What should I do when my boyfriend ignores me?

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What should I do when my boyfriend ignores me?
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LightACandle
August 1st, 2015 1:16am
For what reason? If he is not replying to your text since 3 hours ago, his phone might have died. If he has not talked to you for a few days, he might be caught up with something. The important thing to do is not jump to conclusion but ask for clarification when you can and take it from there. While you wait for the opportunity to ask, do something you love to do like a hobby. Play video games, read books, start a project. This is the time you get for yourself!
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2015 9:47pm
Sometimes it is best to just give guys their space, but it they're taking too long try to find out why he's ignoring you.
Drimezan
August 15th, 2015 12:50am
When your boyfriend ignores you, think first on what might be the reason why he would ignore you. Consider how he treats you and if there is an argument that happened before he ignored you. Jumping into conclusion would only allow your mind to overthink and make you worry and feel anxious causing doubts to build into your relationship. And having doubts would create a gap between you and your boyfriend which will greatly affect your relationship.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2015 12:32am
be calm and be patient…you might feel he ignores you but in what context when you both have time for each other, have a heart-to-heart talk by meeting face to face cuz then you know whats up with him lately …and whats not if he's been busy then there is something you need to feed in.
caringdaisy
September 25th, 2016 7:11am
You could try find out why he is ignoring you. But do not chase after him. If he ignores you while you are trying to fix things then do not keep messaging him, it can make things worse. Of course you need to understand that hes busy sometimes and thats why he ignores you and he isnt mad at you.
Anonymous
October 19th, 2016 12:26pm
If your boyfriend ignores you it's most likely he's got something going on in his head that makes it hard for him to focus on anything else but perhaps his thoughts or something he has to deal with- it probably isn't intentional but it's worth asking him if he's alright.
LittleMissJoy
March 9th, 2017 4:44am
When your boyfriend seems to be ignoring you the best thing to do I believe is to let him be. He obviously is ignoring you because he is upset, frustrated or angry with you. I am someone who thinks when people want to be left alone for however long it may be, you must respect their wishes and let them be. In this case your boyfriend needs time to think or be alone so don't bother him by adding to his anger, or frustration. He will come around when he is ready and you will be there ready for him to talk when the time comes. Choosing to pester him will only cause more problems for the two of you.
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2016 9:06am
Two answers 1. Talk to him about it. Maybe somethings bothering him and he doesn't know how to talk about it. Or he doesn't know you're feeling ignored. 2. Maybe he needs some space, so give him the space he needs and let him contact you when he is ready.
PenPineappleUgh
February 15th, 2017 4:51pm
Always remember tha for a relationship to work, it takes two. Ask him if there is something going on or bothering him. Try to talk things out instead of building up negative thoughts. Communication is the most important thing in a relationship.
SalParadise
July 30th, 2015 1:34am
first thing, why is he ignoring you for? is he mad about you or is he busy at work/hobbies/seeing friends? if its the second one, I would say even the best relationships need some break for each person to be with itself, and its enriching for the relationship to tell the other what you did after a day of each one doing something fun by theirselves. if he is ignoring you to make you mad, punish you, or to show you his feelings, then I would say the only way to solve anything is through communication, bottling up negative feelings wont be healthy for either of you
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StormyAngles18
June 5th, 2016 2:50am
One thing you can do is bring it to his attention. Not in a mean or aggressive way but calmly and nicely bring it to his attention and tell him how it makes you feel and you and him can give eachother suggestions on how you and him can solve the issue.
JaketheTransguyFTM
June 9th, 2016 5:49pm
You should take a step back and think about what the reasoning could be, then try to talk to him calmly.
Anonymous - Expert in Relationship Stress
December 7th, 2016 2:40am
Let your boyfriend know that you feel ignored and why, and that you are telling him so that you can maybe find a way to feel better together, such as, "I feel ignored when you don't answer me back, and it makes me feel worthless. I know you probably don't intend to make me feel bad, but I'd like to find a way we can both feel better somehow." Try to stay calm, honest, and open-minded. It may be better to wait until a quiet moment to have this conversation. In moments where you feel ignored and do not feel comfortable talking to the person about it, it's okay to think it through on your own too. Recognize that you feel ignored, and think about what action or lack of action is triggering that feeling. Think about how you felt just before you perceived you were being ignored. Think about specifically what you would have liked to happen instead. These questions may provide good tools for future conversations on the subject, or they may shed light on underlying issues. Good luck! You deserve to feel heard and validated too.
