when he is ready to talk and have an open discussion as to why he was ignoring you , and also justify his actions by expressing his thoughts and emotions to you and towards the situation. You too must do the same in order for there to be successful and open communication.
Kank16
December 3rd, 2018 6:29am
It isn't right to jump to any conclusions before you know anything for sure. Try and understand if he is ignoring you or everyone around him? Is he ignoring you or to be in a situation with you? Has anything happened in his life of late from which he could be reacting like this? It's okay to doubt his ignorance. Understand where he is coming from and if nothing seems to make sense, ask him. Confrontation can be difficult but it only makes life easy. Be compassionate when you do it but clarify what you feel and why you feel do. And tell him, it's okay even if he doesn't want to be with you, ignoring is no solution, if anything, it just leaves you hanging in thin air, which isn't fair to whatever time you've spent together.