Why do I feel so numb all the time?

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Why do I feel so numb all the time?
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iListen
October 29th, 2014 10:37am
I believe it's a type of defense mechanism where the part of your brain that processes emotions just shuts down. When it's had too much to handle that the only way it can cope is to not feel anything. Thus the feeling of numbness. But eventually, when you're ready, you can let yourself feel again.
Br33zyS3tz
July 4th, 2015 9:26pm
Feeling numb; this seems to occur when so many emotions are at war with one another, when managing emotions, managing experiences, time, and one's surroundings, seem to just collide so rapidly, leaving one almost breathless; a comatose state. Feeling numb, for me, resembles a time of wanting so many things, of wanting to be so active and involved with people and the world, and my own feelings, of wanting to express myself at the highest levels, yet feeling completely stuck in my present state. Feeling so numb all the time results form inactivity, both physical and emotional; from not being able to fulfill certain urges and desires, from not feeling important or wanted, from not feeling valued or appreciated. Feeling numb results from the incapacity to put will to use; one must combat numbness by acting upon urges and desires.
LovingEars
August 2nd, 2015 8:35pm
Sometimes we feel numb because we feel disconnected, from other people, from joy, from what we thought our life would be like before something else happened instead. Somewhere along the way we lost what we wanted, and go caught up in what came our way instead. We feel trapped, and are afraid to make the decisions that may get us out of that trap because even though feeling numb feels bad, it's sort of become our comfort zone too.
AboveAllisLove
July 24th, 2015 10:28am
I can't speak for you or your experiences, so I will tell you about mine. Usually, when a person undergoes physical pain, that person's body goes into shock. The nervous system completely shuts down because the pain is too much too handle. The same goes for emotional, mental or psychological pain. It's a reaction to terrible trauma that occurred previous to it. There's no need to worry, though. It's not permanent :) Just take a look at me, I used to be about as responsive as a brick wall and now, I'm a Listener on 7 Cups of Tea! I'll tell you a secret, how to un-numb. The cliche answer is- Love! I know, I know. Oh my goosh, love?? Yes, love. Love for yourself, love for AND from your family, friends etc. Trust me, it's like heat on an ice cube :) Feel free to message me if you feel like you're in need of a little love
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 5:31pm
Numb is the result of feeling helpless to stop bad emotions. It is a way the brain copes with feeling overwhelmed by it's inability to resolve a severe or persistently bad situation. Instead of feel more and more depressed, the brain turns off all emotions, good and bad, in an attempt to allow you to continue to function, albeit at a reduced capacity. If the situation resolves or becomes less intense, emotions will return. The key is to determine what is trapping you and what your options are. Then take action or ask for help.
Anonymous
July 19th, 2015 1:26pm
Sometimes, we all feel numb from time to time. The reasons vary from person to person. However, everyone seems to come from the same point of view. Emptiness. The feeling of emptiness in which ever way we interoperate it, may we be from feeling unloved, unwanted or a sense of feeling worthless. These stem from feeling Empty which in turn makes us feel numb, it may also make you feel detached from life and all that's around you. There is no simple quick fix, it can be a process and depending on the reason for you feeling this way, it can take a matter of days, weeks, months and in some cases, years. To help you feel a little more, awake, delve into something that you would not usually do. Paint all your feelings in a work of art. Listen to the music that you know will make you feel. Remember though, you are still feeling, as, a feeling of numbness is a human feeling. The fact that you picked up on it shows that you are very in tune with your inner self and want to find a way to feel other feelings, like happiness, joy and perhaps, love. Take small steps to help you feel these emotions. Find the music, movies, books, hobbies, people, that make you feel good and be involved in them, I wish you the very best.
Anonymous
November 4th, 2014 7:35am
There are so many reasons for feeling that way. But for me, it's because a person is in so much pain, that they wish someone could just take away the pain, and when it happens, one becomes numb of everything. It happens when you don't want to give notice to something, that you don't want to feel anymore. You're too afraid to feel the emotions that made you weak, that made you depressed. You're the only one who can truly answer why you feel so numb all the time. We have our own experiences, and pain can make us truly numb after moving on.
