Why do I have periods like 1-2 weeks when I can't stop thinking about my ex and I am depressed, and why am I totally fine after that for a few days(then it starts again)?

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Last Updated: 08/01/2017 at 7:18pm
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PashT007
March 31st, 2015 8:23pm
Sometimes we think of only the good that occurred in a bad relationship, then reality hits. We realize that we deserve better and then our feelings change because we are human, as long as we have feelings for someone our feelings will fluctuate.
ReyneeseLovingSnow
April 14th, 2015 4:40pm
different emotion takes place at different time, most of the time we're affected by daily situation.
Lucas17
November 24th, 2015 12:06pm
When you break up with someone you have this period where you try to find out why the relationship had to end, and its something you can't accept. After that period, your subconscious stores that unsolved feeling and you feel better. But as long as you don't get over with that feeling for real, your past will revive at times in your mind and haunt you. A relationship is not in your hands only, its in the hands of the other person too, you have to know that sometimes the answer will not be as clears as we demand and thats why you have to take care of yourself, thinking about you first, not why it ended. Be confident about yourself, you're special!
ptvDarcey
March 31st, 2015 9:38pm
It is inevitable that there are going to be times when exes pop up in your head. They probably meant a lot at one point and that never just goes away. It's a hard feeling, but it'll ease off soon. Break ups can be hard, whatever the part you played and therefre it is always going to be something swimming around in your head.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2015 8:22pm
Its all about fellings . when we are attached to some one closely we get a habbit of there love and care . When we dont get it we fell like alone . We need some one to fill that place of your ex in ur heart.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2015 8:17pm
Thinking about your ex might be causing stress and thus the hormonal changes in the body causes your cycle to alter.
Brittneym101
June 7th, 2015 7:27pm
Well, being stressed out can tend to change our menstrual cycles a lot. Just try to reduce your stress. Stay away from the things that are stressing you out the most and if you feel like you may still have feelings for your ex, try to talk to him/her about these feelings or talk to someone about it and maybe then you won't be so stressed out.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2015 2:00pm
when a relationship breaks down we go through a period of mourning. This is something very hard to deal with, it's a chapter that's ended in your life.. You need time to adjust! Let yourself grieve and let yourself release the pain. One day you will wake up and realize you have moved on and you won't feel the same about him anymore.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2015 9:33pm
It sounds like you have some unresolved issues regarding how you feel about your ex. Rather than actually confront your feelings, you may be trying to repress them, which allows for them to resurface periodically. Consider seeking professional help if you find such thoughts consuming.
comfortableComfort71
May 31st, 2016 8:37pm
It's all a part of the process of moving on with life. What you describe is actually very common, especially in situations where the breakup is still pretty recent. When you part ways with someone you care for, it's never easy. You'll have moments were you feel like everything is getting better and sometimes all it will take is one reminder to send you reeling again. It's important to remember that this is a process, and the more you continue to push forward, the easier it gets and the less you will find yourself thinking about them.
dontlooseyourself
August 1st, 2017 7:18pm
I don't know how long it has since the breakup, but sometimes ex's come into our minds because of memories (physical memories: pictures, songs, etc) and when that happens, you attach to your mind and ask more questions to yourself about it, but when you get into those periods of "oblivion", it is because you spend your time doing more things, things that you enjoy. Also notice that it is not bad to remember, getting over is not a synonym of forgetting, it means you have forgiven and you don't let it hurt you anymore.