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Why do I feel better than everyone else?

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Last Updated: 08/06/2021 at 10:43am
Why do I feel better than everyone else?
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Top Rated Answers
AncientSoul
February 26th, 2017 7:56am
When this happens I never ask why, I ask HOW can I make others feel the same? It's a bliss either by simply having nothing to feel bad about, or by having a lot to feel bad about for so long that is growing to be too much, and then you decide to let it all go and decide to feel better :)
CK927
March 29th, 2017 4:45pm
It maybe because you've accomplished your goals and pretty proud of yourself and your accomplishments, or simply content with the way things are :)
Anonymous
June 14th, 2017 4:30am
Sometimes we find it hard to relate to other people's struggles and it is hard to see that other people. Try to remind yourself other people can go through stuff too.
Hereforyou19941115
August 6th, 2017 10:13pm
Maybe because you are better than anyone in your life,in your life not in life,it's a very good thing to know who you are,to know what are yoy good at,what you can do better than your friends your siblings, But you should be fair,you should truly know whether you are good or you're being arrogant.. Another thing to say,if right now you are good at something that doesn't meen you'll be good at it all the time or you will be the best all the time so you should keep trying to be better
Averyisheretohelp
November 29th, 2017 2:58pm
There could be many different reasons why you are perceiving that you feel better than everyone around you. Maybe those people are battling mental health issues, are feeling ill, are having intense emotions, or simply are having a bad day. Whatever the case may be, do not place blame on yourself for feeling good.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 5:49am
You're confident.and happy you shouldn't compare you selves with others but take your time and be happy!
TeenPhaseUghh
December 8th, 2017 6:24pm
You could be Narcissistic, NPD is when you have a really big ego. There's nothing particularly wrong with having NPD but you might want to lower your self-confidence a bit if you believe you may be coming across as a show off.
IIRainOnMyParadeII
December 8th, 2017 11:20pm
Feeling better that everyone else is not necessarily a bad thing, as long as it doesn't turn into something rude or you don't put anyone down. I actually find it god to have confidence in who you are. I honestly share the same feeling, maybe it is because of the environment surrounding me? I really have no clue. The best I can say, is try not to feel guilty for it, I believe everyone feels better than everyone else at some point, nothing wrong with it as long as you respect everyone else :)
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2017 4:48am
I think everyone feels this way sometimes. The fact of the matter is there are some things that you are better at than other people. It's human nature to find the faults in other people, and better ourselves. But if you think it's becoming problematic, maybe try to start finding gifts in other people that are unique to them--gifts that you don't have. Maybe you will start to appreciate their gifts while still appreciating your own
Painends12
December 29th, 2017 9:57am
Feeling better than everyone isnot always a bad quality,it might be because you have achieved more goals that you had for yourself or you are content with yourself,this quality of yours will allow you to go ahead in life but remember to not overlook others around you and help them out and to always be grounded otherwise it might cause a negative impact and you might find yourself falling straight to the ground but as long as you are happy and content and grounded,noone can stop you from success so you do you!
goodlistener2you
January 31st, 2018 7:55pm
truly happyy
Anonymous
May 6th, 2018 2:04pm
you confidence has overpowered your soul and has made a self centered ego, which makes you think you are the best of the best.
Ybf
June 20th, 2018 11:39am
Confidence is a good thing. Perhaps people have disappointed you so many times that you have taken note of what not to do, hence you are practising how to be a better person.
athenacleere
July 21st, 2018 1:55am
Why do you feel better than everyone else? It seems like you have a good idea of yourself and a positive outlook on life.
MarcelK
August 1st, 2018 11:26pm
I use acceptance as the main mantra. Enjoy good, learn from the challenges, but be in the moment. It is important to be here in your life, you are the protagonist of it.
Sweetieangel
August 2nd, 2018 9:10am
All have one special ability they have so you want find what special abilities you have make your skills grow for achieving
Anonymous
September 16th, 2018 3:11pm
The feeling of "Elation" is often a side effect of Bipolar Disorder, which is the switching from one extreme mood to the other - Depression to Elation. Many people with this kind of brain chemisty fluxuation go from suicidally depressed to unihibitedly manic. Manic means being hyperactive with poor judgement, usually. It can be a very dangerous condition, and in both extremes the person's judgement is impaired, and dangerous behaviors may be entertained. If people are telling you that you are way too happy, you might be elated by a mood disorder. It's good to check this out with a doctor of Psychiatry.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2018 9:12pm
I do not compare myself to others, I see those who I want to be like and try to be a better person for those around me. If I am in a good place so are those around me. Also remember ( * * When you car for others and other care for you, your problems are not yours anymore. * * ) Allow those around you to help, trust me you will never be a bother, and never think that you are not important or that you do not matter as much as another person. Xoxo Love your friendly listener
Mary0000
April 17th, 2019 5:07pm
Feeling better than everyone else is not necessarily a bad thing, as long as it doesn't turn into something rude or you don't put anyone down. I actually find it good to have confidence in who you are and believe in yourself. I honestly share the same feeling, maybe it is because of the environment surrounding me? I really have no clue. The best I can say, is try not to feel guilty for it, I believe everyone feels better than everyone else at some point, nothing wrong with it as long as you respect everyone else .
Anonymous
May 9th, 2019 10:52pm
It could be a defense mechanism. Like "oh I am better than others so if they don't like me it's their loss". It's a way to minimise the fear of rejection, to feel you are more special than others. The right way to go for it, would be to feel equal or that everyone are unique in their own way, so if you approach someone or if you aren't approached by someone as you expected you can just say" oh we are different", not take it personally. It's a way of protecting yourself and it indicates a fragile self confidence( even if it seems like overconfidence -feeling better than others).
