Whats the best way to get over a mentally scarring event?
Last Updated: 11/01/2016 at 1:44am
Chanel Bowen, LCMHC, LCAS, CCS, NCC
Licensed Professional Counselor
With compassionate counseling, I help my clients through anxious thoughts and feelings of depression. Improve self-esteem, relationships, learn new skills.
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one of the best things about being a human is that we have the ability to forget. Forgetting is a grace that helps us to move on with our lives.
Talking about it and getting help. It's way harder to deal with something all by yourself than it is with some love and support. Feeling alone is the worst feeling in the world, you don't need that and a horrible event on your mind. If you deal with a mentally scarring event by yourself, you'll be consumed. It's better to tell someone that you need help than pretending that you're fine. You're only hurting yourself more if you pretend.
Therapy! Speaking with a professional who can listen and support you and let you cry when you need and listen to your problems and guide you through them is the best way and having friends who can comfort you and make you forget about things for a while by doing fun things with you and make you laugh or sit and watch movies with you and give you a hug = so important!!!
I don't know if it's necessarily the best but what has worked for me, after talking it through with someone I trust, I go to the places that the event occurred and that safe person helps me create new, happy memories. In a way, it helps me feel that I am closing the door on what has happened in the past and opening the door to a happy future. It's not something that can be done right after but the process of getting to that point helps finalize the healing process.
Whenever I go on stage and perform, butterflys are always swirling in my stomach. Something I do to get rid of them and calm myself down are breathing exercises. For example breath in for a long four seconds and breath out for eight seconds.
I guess for some mentally scarring can mean an array of things. A scar defined is a mark left behind after a surface injury has healed and thats exactly what will happen when you go through a traumatic event- it will leave something behind that wasn't tbere before. The best way to get "over" a mentally scarring event is to first get through it. Some scars are considered beautiful and believed to be a significant indication that you have overcome what has happened to you and are now stronger for it. The best way out is through.
Honestly, I would seek professional help. The closest thing I have had to a specific event was when I was dealing with anorexia, every meal was just terrible. So, when I started to go to therapy it just really helped.
Keep in mind that every event molds who you are, whether the event was a happy one or mentally scaring you will forever be a more experienced person. Don't be afraid to speak with someone, even if they don't have an answer just being able to talk to someone can help you overcome any damaging affect of an event.
talk to a friend ,member of family or professional,self help books are also useful.There are people out there who can listen and support you ,remember you are not alone.
If you can it will be good to go for some therapy or get help from some1 you trust to get through it with. You need to talk about it and accept what has happened, then you will need to forgive all those involved including yourself. Then you have to let go and move on. It will take time but it will be all worth it.
1. Be patient with yourself. Emotional wounds take time to heal just like physical ones. 2. Understand that this to shall pass. Life is full of seasons of joy and at times sadness but knowing that it's temporary can help us get through the rough times. 3. Reach out for support. Coming to a place like 7 cups or talking to a trusted mentor or counselor can really help. In fact people who can simply talk about their scarring experiences are less like to later suffer trauma later on. 4. Take care of yourself. It's so important to remember to stop and nurture yourself when you are stressed and wounded. It's important to stop and try to enjoy the small things life has to offer even when it's hard to relax. You'd be surprised how much the smell of a rose or lavender oil can help calm your mind and bring you back to the present moment.
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