VARabbit
July 5th, 2015 10:53am
Numbness; not feeling anything. You feel numb because you don't WANT to feel. The pain, the anger, the sadness, it was all too much. Thus, you choose not to feel. When you open up and let all of your emotions out, you'll learn to feel again. It's not permanent. You will be able to feel the joy, the happiness and the excitement through time. Stay strong.
graciebug1107
July 5th, 2015 10:40pm
you may feel numb because you actually don't understand what you are feeling. You may just not be able to put a label on your emotions.
justtrustme
June 25th, 2015 4:12am
We feel numb because we have been overwhelmed with too much. It is a coping mechanism, a way to stop feeling so that we don't break. It is a defence against what hurts us most. If we are numb, we feel nothing. You are numb because you hurt. That is OK. You can only squeeze your hand so hard before eventually your body accumulates to that pressure, and it feels almost non-existent.
Anonymous
October 29th, 2014 12:06pm
What you are experiencing might be depression. I don't really know why it happens. It's a really bad feeling, but everything will return. Maybe not soon, but you will feel all your emotions one day, and you won't ever feel anything close to numbness again. I'm saying this from experience.
Erynn
December 24th, 2014 11:11am
There are many reasons for feeling numb, the most common one is depression. But, emotions are very individual. It may help to journal or discuss this with someone. When did you first start feeling this way? What was going on at the time? How long have you been feeling like this? Were there any breaks for a while? What are some common thoughts that you have when you are feeling numb? How long do you feel numb before the emotion changes? How quickly does it return? It may help to track your emotions for a while - when you start feeing numb, make note of what you are thinking, what was just happening in your life, and any other emotions you may feel in addition to or before/after you feel numb. It sounds like you've been feeling numb for a long time- if you haven't already, it may be a good time to look into seeing a counselor and seeking some professional help.
MChloe
July 15th, 2015 1:46pm
Feeling numb is frustrating and I know because I've felt that way. But I can tell you that it is not a permanent feeling. You won't feel like that your whole life, don't worry. It is hard to stop feeling numb, but there are so little things that you can do that can probably help you: do things you love. Go out, hang out with friends/family, take care of yourself, etc. You probably feel like this because you felt so much pain that now your brain just shut down and you don't want to feel anymore. You feel devastated, like there's nothing to look forward to. And i'm sorry about that. I hope you can overcome this problem, good luck with everything!
brightForest58
August 2nd, 2015 11:40pm
I tend to feel numb when my life is dull. I get into a rut where my life is the same day in and day out. No excitement to get my blood pumping. I talk to the same people everyday about the same things. Nothing new. When I start to feel numb I know it's time for change. Sometimes it's something simple. A new haircut. A new outfit. Sometimes I need to make big changes. A new place to live or a new job. Change is good. It reminds us to always evolve as a person. If those things don't help then I look beyond the daily details. Look for a new hobby. Go skydiving! Time to start thinking and acting outside of the box!
calmWaves10
June 26th, 2015 2:27am
Becoming physically numb can be incredibly frightening, but becoming emotionally numb can also be very serious. Emotional numbness is essentially feeling emotionless. It's related a great deal to depression and extreme stress, and it occurs most often in those with severe anxiety.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2014 3:45am
I feel the feeling of numbness is a symptom in response to some emotional stressor. I think the best way to go about addressing it is to strengthen the body and focus our physical sense to balance these emotions or lack of.
Starree
September 21st, 2014 3:26pm
sometimes this is a way to mentally proctect yourself from stress or other negative emotions. When it becomes a reoccuring feeling it is mot likely that it still takes a toll on you and you have yet come to acceptance of the negative that has been numbing you.
Semi198
January 3rd, 2018 5:53pm
I believe its a defense mechansim of the body in stress or periods of grief that i have been through so much mental and emotional stress that it became so unbearable that eventually and gradually i started feeling numb and this process just continued. First ,there were fragments of feelings that i used to have then they were lost too over the period of time and made me more numb. With the passing time i only felt it worse than before. I don't know whether its killing me or making me stronger. It just becomes a part of you and you have this belief that you are lost forever
joyousJoy97
August 1st, 2015 1:59am
for me its not that i actually feel numb but the fact that i wont allow myself to feel anything. I dont want people to know im sad so i find it easier to just block it out.
hopefulPower94
July 1st, 2015 2:07am
Sometimes when people have been through trauma or have experienced intense emotions, the mind protecting its sanity will suppress the emotions leaving the person feeling numb.
thisismejessica
December 22nd, 2014 6:01am
Numbness usually caused by too much emotions at one time (until you cannot feel anymore / numb). You can try sorting your feelings one by one and learn to recognize what you're feeling at the moment. It's like a shopping bag with a lot of things inside. One way to resolve it is to take out some stuff inside and sort one by one on the table.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 1:47pm
For me, it would be because of the pain I've been through. The loneliness, the grief, the abuse, all of that burdens my heart and eventually, you feel numb from life. Like your heart has turned to stone and you're even too tired to feel anymore.