Anonymous
May 31st, 2019 9:47pm
In some way I feel better when I get to help others. In a way I get to subconsciously deal with own problems but also, I’ve always loved helping others feeling like i get to make someone else happy and relieved and less alone! I think it’s so incredibly important to feel like you’re apart of something because I’ve myself dealt with the feeling of being all alone in the world. By feeling as if you’re apart of many, you get to feel a sense of community and as if you’re not dealing with all of this while everyone else has it all planned out. Simply said for me, this is a way of finding like minded people that I can help based on problems I’ve had.
WarmHeart22
June 7th, 2019 1:44pm
Unfortunately, there is a variety of environmental factors that can contribute to this. It is also possible that the feeling of being better than everyone else is a result of personality disorders, such as delusions of grandeur, which means you think you are much more important than other people or narcissistic personality disorder in which you focus on egocentrism, or that the world circulates around you. I know because my friend feels this way. But, it may not be based on personality disorder alone. In fact, you might feel that you are better than everyone else, but not have a personality disorder, so don't feel discouraged. Sometimes coming from low-income environments or an environment that doesn't fit you has something to do with it.
15Kenzi
June 30th, 2019 7:24am
I think it’s because you compete with others and you think you are winning. Maybe you think you know more than everyone else or you can do a certain thing better than everyone else. The truth is, one can always learn something from others. That’s why it’s always great to expand your social circle to diversify your knowledge. I am not too sure about what the exact reason is. All I know is this: If you start feeling that you are better than everyone else, then you will stop learning. If you stop learning, then you will remain the same. If you remain the same for long, then everyone else will outrun you, and if that happens, then you will proceed to ask the following question on Quora: “Why do I feel like everyone else is better than me?” Therefore, it's best to compete with yourself than to compete with others. This is because if you compete with yourself today, you will become a better person tomorrow. That's when you really forget about being better than others and focus on being a better you.
katherine081902
July 28th, 2019 6:43am
If you mean that you feel better than everyone ego-wise, there are many reasons for that. It could be as simple as the people around you put you on a pedestal and bring themselves down, I know some people that my friends put on a higher pedestal because they seem better. Or there are possibilities such as the people around you don't measure up to your personal standards so you see yourself as better because you measure up to your own standards which is not a bad thing by any means! This becomes toxic and bad when you start expressing that you are better than everyone else and telling them that they are worse than you. There are some people that I think I am better than but I don't express that in any way and I don't bring them down. :)
darquem
August 28th, 2019 1:13pm
Because you'd like to be better than everyone else - maybe your parents raised you to think you were somehow special (which may or may not have been true), or you peaked early in school and have been living off that high since. Maybe there is something special about you, who knows, but it would be wisest for you to remain down-to-earth and play to your objective strengths, all the while doing your best to improve in other areas. Then and only then can you even come close to fulfilling that vision you may have of yourself - best of luck to you.
peacefulLight8704
October 17th, 2019 2:18am
It's hard to answer this without a bit of background info, but I get what you are saying. I mean, I would say it's not totally abnormal for people to feel this way sometimes, but if it gets in the way of your life or how you treat others, i think that's when you probably should try to work on it. I mean, it probably isn't even a mental disorder or anything like that; it may just be a part of you. All of us have vices, some deal with pride, some with anger, some with hate or greed.
softPink8625
December 6th, 2019 10:24pm
I think that's natural that as humans it's always easier to spot other people's flaws and not our own. And because of that, we always feel like we are better than others, when in reality we all have our flaws. In that same mindset, we tend to put the blame on others whenever we're dealing with problems, instead of introspecting our own faults. I find that it's important to know our strengths and have self confidence. But it is also important for balance, to know your weaknesses and mistakes. Because as humans none of us are perfect, and with that in mind it is easier for me to be more humble and not so focused on other people's weaknesses
bellarina74
January 31st, 2020 9:25pm
Maybe you have a different attitude to others and choose to see the positives in every situation you encounter. Most people do not have the ability to do this so seeing you do so can stir feelings of jealousy on their behalf. Regardless of what others are doing or saying, maintain your integrity and stay true to yourself. Keep treating people the way you are and at the end of the day you can hold your head high in any given situation. If someone is not accepting your upbeat attitude you have the choice of whether you want to associate with them and be pulled down by their negative energy.
BrightUnicorn14
February 29th, 2020 5:33am
Maybe you are at a point in your life where you feel better than others because you are doing things to take care of yourself, therefore, you have a higher level of self care and self love going on than those around you. Sometimes, the more we take care of ourselves, the more positive we feel about ourselves and our lives. This can really be beneficial as we are growing and maturing, because its important to take time for yourself to do things that nurture your soul. Think about what you like to do- do you do these things on a daily basis? How are you dealing with conflict? Do you have a strong support system and a good network that you feel is there for you? All of these things combined may be adding to why you are feeling better than those you are around.
CourtneyGirl
March 15th, 2020 2:30pm
When a person feels like they are better than others, it is often because they have a deep-seated sense of security. They may adopt an identity that places them above how they truly feel about them self. What they need is to try to get to the point where they accept themselves as they, where they see themselves as human and see themselves on par with others. In a number of cases, the person truly is better than others around them, at least in a few select areas or a few superficial character traits. However, in terms of deep character and sense of worth, nobody is really better than another. When one feels like they are better than others, change starts with truly accepting ourselves as we are and then opening our hearts up to others and seeing their value and worth as well. Helping those we see as less fortunate and truly trying to connect with them will help aid in having a more reasonable view of ourselves.