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Why do I feel so numb all the time?

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Why do I feel so numb all the time?
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bellabagels
July 31st, 2015 11:23am
You feel numb because you simply cannot feel anything else. It's all crashing down on you, and suddenly you can't breathe, so you want to be able to choose that. You shut down so you don't have to feel, so you don't have expectations or emotional problems. Other times it isn't a choice; It just happens, because you're scared and alone and that hurts. Your mind says you don't want to feel, so you begin not to.
MusicalVision
August 16th, 2015 8:12pm
The answer is in you hun. You're expert on you, so inside you maybe there is something that's making you feel like that. What about if you look for it?
Ingrid9
October 25th, 2014 9:04pm
If you're feeling "numb", it could be a sign of depression. If this has persisted for a while now, I would suggest going to see a doctor to find out what's going on.
gracefullhand
July 4th, 2015 3:29pm
i am the same way......but its only because i dont know what i want to do with my life.....i started doing new things i usually dont do and i started writing all the things i need to improve now im back on the write track.....just try to push yourself away from what makes you sad or numb. right when you feel it so exercise or do some to distract yourself... you feel that what your doing is pointless probable or don't see a point to doing anything my advice is if you don't get any enjoyment out of doing the things you used to love then try doing something with a friend or family member that they love at least then you have a reason to do something that's not pointless
wcb2015
July 30th, 2015 8:59pm
I believe the reason that you feel that way is because in your mind you are telling yourself you feel that way. Its like if I tell my self over and over and over that I am ugly, I will start to believe it, but If I tell my self that I am cute, repetitively and change my mind set I will start to believe I am cute. Its all about the mindset and mentality you have
Anonymous
August 9th, 2015 6:11pm
It may because you do not know what to feel. You may be confused with your emotions that you don't have any at all.
love7696
October 8th, 2014 4:26pm
Feeling numb when u feel like messed up...life seems narrow and dark but what you all have to do is ignore darkness...look for almighty in small things...be grateful to what u r left with..and miracles will happen
Anonymous
July 30th, 2015 1:06am
Sometimes we feel numb because it is our body or mind's way of protecting us. If we are in danger, our mind may "check out" so to speak...become foggy...make so that we don't feel every little thing around us. Helps us not remember small details as well. Unfortunately, sometimes our mind plays tricks on us and remembers feeling like we are in danger even if we are not. This may lead to us feeling numb even when it is not going to protect/help us.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2015 5:14am
Perhaps, like me, you were afraid to feel. It's tempting to want to feel numb when you're suffering every day. However, it's not worth forfeiting your joy-- happiness is a whole other spectrum of life that, if numb, one cannot experience.
brightLove10
July 31st, 2015 4:41pm
A lot of things can lead to feeling emotionally numb Depression sometimes become so severe that you feel a complete absence of emotion in regards to everything. Frequently for myself, when I become over tired and over stressed for a long period of time I become numb because it is to exhausting to feel any emotion at that time. Something that helps me, is to sit down with my therapist or a friend and reflect on the day and really figure out how I feel about things that happened. It's kind of like forcing myself to feel in order to creak the cycle.
Grady
August 15th, 2015 11:17pm
Sometimes, you don't really feel numb, but are so overwhelmed that you can't process what's going on. Try writing or talking thru whatever comes to mind, ignoring the nagging feeling of "being numb." You'll get some feeling back - at least that's what I do when I start going numb.
HumanBeing77
December 17th, 2015 6:21am
I am trying to make my self happy by doing what I like don't care what people think about me I try to enjoy my life
dreamxangelxwings
January 28th, 2016 9:09pm
I tend to liken the feeling of numbness to the colour white. It's blank and bland and nothingness. But it's not. It's actually every colour together. So, numbness is actually the immense feeling of everythingness. But it's just too much to feel, so you feel nothing.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2015 10:54pm
I used to feel numb when I was depressed when i got help and talked and sorted through some issues I stopped feeling numb it took a while could this possabile whats going on for you ,
bornlistener
August 1st, 2015 11:55pm
It could be depression. A large part of it isn't feeling 'down'; you can feel detached too. If you feel this way persistently, have a chat a chat with your GP. They will be able to determine if you are experiencing a mental illness, of just tiredness or boredom, as these can be causes of 'numbness' too.