MessengerOfPeace01
October 27th, 2016 2:28pm
Find out what you did wrong and fix it, otherwise if its something casual he is doing then just dont think about it and move on with your life normally, the truth will prevail by itself
Anonymous
February 16th, 2017 11:16pm
Something else! Anything else. Don't let it get to you. Focus on staying positive and when he's ready to talk, talk if you want too. Tell him it upsets you when he ignores you and figure out a way together to overcome it.
MissyR70
April 8th, 2017 4:46am
The fact that he is ignoring you might just mean that he needs space. It's not good for you and your mate to be together all the time.
patientWaves84
December 20th, 2015 11:36am
Well, First thing try to find is he intended to ignore you or just distracted with troubles he has, If there is troubles try to listen about his day and try being supportive, If he intended to ignore you try to see it from his point of view, Maybe you are being unreasonable, And if he is being a plain jerk then you must remind him that yore feeling are as important as his and he should act like it and not take you for granted.
KateK8Kate
March 25th, 2016 8:01pm
Feel the feelings. It's okay to feel scared, sad, annoyed, angry, or anything else you feel because you are human. But what you do with those feelings is important! Calling or texting constantly probably won't help and might even make you feel worse. Channel the feelings into something else, like watching a sad movie, punching a pillow, or cuddling your kitty cat.
MissLili85
June 5th, 2016 6:10pm
Take yourself out for something special, a pedicure, a nice dinner, a movie you've wanted to see...really anything that makes you feel good! It's important that we treat ourselves well, especially when others seem to be overlooking our needs.
Anonymous
September 23rd, 2016 12:43am
What I would do when my boyfriend ignores me is try and talk it out and find the reasons behind it and what may be causing it to happen and try everything in my power to try and resolve the issue if it comes down to being about me.
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December 8th, 2017 2:05pm
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January 31st, 2016 6:45pm
If he has been behaving odd lately and started to avoid some situations or conversations, including you, then it would be the best to approach him in the right way. That means that you are not supposed to show any impatience or negative additude, since it will make the situation even more harder to solve. Maybe if you leave him with his own thoughts , and give him some space and time, it will be easier for him to tell you his ''bother'' later. When someone doesn't want to tell you something, in most cases, it means that they don't want to hurt you, but it is however not fair to bury the feelings and events that caused the lack of attention. Depending on the situation, the best case would be to stay aside and let him tell you what he feels you should know in particular moment, but after some time, with proper words and approach, you should start to insist on the explanation of his.
Flair30
February 12th, 2016 8:41am
The best answer I can think of is to communicate how it makes you feel to him. Dont be angry or upset in your tone of voice. Simply say "When you _______ it makes me feel ________ because." (Fill in the blanks) and sit down and have a good conversation with him. Tell him that you need to be heard and that you need to know that he cares and respects you.
Anonymous
March 13th, 2016 11:36pm
You should find out why he ignores you and if he gives you a second shot at it and ask him what he thinks and what behavior your doing that is making him ignore you.
JDM108
March 18th, 2016 8:26am
There's a funny trick you could do, which is say to him "Why do you love me so much?" At first it might throw him off, but then he'll realize he does! Remember that demand destroys love.
2cupsofteaa
September 24th, 2016 1:20am
Communicate! Ask him why he is ignoring you and perhaps you might find that he did not mean to? E.g. Life can get pretty busy sometimes.
Anonymous
October 2nd, 2016 6:58am
Wait for him to come to you . He probably needs time to cool off . Most guys would like their space.
amiableTree17
December 11th, 2016 1:10pm
Maybe send him a message and let him know how it makes you feel when he is ignoring you. It can feel isolating when we are ignored, it's good to speak up for yourself and let him know.
Peacefulmeditation
August 13th, 2015 10:01am
Don't take it personally. Relax. First, explore your mind to see if it is your own perception causing you to think that he is ignoring you.