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What's the point of happiness if I don't want it?

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Last Updated: 12/04/2021 at 7:04am
What's the point of happiness if I don't want it?
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Top Rated Answers
lyricalSea85
November 9th, 2017 3:31am
Human body as a whole requires to go through every emotion in one way or the other. The point of being sad is a way to search for happiness.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 9:36pm
When you are deep into depression, you may start to adapt to the sadness and start to crave it. Recovery is different for everyone, but once you recover, you will come out of that mindset and realize happiness is precious and it is something humans are built to want.
Anonymous
November 18th, 2017 2:56pm
Happiness gives color to our lives, it helps us become better and be more active in life, it helps us to indulge ourselves in the wonders of life.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 8:11am
I do want happiness. But right now, I can’t be happy because of how many people i’ve Hurt for love.
KongfuPanda
December 7th, 2017 4:20pm
Without happiness, what DO you have? If you have peace of mind, then you are fine. If what you have left makes you having internal conflicts, then you wanted to ask why and get to the bottom of it.
Anonymous
December 8th, 2017 11:23am
It can be compared as what is the point of having food when i am not hungry. Same way if someone is happy with their life why would they want more, excess of anything is bad for health.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2017 1:24am
I think happiness doesn't exist but I search. I search for a way to feel content or satisfied with the decision .
DefinitelyNotEvil
December 15th, 2017 8:02am
The simple fact that you have asked this question says a lot. Think for a moment, if you truly didn't want happiness, then what would be the point in asking if there is any point to it? You are worth happiness, we all are. All we have to do is take a moment to think about what makes us feel good. It could be anything from a song you like, a book you've read or even a funny joke you've heard. Now, realize the feeling that comes with that thought is in itself some form of happiness. It feels nice doesn't it? So, "what's the point of happiness if you don't want it?" You. You are the point of happiness.
colourfulUnicorns17
January 10th, 2018 6:10pm
Happiness can often lead to great things. Even if you dont want it, it is still an important part of life.
Ninolo
January 24th, 2018 9:43am
As long as you are satisfied with the state of your life, feel healthy, and cause no harm to others, there is no point worrying about the "concept" of happiness.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2018 12:15pm
This is a very interesting question. A philosophical one that could be answered in so many different ways. I personally think happiness still has a splint even if you don't want to. Just because you may not want happiness, doesn't mean someone else shouldn't get the enjoy it.
snugglyButterfly37
February 15th, 2018 3:14pm
Happiness is something which is necessary for your all body functions. Whether you want it or not it is necessary.
LolaG33
February 21st, 2018 8:15pm
Some people will try and tell you to get over it and be happy. Yeah, that doesn't work! I've had those times in my life where I didn't want to be happy, where I didn't want to feel anything I just wanted to get through the day. You might not want it now, you might not want to be happy for a while but eventually things will start looking up and you'll want to do more than to get through the day without crying or you'll want to do more than to get out of bed. Happiness isn't something that comes easy it's something you have to work towards.
Jigglymike91
March 8th, 2018 12:46am
Perhaps the thing you don't want is the potential sudden loss of happiness once you have it. We come to accept that external sources of happiness come and go. But these sources of happiness do not originate from the object or circumstance itself, fleeting happiness comes from the value we place on this attaining this object or circumstance. If we realize that we have set our own criteria for happiness, we come to the realization that this criteria is also in our control. When your sources of happiness come from within - from the gratitude of the little things in life, from what you control right now and give attention to, and from the choice you make each day to love instead of hate - you have chosen to be happy.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 8:41pm
the point of it is to make you happy and its a good thing, if you don't want it than thats fine it still has a point in life tho.
