What should I do when my boyfriend ignores me?

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What should I do when my boyfriend ignores me?
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Greatlistener87
December 25th, 2015 4:08pm
Tell him that you understand that he needs the space and time and that you are ready if he wants to talk. Then give him the space and time to come back and talk to you.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 12:22am
You should get him jealous. Get all over another guy. There is no way he's going to see you with a guy and not react to it. And if he doesn't he isn't the one.
SaraMichelle
December 31st, 2015 9:16pm
Tell him how you feel. If he respects you enough to change his ways then he's good but if he doesn't change then it may be time to let him go.
Carleen00
January 29th, 2016 4:37pm
Tell him how you are feeling. People don't always know what we need. It is our responsibility to keep lines of communication opened with our partners so they do.
skin
January 31st, 2016 6:45pm
If he has been behaving odd lately and started to avoid some situations or conversations, including you, then it would be the best to approach him in the right way. That means that you are not supposed to show any impatience or negative additude, since it will make the situation even more harder to solve. Maybe if you leave him with his own thoughts , and give him some space and time, it will be easier for him to tell you his ''bother'' later. When someone doesn't want to tell you something, in most cases, it means that they don't want to hurt you, but it is however not fair to bury the feelings and events that caused the lack of attention. Depending on the situation, the best case would be to stay aside and let him tell you what he feels you should know in particular moment, but after some time, with proper words and approach, you should start to insist on the explanation of his.
Arakhthanda
February 12th, 2016 4:22am
I would actually ask about what makes him ignore you. If he continues to ignore, the best strategy is to actually allow him to have time for trying to respond to you and then, later on, break up if he still chooses to do so since a relationship is a two-way communication.
LonelyAngels
March 19th, 2016 3:41pm
First, ask yourself, Why does your boyfriend ignores you? Did you do something wrong? If u then assured that you think you didnt do anything then its the time to ask him properly and calmly, :)
Anonymous
March 19th, 2016 8:00pm
Think about why he might to this, how he feels/has been feeling lately, if he's going through a hard time. Try to get a chance to talk to him, show empathy and tell him how him ignoring you makes you feel.
CDoce
March 25th, 2016 5:30pm
You should talk to him seriously and ask him for clarify. And, together, decide what's the best for both of you.
Anonymous
March 25th, 2016 8:15pm
Well if he wants to act like you aren't there then maybe have you considered that you don't need to be there? Maybe take in a movie or a stroll on the beach? Read a book or do something that you enjoy?
Anonymous
June 9th, 2016 8:56pm
Talk to him about how you feel, if he ignores you make him talk to you. You could ignore him and that would bring his attention to you then talk to him about the problem.
traveller88
February 9th, 2017 2:25pm
Talk to him about how you feel and arrange romantic dates (a walk to the park, drive to the beach, picnics, movie nights- it doesn't have to be expensive) where you dedicate time focused entirely on each other
StayAwesome
February 9th, 2017 7:03pm
Don't get yourself too worked up about it, at first. Maybe he's going through a tough time and he just needs his distance. We all struggle through stuff and we sometimes prefer some space. Ask him about it later on. Just talk it out. Avoid fighting because it rarely solves misunderstandings. In fact, it causes more trouble in a relationship.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2017 11:25am
I would try to contact him first, maybe via a telephone ring or text message. I would try to contact him in person at school? If he kept ignoring me, I would ask his best friend politely if anything was going on and that he should tell my boyfriend that I feel as if he is ignoring me and we should talk about it.
Anonymous
September 11th, 2017 8:16pm
Perhaps find the root cause and address it. Different situations are different. Just like headaches can happen for different reasons so can the act of ignoring happen for different reasons. What should you do when you have a headache? Depends on what's causing the headache.
Katheryn
June 14th, 2015 7:54pm
Talk to him! He is your boyfriend, so you two obviously care about each other and maybe even love each other. Seems like you might need to have a conversation about the fact that you feel like he is ignoring you and how that makes you feel. The only way to find out what is really going on is to talk it out, honestly, openly and respectfully.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 11:31pm
Hi. He may just be busy? Still, you could let him know how it makes you feel and that you would like him to reply sooner if possible.
