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What's the best way to cope with being irritable/easily annoyed?

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Last Updated: 11/02/2021 at 11:16pm
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March 25th, 2015 3:57pm
For a temporary solution, you can always seek something that will ease your mind and distract you, something you enjoy doing, whether it is playing a game, taking a walk, etc. You could even try other relaxation techniques such as meditation if you think it would suit you. But perhaps it would be an even better idea to deal with that anger at its source, and think about what makes you angry, why it makes you feel that way, and what you can do yourself to deal with it.
April 14th, 2015 8:51pm
We become irritable/annoyed for many reasons - hunger, exhaustion, etc. For me, the same physiological symptoms seen with irritability are often seen in anxiety (e.g. increased heart rate, sweating, feeling tense, etc.) and irritability can be combated in the same way. Try some deep breathing exercises along with mindfulness. Also, when you encounter an irritating person/situation, try to think about it/them from a different perspective that may help you quell your irritation. For example, if someone is late to an appointment, this can be very annoying, especially if you've made special provisions to be there on time. It can be easy to get mad! Perhaps consider that person's own difficulties that day - maybe they felt sick, or their cat threw up on the floor - anything could have happened! I hope this helps you find some peace with your irritability!
April 15th, 2015 7:43am
when you are really getting irritated with someone or something, you can walk away, try and divert your mind to something else, or just do something that would make you smile... my sister knows i hate when people think that when shouting it becomes the best way to prove a point, so she always does that to annoy me, or maybe change the tv station when i was watching a program , instead of making her satisfied, i start enjoying her show, even if its boring, or sometimes just walk out of the room.. they say make best of what you got? i always have time to do assignment if she does that.
April 17th, 2015 5:07pm
Don't judge. Think before you act/speak. Try to be forgiving. Don't mind small things. Laugh aloud. Live peacefully.
May 3rd, 2015 6:48pm
Take time for yourself and breathe. work out what it is that is annoying you and take yourself away from it.
May 13th, 2015 9:09pm
This happens to me an awful lot. I found either breathing exercises or removing myself from the situation is the most effective technique.
May 28th, 2015 4:03am
Take a walk. Breathe in fresh air and try to take some space away from people while you calm down so that you do not lash out, causing further trouble and possible disaster. This doesn't mean that you should isolate yourself for elongated periods of time but rather you should take some time for yourself and your problems. When you're alone, try to write (or speak aloud to yourself, if that helps you) about your feelings and frustrations so that you can pinpoint what is the cause of your stress and annoyance. After successfully identifying that, attempt to reason solutions or talk to others, whether they be friends of listeners on 7CupsofTea. If you're having trouble concentrating on what's causing you irritation and annoyance, talking with another person can likewise help you calm down or pinpoint the problem. Good luck! :)
August 23rd, 2016 2:12pm
Hello, seems like you're looking for ways to manage your anger. Smile can change your mood instantly. Whenever you're annoyed or irritated, just smile and nod. :)
August 30th, 2016 11:37am
Listen to some calm music, watch some funy cat videos, have a nap, eat chocolate. It all depends of the person...
January 3rd, 2017 11:18pm
What I have found when dealing with being irritable/easily annoyed is to look at what triggers it and see if I can find a solution to change it so the next time I don't have those triggers come back. You can also write down those things that trigger your irritability/annoyed symptoms and how you can respond to them in a positive way.
May 28th, 2018 5:13pm
Meditate, think more about your positive aspects, calm down, sleep over the annoyance. It is difficult to cope up, but eventually you will be able to cope up.
January 29th, 2019 8:18pm
Ask yourself why it is taking so little to annoy you. You might need to ask why 6 times in total to get to the root cause. Also, consider what kind of impact it’s having on the people around you. Chances are that when you take a step back you may decide that this behaviour is not serving you or your relationships particularly well. If you allow yourself to get disproportionately irritated by relatively small things, where would that leave you if something really serious happened? You don’t necessarily need to repress your negative feelings. Instead you can acknowledge that you feel irritated or annoyed and make a deliberate decision not to let that get the better of you. Find a sympathetic friend who you can sound off to and/or consider writing things down. Patience and resilience come with practice. There is plenty to be annoyed about in life but make sure you balance things out by also giving attention to the things that make you happy and at peace.
December 24th, 2019 7:05pm
hmm well first you must understand what motivates you to get annoyed easily, that questions is not easy to answer, and it differs from one person to another, people in general have different reasons for what they do, and getting annoyed can be justified of course because some reasons are convincing enough to have you simply be disturbed, or annoyed, but to come back to the main issue is being annoyed easily in other words simplest reasons having enough effect on you to get you annoyed, now if you want this to stop, you can do this, once you actually get annoyed stop, just grit your teeth and ask yourself, what caused me to do this? you will find that the reason is very absurd at most cases, if you weren't convinced by your own explanation but still are looking for a solution is to take a very deep breath, and take a walk, i always recommend this, take a walk whenever things gets complicated and feelings get the best of you, and during this walk always think about you, and why you chose to leave, if you want a permanent solution, then you must always look for a new mindset, that's what i have
November 2nd, 2021 11:16pm
Seek help and take deep breaths. Also, maybe take anger management classes if it gets bad. Make sure you also do things to cope/calm down once you feel this way. I use fidget toys or a stress reliever app for this sort of thing but, different people use different things. If you feel none of these are working then seek a specialist and surely they can help you.