LovelyPrincess95
April 5th, 2018 9:21am
It depends on your definition of happiness. If the happiness you have defined a certain way is not the happiness you want (the things you enjoy in life, for example), you could explore a different definition. The point of happiness is what you make of it.
suchAngel
April 7th, 2018 8:18pm
It's not happiness if you don't want it.
patientPup11
April 15th, 2018 7:54am
If you don't want something, then i don't see the point in pursuing it. You have to want to want it. Maybe it's more a case of that you do want it but you are scared how the change will impact your life and how you'll handle it. If that's the case then it's worth working on those issues first. For me, i find comfort in a familiar kind of depression, and find benefits from it in some situations. Whilst it's horrendous to be so depressed, part of me 'likes' that i can withdraw from the world and not interact with anyone and i have an excuse for it. So, i want to be happy but i don't like the responsibility and normalness that comes with that.
richyShiny39
April 21st, 2018 8:44pm
That is where you have to decide. Is that you ant happiness. Happiness is you loving you first and wanting to be happy. It takes work.
Anonymous
May 9th, 2018 9:03pm
That's a hard question to answer, and it sounds like depression has it's ugly arms around you. When we are depressed we don't believe that we will ever be happy because we can't see any reason to be. Depression clouds are views and our thoughts. Happiness can be scary, like a beautiful sunset that we enjoy for a minute and then it is gone. We can't hold onto something so beautiful when it is nothing more than a fleeting moment. Depression makes us thing happiness is something we can never really grasp, just something that is always out of reach. Please be gentle with yourself.
Innerpeace2u
June 13th, 2018 7:38am
If happiness is defined by achieving the set goal. Not having happiness is actually fulfilling the goal if 'don't want happiness' which eventually lead to happiness too. Of course, this is a paradox. Every soul craves for happiness and tend to away from suffering. The fact of not wanting happiness is because you are too pain and wish to get away from suffering. Away from suffering is peace, not happiness. Perhaps, a moment of peace in life is all we want.
FireIntensity
June 27th, 2018 10:17am
Just because you don't want happiness, it does not mean you don't deserve it. Every human being is capable of happiness just as they would with sadness.
hugzy72
June 28th, 2018 10:13pm
I guess you have to consider that many people do want happiness, so it is there for those that choose it. Happiness is a choice, we all make choices, and those choices lead us either to a happy life, or a drama filled life, or a sad and lonely life. If you don't want to be happy then it is your choice not to be, but you could perhaps consider why you don't want to be happy? Maybe you feel you don't deserve it? Maybe it is the fear that if you do have happiness, it will just be taken away from you. So I would explore in therapy your reasons for why you don't want to be happy.
wonderfullSummer84
June 29th, 2018 2:54pm
Well, happiness is an emotional response to an event that releases endorphins in your brain making you happy. Happiness causes you to live longer, happier (duh), and healthier. It’s hard being happy when you don’t really want to be, but it’s really good for you, and it’ll help you out in the long run.
ElaineSaysHello
July 4th, 2018 6:03am
Happiness is a universal feeling/concept that brings a general understanding of positivity. You might not be in the mood to be positive right now which is fine, but perhaps by letting this negative feeling pass, you'll be able to acquire a positive feeling to balance that negativity out.
dtanushree
July 12th, 2018 7:05am
There's no point of happiness. Happiness is a point itself. It's not a destination nor an emotion which is needed to be carried everywhere. It comes naturally and fades away naturally. It depends on you the way you see it and handle it.
Numinox
July 13th, 2018 7:49am
Happiness fuels us to keep us going. To pursue something greater, better, or even something amazing! Remember that being happy leads to unimaginable things so why let it go to waste!
KurtCups711
July 25th, 2018 11:45pm
Feelings don't easily compare to things. If you get what you want wouldn't that give you some happiness? We all define it differently. My guess is that you have decided you don't want someone else's definition of happiness, which is perfectly reasonable.
SisterOfTheMoon00
August 9th, 2018 5:31am
Happiness is something that all people deserve. And it is something that grows and expands into something beautiful, giving you health and life.
Anonymous
October 5th, 2018 2:56am
It’s a proven fact that happiness is what makes life beautiful and makes it a whole new experience if you don’t want it keep it in your pocket it might come in handy later in long run besides if your not happy it can make you feel fatigue or depressed to a point where you hate every morning and despise every night and the gut wrenching feeling of loneliness that makes someone want to stay in bed and just be invisible to others to a point of social anxiety and hatred of the public eye as they feel they do not fit in.