Aventurina
June 19th, 2015 9:47am
This is really down to your personal character... There is no 'One Way' to do, that which guarantees that it will give you the attention that you might be wanting from your boyfriend there and then. But, there a couple of experiments you might like to try to see what way is the best way to get through to him. Perhaps when he finally decides to give you the attention you deserve, you can try calmly letting him know how ignoring you made you feel, and if you both could find a way how to better communicate to each other what is happening the next time that it happens. Like for example: you can try going up to him jumping up and down next to him, basically be annoying...until he would HAVE to look at you. Another experiment which you can try which is on the borderline of passive aggression is to ignore him in turn..on purposely.. until he would 'beg' you not to, and then ask him how that felt... basically letting him know that you feel the same way when he ignores you. Perhaps you can even try looking into what he is doing when he's ignoring your. Is he playing a game or studying for something important. Perhaps you could both discuss on setting a time where he could give you the attention that you need. Again the best way is to find the time when you are both quiet together, and speak about how behaviour makes you feel. Together try finding a way of what you can do when this happens. :) Do honour the emotions that arise inside of you when you feel ignored, you need not be ashamed of it. When discussing discuss the behaviour rather than attacking him for who he is.
dreamweaver76
June 19th, 2015 11:02pm
When your boyfriend is ignoring you, DO NOT push him to talk. That may only make matters worse. Give him some space and give yourself some time to think over why he might be ignoring you. If you know why he is ignoring you, think about what you may have done wrong to empathize with him. But the number one thing to do is give him a little time to cool off, as well as yourself so you don't say something you don't actually mean. Then tell him how you feel when he does that in a calmly matter and ask him if he wants to talk about it.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2015 6:23pm
that is a wondering question, I sense that you are feeling ignored and not listened to by someone you love?
Sweetlolly11
June 28th, 2015 2:09am
If it's a text message for a couple of hours or if he falls asleep while talking, I'm sure it's nothing to worry about, but if he avoids you on purpose or acts like you aren't there when you're with him, that's a serious issue you need to discuss with him. Things like this can only be solved with communication.
HereToListen2You
June 28th, 2015 5:18pm
You should talk to your boyfriend, ask them why they are acting this way. If they still aren't helping you figure out the answers, you make have to contemplate whether they are the one for you?
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 2:50am
give it time so you know why he didn't respond before deciding what to do don't overreact as you don't have any clue what's going on on the other end
Anonymous
July 12th, 2015 4:20pm
boyfriend ignoring means either he has lost interest in you or he dont have anytime for you. in both case best thing to do is to surprise him with sweet lovely or intimate gesture
clariageorge
July 25th, 2015 5:37am
If your boyfriend is being ignorant towards you, try speaking alone with him about it. However if he is again ignorant, you need to rethink and question yourself as to why you are in this relationship.
Thanks4Calling
July 26th, 2015 12:08am
First you need to find out why. Does he has personal problems, or is he concerned about your relationship. Once you know the answer you can decide what action to take.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 4:44am
Have a calm nice talk with him and get into a conversation on what's been bothering you and bring up about why he is ignoring you.
Peeps
August 8th, 2015 4:18am
Try talking things out with him and explaining your perspective! Sometimes they don't even realize that they are ignoring you or are not giving you enough attention. Communication is key
PoliteOcean
August 9th, 2015 6:58am
If you are in a relationship where you feel you are being ignored, then you need to be honest with that person. You should feel you are able to talk with them and ask them why they are ignoring you. If there are underlying issues in the relationship then its time to talk to one another, together and evaluate the relationship that you are in.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 4:17pm
You can try talking to him ,but make sure you are calm and cool. Just ask him what's bothering him or what's the reason, just talk it out and listen to his side before reacting. If he opens up, well and good. If not , its better not to pester him and leave him alone for a while. Give him some space...you cannot just force someone to talk to you. Talk to him after a while ..or you can wait. Maybe he will get back to you when he is ready and then talk.