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Why do bad things happen to me? I've never been a 'bad kid'.

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Last Updated: 06/01/2020 at 10:02pm
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June 11th, 2015 7:18pm
It really sucks that bad things happen to good people. I've gone through episodes where I've been rejected by girls, teachers, judges at auditions... and it just makes you feel like you're worthless. Like maybe if this happens so often... you probably deserve it. And that's not true. Shakespeare's Julius Caesar has a quote:
February 12th, 2015 12:51am
First of all I am sorry that bad things happen to you ,you don't deserve it. No one does, not even a "bad kid" deserves these things happening to them. I think that it is fair to say that regardless of whom you are as a person and what you offer to the world, if a bad thing does happen to you in the end it only makes you stronger, yes we shouldn't want bad things happening to us but we also shouldn't have this attitude in which we question why. Questioning and saying "why me?" forces you to dwell on this and puts you down, this energy can be used and channelled to work on coping and recovering from these bad things. After all that's the most important thing, moving forward.
November 8th, 2015 10:01pm
Expecting life to treat you right because you’re a good person,is like expecting a tiger not to kill you because you’re a vegeterian
July 29th, 2015 10:09pm
Sometimes life has a mysterious way of delivering us with instances, with circumstances, with life situations which we cannot even expect, which we may not deserve; it takes courage and persistence to continue forward, to push past boundaries and troubling time, stress and negativity. Its important to remain faithful and true, to believe in yourself, to take initiative and be willing to push past unfortunate events; what happens in life does not define us, what defines us is how we progress forward, how we learn, how we grow and continue to live.
February 16th, 2015 11:25pm
Sometimes bad things happen to people. It doesn't mean you are a bad person, the way you react to that bad thing determines that.
April 11th, 2015 2:26am
These "bad things" are here to make you stronger.You have to learn from them and fight through them!
April 19th, 2015 9:15pm
it depends your situation and also those people who are involved to make it bad to you . i hope this helps to answer your question.
May 16th, 2015 3:11am
Life is not subjective, my friend - circumstances don't mind whether or not you're playing by the rules. I'm so sorry you're having bad stuff happen to you, though, and I hope things get better for you soon. We're always here to talk to.
November 27th, 2015 4:29am
Bad things will always happen to good people, but this is what makes good people great. A flower has to grow through dirt before it blooms.
- Expert in Managing Emotions
March 21st, 2016 4:13am
Bad things happens to most people. The idea is to turn that bad things around to make it as a lesson and never letting it happen again if possible. And if it does happen again then you know that you have more to learn and keep moving forward.
December 7th, 2015 8:21am
They say: "Bad things happen to good people". And for a reason. You might be the most nicest and amazing person there is, yet get hurt, you could be the bully and still get hurt. But you get hurt for 2 things. To live and learn. Accept it as it is, learn from that bad thing and you'll see how much you experienced. Who knows, maybe when your older you'd be wiser and know how to live life. ;)
June 14th, 2016 8:54pm
Sometimes life is very cruel! You're not being punished. Life sometimes tests us, keep fighting and be strong :)
June 29th, 2015 7:20am
Just because you aren't a bad kid doesn't mean bad things won't happen to you. Everyone deals with something. No matter how big or small the problem is. We all deal with things differently. So bad things might be happening to you because your always caught up in the wrong time and place. Just think before you do and try to thing positive about your surroundings.
September 15th, 2015 2:25pm
Good and bad things happen to everyone. It is helpful to practice gratitude for the good things which in turn lessens the quantity and impact of the bad things.
October 27th, 2015 6:26pm
Bad things happen to everyone. No matter if your the nicest person in the world or insanely evil, bad things are going to happen.
December 8th, 2015 2:23am
Bad things always happen to everyone. Even if I tried my best, there's no guarantee that things will go the way I want. The things is, bad things make you a stronger person. You learnt how hard it is to deal with bad things, and when you pass through it, it's like you leveled up! :)
June 14th, 2016 12:49am
The truth is nobody is good or bad. Life doesn't care your background or gender or ethnicity. It only cares about challenging you at your lowest time. It's a test and you will pass this test.
August 9th, 2016 9:19pm
'Bad things' (along with 'bad people') don't actually exist. It all comes down to how you react to a certain situation or person.
February 6th, 2017 4:28pm
Bad things are just inevitable in life. Oddly enough, you could be the angle of the family or a perfect person but those things just happen sometimes. I always told myself, the good has to outweigh the bad and vice versa. So, you might have some bad moments in your life or bad things happen, but good things and good moments come back too. They balance each other out, I just don't know how or why, something I guess the universe only knows.
January 16th, 2018 4:33am
Bad things happen to the best of people, it’s hard and unfair, but it is a part of life. We need to learn how to grow and come out of these challenges stronger then we went in.
April 10th, 2018 6:05am
Sadly bad things always hapoen to good people. But, whatever youre going though, im sure youll be a better person for it.
June 18th, 2018 2:43pm
Hey fella! Bad been there,done that! You know life is bad when outta nowhere your hormones are outta whack and you get those ups and downs, unhealthy thoughts as a consequence. Failing in exams, failing at work, failing in the social life and list is never ending. Yeah failing in Love too. I am here to seek more of the opinions to give opinions. I have found myself in terrible situations lately and from my childhood. How to deal with this? Okay I deal with one or the two of them,then other couple of problems are knocking at my doors and some standing in the queue. So what to do? No body trusts you, rejections from dream job,a good university admit, no mental satisfaction and so on. I have planned to search these type of forums to through them and share experiences which can help others and help me. You can ask me questions I am willing to help :)
June 1st, 2020 10:02pm
It's unfortunate, but sometimes, bad things are unavoidable. Even if you do your best, or do everything right, sometimes bad things will happen. When they do, try not to immediately assume it's your fault because a lot of the time, it won't be. Hold your head up, take a deep breath, and try to keep going. If you need help or need to talk about it, reach out to friends or family, or even here on 7cups. Sometimes, however, you'll try your best, and still make a mistake that has negative consequences, and that's okay. Nobody's perfect, and you're not defined by your worst moments.