AnnCB83
July 30th, 2015 2:55pm
I used to be really scared when I would start to feel emotionally numb. I'd feel like crying, but wouldn't be able to, or I would feel like something should be funny, but I didn't feel any joy or humor. Now I've realized that when I am feeling emotionally detached, there is probably a thought pattern or a feeling that has gotten too strong and my mind if coping by shutting down my other emotions. With this insight, I've been able to take those moments and really try to get to the bottom of why I'm detaching. I find that if I start to feel that way "all the time," something must be going on that I don't understand or don't have the internal resources to deal with. That's when I know it's time to reach out to my support system: family, friends, and therapist.
gentleIceCream20
June 21st, 2015 10:10am
If we have too much of void in our lives,it will make us numb! The reason is we were put on this earth,with 24 hours of time everyday to use it fruitfully! If we ve too much unused time,or using the time to do things which are meaningless to us-numbess is bound to strike;and hard! So get busy,do what you love, keep away time for the people who love, don't obsess over one thing, experience new things every single day!savour the emotions and savour life!
Ripley85
July 9th, 2015 7:06pm
One reason for feeling emotionally "numb" can be your brain or subconscious's way of protecting you from getting hurt. If you have a history of trauma or being disappointed or hurt by others, this can cause you to avoid emotion altogether, whether it's positive or negative feelings. Feeling emotionally numb can also be a direct symptom of a traumatic experience. Our emotions can shut down entirely if the trauma was severe. Again, this is an uncontrolled response that serves to "protect." However, if you don't allow yourself to experience any emotion, you are losing the good along with the bad. This is something can can definitely get better and be treated with therapy.
kittykat
July 31st, 2015 5:13am
Emotional and physical numbness is a symptom of several mental and physical disorders. Depression is most commonly known for causing sadness, but more than "making people sad" it causes a bone deep numbness to emotion and tactile sensation that makes it difficult to experience the world accurately. Clinical depression is caused by an imbalance of serotonin and dopamine in the brain. Emotional numbness can also occur in bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and many other mental and personality disorders. If you're struggling with emotional numbness, the best course of action is to seek the counsel of a mental health professional. If you aren't able to do this because of finances, time, resources, or any other reason though, a listener on 7 Cups can offer emotional support. Physical numbness should be discussed with a physician as soon as possible as this can be a sign of serious conditions.
goodlife90
August 1st, 2015 4:49pm
You should learn self-motivation, understand what you have to do to achieve a possibility, your possibility.
Swahzycorn
June 20th, 2015 5:01am
Because you haven't thought about life in an actual sense. We are all here for our own personal agenda. Don't take this in a sense of religion. I am not forcing that on anyone, but you have to believe in you. Smile and understand that you were on of millions of sperm cells and you made it out. You survived childbirth. You survived adolescence, and now you feel burnt out from living. You have to feel something. You aren't truly numb you are just pensive. You need to stop thinking about what is wrong and realize these things. The fact that humans exist was a very slim chance.At one point you could do half of thing things animals do. Then you grew and understood. You are the smartest creature. Able to be the best in all places earth, water, and air. You are one in a million, and you haven't even realized it.
Anonymous
August 7th, 2015 10:10am
Sometimes all the things life throws at you to handle end up sort of muting some feelings and enhancing others. often if one is in a deep state of sadness, despair, etc. it's almost as if one gets familiar with that feeling and takes it as if they don't feel anymore, when often it's just because one or two feelings are felt so intensely, the others seem in the background. Other times it can be cases of the body's way to try to protect itself from additional pain (trying not to let anyone in or any feelings in, in case it leads to disappointment or getting hurt)
musicismyescape98
August 13th, 2015 9:09am
Sometimes it can be due to depression, depression has a way of making people feel numb. I'm an example.