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What should I do when my boyfriend ignores me?

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What should I do when my boyfriend ignores me?
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PeaceForYou
July 8th, 2015 2:47pm
I would explain to him how he is making me feel when he ignores me and try and have a conversation about it..
sadi1994
July 8th, 2015 9:44pm
Try to ask him what's wrong. Have a chat with him and try to figure out if something is bothering him right now.
Gilbertron
July 9th, 2015 1:27am
Give him those walking papers because if he ignores you and don't have time for you then he don't deserve you.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 7:27am
Know that you don't deserved to be ignored. You are a human who has emotions. Being ignored sucks and make sure he knows that you have feelings too.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 9:14am
I had a similar situation with my girlfriend, and I made it so that she couldn't just ignore me anymore. I made it so that I was an irreplacable being in her heart and mind.
boo
July 9th, 2015 12:40pm
First give him some space, he may be having a busy day or going through something. Even after that is he ignores you, just ask him!
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 1:13am
I have found that communication is key. When I feel ignored or neglected I try to express those feelings. I've found when I do the other person is unaware I am feeling that way and usually correct the behavior that is causing me to feel ignored.
MathewTheBull
July 10th, 2015 7:09am
I'm not ignoring you, I'm just waiting to see if you'll make an effort. And this is the truth sometimes.
Thebravebubble
July 10th, 2015 3:02pm
What you should do is to talk to him straight znd explain him the way you feel, and the way you would like to be treated.
butterflykisses27
July 10th, 2015 7:23pm
I would try talking to him and let him know you feel he is ignoring you. Ask him why he is ignoring you. Get your feelings out there so you can feel better about your relationship.
Haley622
July 10th, 2015 8:29pm
If your boyfriend is ignoring you, try thinking of reasons that may logically make him not be able to answer... is he at work? is he busy? is he actually ignoring you or just unable to talk? If he is ignoring you, try directly communicating that you're upset about this and ask why so that you can get to the root of what is bothering him and work towards a solution.
Mimigloss
July 11th, 2015 4:04am
Don't be clingy! Most likely if that happens, he will get angrier. If you don't know why he is angry, you can leave him one voicemail or text, or talk to him about it. If you do know why, just let him get his feelings together for a bit then try and talk!
lovNicky
July 11th, 2015 4:05am
Just ask him why am i feeling like you are ignoring me and make remember the days ,happiest moments you have lived with him
cristiana33
July 11th, 2015 12:36pm
What makes you think he is ignoring you? Are we talking about an argument you had when he decided to ignore your opinion instead of listening to your needs? Or are we talking about times when he might be busy and you feel ignored? Whatever it is, it's important to make your needs known by talking with him next time you have the chance. Communication is the key!
Pheremike
July 11th, 2015 9:57pm
Express how you feel as well as ask him why he is ignoring you. Communication is important in a relationship, but so is understanding and compromise. If we love someone, we generally do not want to take any actions that would hurt them. If he is hurting you tell him that he is, but ask him why he is doing that.
12farah21
July 11th, 2015 9:57pm
Ignore him right back. Over texting or calling him will make you come off as clingy and needy. He'll talk to you when he's ready. If it's been a while since either of you has spoken to each other, a little cute text to remind him of you might go a long way. But only just one. And don't panic if he doesn't reply.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2015 12:01am
Depending on the time frame where this is happening, the situation might differ. Ultimately, however, it is best to focus on yourself in a difficult time like that. We can't know how long the ignoring might be going on. You can reach out and say something like: "Hey, I haven't heard from you. It seems like you need some space, but I'd like to talk when you're ready", but don't stay glued to your phone waiting to hear a response. Distract yourself as much as you can and focus on you.
silverSound86
July 15th, 2015 1:25am
When my boyfriend ignores me, I must speak to him. When I talk to him, I must create a space where we can talk without getting angry or emotional. I must seek answers for his behaviour. When a space is created where we both can talk freely, I may find that there may be aspects in my behaviour which has resulted in him behaving this way. I can then reflect and make changes if I want to. On the other hand, it may be that he is going through a personal difficulty which he has been unable to share with me. Sharing makes him more open and can enrich our relationship. Another possibility could be that he is playing games with me and is behaving this way because of immaturity. I must then decide if he is the person that I need in my life. The choice I make must be in my favour and also communicate that I respect myself and cannot be taken for granted.
Anonymous
July 16th, 2015 3:59am
Confront him about it. He needs to know that you don't appreciate being ignored. Setting up expectations in a relationship is extremely important because it allows you to develop the relationship in the right way. However, make sure you have the right reasons for assuming he is ignoring you. If he is simply preoccupied with something else while you're trying to contact him, understand that it usually does not mean that he is trying to ignore you on purpose.
Anonymous
July 16th, 2015 3:03pm
Try meeting with him face-to-face and have a serious conversation. If he continues to ignore you after that, it may be time to break off the relationship.
HawaiianAir
July 17th, 2015 9:21pm
The best thing to do if your boyfriend ignores you is to: 1) give him some space for a bit (smothering him will make whatever is going on worse) and then 2) ask him what's going on, and let him know how it makes you feel to be ignored!
Emily619
July 18th, 2015 4:29am
If your boyfriend ignores me, you should talk to him about it and about how you feel. If he truly loves you, he will listen and care about it.
beautifulBabyCow10
July 18th, 2015 8:48pm
Sometimes it's good to have some space in a relationship. However, it is unfair to ignore the partner in the relationship. To get his attention back, it helps to be upfront.If he is ignoring your phone calls/texts maybe go to his house, find him after work.
tahleeheretohelp
July 19th, 2015 8:35pm
Bring him up about it and see what he has to say about it, he might have something going on though so be mindful and supportive. :)
interestingUnicorns12
July 22nd, 2015 3:02am
If he ignores you, I think you should have a serious talk to him. Tell him the things that bother you, have him tell you the things that bother him. Then you can both come to an understanding, and make things better for both of you.
handtohold
July 22nd, 2015 4:25pm
let him know that you're feeling a little invisible - communication and honesty is key :) it's quite likely that other things on his mind or feelings he's struggling with are causing this gap between you without him even knowing! Talk to each other and try to work things out to maintain a healthy honest relationship
PuddlesNZ
July 24th, 2015 3:07am
Perhaps give him some space. Set a time limit, a breather. Even though he's your boyfriend, sometimes we all need a little time out. Just remember, it may not be personal at all, and he may not know how to reach out. If you let him know that you're there for him if he needs you, then that's a really supportive step for you both.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2015 3:12pm
Ask him why and explain to him how this make you feels. Don't jump to conclusions, he may be going through something or there may be an explanation, give it time.
enjoyiableRiver95
July 25th, 2015 3:31am
Tell him how it makes you feel. If he still continues to ignore you, pay him no attention and start living more independently from him. Ifhe cares, he'll change. If not, then perhaps move on (ifit is a deal breaker to you).
RelaxAndChat
July 26th, 2015 3:33am
Don't Worry too much, your boyfriend is probably sorting out his feelings or maybe he is just busy, give it sometime or just talk to him about it. Generally it will work out and be Okay.