Why do I always negatively exert my emotions on friends?
Last Updated: 04/20/2021 at 5:29pm
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It is common for one to vent their frustrations on those that care for them most because they know those people care for them sincerely and will ultimately forgive them. One thinks they do not face dire consequences by lashing out at them because their friends are understanding of their nature. Still when you unhealthily unleash your emotions in this sense you are not only harming yourself now but others as well. Sometimes one also lashes out at their friends because they feel they don't deserve their friends care. This is also a common act of self sabotage as well but also another way to harms others unintentionally through unhealthy care with emotions. It is very important to find ways to work through emotions in a secure and nonthreatening setting. It prevents so many complications and harm. Meditation is a great temporary solution to help release overwhelming emotions.
Generally, when you're with your friends, you feel safe or more vulnerable. You're defenses are lowered. Which means, if you're having a lot of big, negative emotions, and it's challenging for you to control them, those emotions can be messy and spray onto whoever is closest to you, like spaghetti sauce that sits too long in the microwave.
I find that this happens to me often. When I get extremely distressed or panicked, I tend to lash out on whoever is closest. And the people who are closest are usually my friends. I find that with strangers, I can sometimes hide how I am feeling since I know that there are certain ways that I am supposed to act around strangers. But with my friends, I'm more open. I don't hide my feelings, and, as a result, it's more likely that I'll lash out at them.
Because sometimes you just don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. When loss occurs, it is normal to behave negatively. Eventually after the complaining there will be acceptance. And in a quiet moment, you might even realise what you have not been seeing.
We tend to express a lot worse to the one close to us, because in society we constantly try to improve or hide our true emotions in order to protect ourselves. Expressing a lot of negativity can be a sign you are stressed and need support. If they can't understand, they are probably hurt. Try to explore why you feel how you feel and try to tell them you need their help. It's not shame in asking for help.
usually people are not mad at the person or thing they take they're emotions out on usually its a build up of emotion until they can't take it anymore and they just burst on the person or thing that's closest
Sometimes it is easiest to take negative emotions out on friends because of our comfort level with that person. It is okay to have negative emotions and choosing to lean on friends to open up too at times. Learning to identify the emotions and the trigger of these negative emotions can help with better understanding these emotions and what causes them. Finally, expressing these identified emotions with friends will be therapeutic and a growth process for everyone involved.
Because you feel them that you have complete right on them and they arethe people who never gonna leave you
Sometimes I feel like, since they're my friends, it's their job to deal with my struggles, and I assume that they can handle it.
In my own personal experience, I have done this accidentally many times in the past. Sometimes, If you bottle your emotions too much, you end up accidentally spilling some out but in a negative way. It all comes from the stress. Once I opened up willingly and let out all of my emotions and stress and vented, I no longer felt the urge to exert such emotions on my close ones. Another thing was is that I suppose I was upset that they didn't help and didn't care to notice and ask, but it takes 2 to help. One to talk and One to listen. They can't listen to one who won't talk after all!
Because you are comfortable and you trust your friends. No matter what you do they will always be there for you.
Sometimes when I am overwhelmed it is very easy to exert my emotions onto those who don't deserve it. I have found that the stresses of our daily lives can add quickly causing our patience to wear thin and for our shoulders to feel weighted. Who wants to be treading a large inclined mountain with 40lbs of the backpack on them in the heat only to hear someone say go faster? It's like life if you ask me. We have our work, our school, our families, our problems, our insecurities, etc., etc. & then we have a friend wanting our presence. Sometimes that is simply overwhelming. Just taking a moment to realize our patience is probably thin and separating our issues from them in perspective can really help us keep our cool. They care about us and they want what's best for us. If anything they can be the very one to help take some of that weight off of our back if given the chance.
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