PeaNuTBuTTer633
August 12th, 2015 2:21am
Sometimes when we are going through something difficult and painful we don't want do feel the pain anymore. We may close suppress our feelings and emotions and ignore them. Sometimes we forget that we feel a certain way for a reason. Learning to recognize my emotions, understand why I'm feeling a certain way, and remembering it's okay to feel that way has personally helped me. Then I try to think of a way to try to overcome what I'm feeling and one of those ways for me was to come on here and talk to someone before when I had nobody else to go to. Sometimes whatever you think of may take time but that's alright. But that is my personal experience with numbness. It did take awhile to learn how to do those things though and help from a professional psychologist to get better at it.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 3:34am
Well, I feel numb when I am not very confident and also if you lack selfconfidence, that may be the main problem. Relax. Don't think what people will think of you.
RollingTide
- Expert in Managing Emotions
August 13th, 2015 5:57pm
The numbness comes from an overwhelming amount of emotion in a period of time which one's mental ability to control the influx of exaggerated feelings has reached an overflowing capacity. Usually brought on by feelings of hurt, sadness, or anger, the numbness is the body and mind's physical manifestation of a shutdown mechanism which allows one to deal with a stressful situation or environment. Example: Death. We cry our eyes out at the mention of a name, until we just can't cry anymore. It's not that we don't care, it's that the one emotion has been ongoing for so long, it shuts down, and "takes a break". Don't worry, most of us "reboot" with most emotions. Unless your stress is ongoing, and then you welcome the numbness to allow you to get thru each day, one day at a time.
competentHeart16
August 16th, 2015 6:37am
You feel numb because you take too much stress. As you may have gone through some kind of trauma or pain or shock in your life.
Korlix44
December 12th, 2015 10:15pm
Whenever i feel numb its because there's something I'm trying to avoid feeling. Often it leads to depression due to the fact that no pain also means no pleasure. we have to accept the negative aspects of life in order to grow out of them.
7CupsOfEspresso
December 13th, 2015 8:11pm
Its like a mental survival mode. When your feelings go numb, you might not be happy with things in your life. If you are happy with your life and you go numb, thats one way of your brain telling you that it may be tired of something. Whether its helping other people, or trying to keep up in school, or with friends or family, your mind may be exhausted.
daftjake96
December 15th, 2015 2:38am
because I always have to reach out to my friends to spend time with them. Never the other way around
SilentSerenityy
December 24th, 2015 9:27pm
Numbing is a way of blocking out pain or potential pain. It can be a sign of severe anxiety/depression. It can alleviate on its own but it's best to get the right help.
CoreyLush4321
January 3rd, 2016 7:51am
I believe it's a type of defense mechanism where the part of your brain that processes emotions just shuts down. When it's had too much to handle that the only way it can cope is to not feel anything. Thus the feeling of numbness. But eventually, when you're ready, you can let yourself feel again
7Smile7
January 3rd, 2016 10:57am
People usually feel numb when nothing makes them happy, when it seems that nothing makes sense, when you need love and attention but you can't really get that warmth, understanding and support... Or you can feel numb when you want something badly but can't get it.
AlwaysEssic
January 30th, 2016 4:56am
I have felt thus way many times. Feeling numb, a feeling you get when your lonely and unapricated. If you are feeling numb usually, it means you new to be around better people. Ind friends that make you laugh and smile. Don't go near people whom will bring you down.find a hobby that keeps you occupied numbness is often a sign of boredom. Do some activities that makes you happy
Kyle1989
June 10th, 2016 1:11am
This is usually a feeling that naturally occurs over time when not having experienced such things as compassion or love. Life just has a way of becoming mundane on a deeper level. When this does happen, it is obviously an indicator that you are lacking, and it's time that you start seeking those things. How to receive love and compassion, well, that's really up to you, follow your heart. Remember, character trumps superficial things such as charming personalities and looks, so don't get caught up in that nonsense. Otherwise, you will likely get stuck in the same cycle of feeling numb.
msswanepoel
October 18th, 2016 8:23am
For me, it was easier to not feel. It's uncomfortable to have to sit with my feelings and emotions most of the time. I was minuscule when it came to facing my feelings and processing about it, whether it was to someone else or myself. I suffer from PTSD, so for my experience, some things have traumatized me so badly that I became numb to survive. I also started using drugs a lot to cover myself from the world, and as a result of that, I also became numb. It was hard for me to acknowledge my feelings and sometimes it still is a challenge. And showing vulnerability and emotions seemed dumb to me before. Being numb was a defense mechanism for me. It's so much easier to convince myself that I don't feel anything than to admit to myself that I'm feeling a certain type of way that I don't like.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2015 7:47pm
You can often feel numb due to experiences and stress. Feeling numb can effect different people differently and the best thing to do is try and relax.
Anonymous
June 19th, 2015 3:29am
cause thats what depression does to you and it sucks big time im sorry you feel that way.............................................