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Why can't I stop crying once I've started?

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Last Updated: 02/23/2021 at 7:50pm
Why can't I stop crying once I've started?
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February 16th, 2016 3:55am
I have a hard time stopping crying when I've worked myself into a negative spiral and I have the same probably 3 or 4 phrases flying around my head that I can't stop focusing on. Normally it is phrases like "you're so stupid," or "no one loves you," and other negative things like that which are insecurities I've always had but come to the surface whenever I'm especially upset. I find that it doesn't matter what superficial thing started me crying, because often it's these core phrases that are always the root of me being upset and therefore they tend to be the thing preventing me from stopping crying.
November 30th, 2015 1:15am
Once I start crying, i dont really think about why i am crying. I just want to feel pain, and i want to suffer. I want others to feel what i feel, so they would come and tell me they are sorry, and make me feel better. If no one is there to do that. I just can not stop. I want someone to notice me :\
May 27th, 2015 9:53am
I don't cry often anymore (Maybe once or twice in the past 3 or so years), but when I did, it was because I had been bottling up all of my emotions for a long time. When you start to cry, the gates open. Think of it in Lord of the ring terms. People are on edge and anxious for a long time (Bottling it up), then the gates of Mordor open and out floods a horde of orcs (Tears). They don't stop for a long time because there is so much in there. That's the best example I can come up with.
March 7th, 2016 9:37pm
Crying is important! Cry and cry until you literally can't anymore and never be ashamed. Its not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.
December 25th, 2018 2:18am
That usually happens when you hold back a lot and or when emotions build up. The moment you allow yourself to break, your true self comes forward and everything just flows out. It isn’t something to be ashamed of. And it’s healthy and normal when you have been suffering for a while. Allow yourself to cry when you need it. It is brave and honest. A raw expression of humanity. You are very self-aware to ask such a question and seek an answer. It might have to do with that you need some sort of release. If crying is the form it takes, try and let it be. Good luck, I wish you the best.
April 5th, 2016 12:55am
Sometimes expressing your emotions will trigger more suppressed feelings. I often bottle up my emotions over longer periods of time so when I let them out i cry for a long time because I express all of those feelings or thoughts I've been holding in.
April 19th, 2016 10:56pm
Crying is healthy. Just let it flow. :) Your body needs to finish letting its emotions out of your system.
October 26th, 2015 10:38am
It's good to just let out your emotion. No one said crying is a bad thing and should be stopped. What's important, that you don't hold yourself down, but get up and find things that make you happy.
January 29th, 2015 4:16am
The first tear in crying is usually a catalyst for all pent-up emotion to come flowing out. Although it may seem inconvenient, letting yourself cry and get it all out is good to maintain one's emotional balance.
May 9th, 2016 5:39pm
I was turning six and we were supposed to go see my dad, because my parents were split up. They had split up because my dad became abusive towards my mom when she was pregnant with me. And she didn't want me and my sister to have to grow up seeing that, and she didn't want to have to deal with it so they ended it. But anyway, we were supposed to go and visit my dad at the police station, we were there for about 4 hours, and he never showed. That was the start of my tears, depression, and self hate. It all started to stop when I turned about 13 because I stopped blaming myself for him leaving, but I still cry. I cry and I can't stop because of how much pain I have been through and that I beat myself up over the stupidest things, and I can't seem to stop.
January 25th, 2016 9:15pm
Because sometimes when we need an emotional release, crying feels good. Its a form of release so go.
February 1st, 2016 11:44pm
Don't try and stop, work on getting all of that emotion out, otherwise it'll just stay hidden away and avoided.
November 3rd, 2015 8:44pm
sometimes we hold our emotions in for two long and after a while, they all come out at once. Its totally normal, but jsut make sure that if it becomes to much you talk to a trusted person in your life
June 20th, 2016 5:26pm
Emotions can sometimes be really hard to control for a multitude of reasons. They could be so strong and so powerful that they're really hard to stop, which is normal. They could also have a great impact on your life, which could also be a reason.
May 8th, 2018 6:19pm
You probably haven't talked about your feelings in a while and it just gets too overwhelming sometimes that once you start expressing in any way you can't stop it. Just my guess.
June 22nd, 2015 10:11am
Crying is a way of releasing the emotions and tension we feel within ourselves and isn't always a sign that something is very wrong. Don't feel bad about crying and certainly don't try to force yourself to stop, let it all out and you will find you will slowly start to calm down. In a extreme cases crying can lead to dehydration, in which case you should go to you doctor.
November 24th, 2015 9:41pm
think about why you're crying and cry it away. It's healthy to cry don't worry, it'll stop eventualy
February 23rd, 2021 7:50pm
Some questions to ask in these situations are: Have you been bottling up your emotions or avoiding to really feel your feelings? When this is the case, it might feel like you can't stop crying when you finally allow yourself to feel whatever you have been avoiding and "the dam burst". This is completely normal and you will eventually stop crying, don't worry. ;) Sometimes some things are so distressing that they can affect us more than others. This might also cause you to be extra emotional when triggered in one way or another. Try to look at it from a place of curiousity. Ultimately, some people are just more sensitive than others, and this is perfectly fine. There is nothing wrong with crying, it is actually a healthy way of processing your feelings. Healing happens by feeling. Wishing you well. 💗
April 10th, 2015 6:55pm
too much pain can heal you with yourself ..time takes...within ..crying makes you better and you have that pain or whatever you have you want to get it out it one will ..say anything cuz everyone cries in some point in their life...whether past, present or future doesn't make difference!
November 9th, 2015 2:38am
A lot of the times we bottle up emotions and crying is a great way to let them out so if you are the type to bottle them in then whenever you let it out it's a release for you.