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Why do I need medication to calm my emotions when others can do it without?

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Last Updated: 08/04/2020 at 1:55pm
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May 2nd, 2016 7:23am
Why does a diabetic person need to inject insulin when other people produce their own insulin? Why do I have pimples despite using prescription acne medications? Why does my sister need a stepping stool to reach tall shelves? The answer is the same in all cases. Every person is different, and our bodies work differently. Diabetic people don't make enough insulin. My body makes too many pimples. And my sister is just shorter than average. It makes us who we are, it makes the world interesting. Do I wish I didn't have pimples? Of course, that's why I use medication. We all have strengths and weaknesses. We are lucky to live in a world with stepping stools for short people, insulin for diabetic people, and medications for all kinds of problems. You should never be ashamed to seek help for your weaknesses, and you should always be proud of your strengths. Nobody is perfect in every way, and everybody needs help and tools to live their best life.
September 28th, 2015 12:56am
Some people need a little bit of extra help. That's all there is to it. It doesn't mean you are any less. It doesn't mean you don't have the ability or strength that others do. Medication just helps you in the way that you can't yourself. But since you are taking the medication, you are and can help yourself.
November 10th, 2015 8:03pm
Sometimes medication can be a bridge between the place that you're at and the place you want to be. It's not a sign of weakness; it's a sign that you need a little extra help. And honestly, it can change your life to see a little more clearly where you want to be. Does that ring true for you?
December 7th, 2015 3:32pm
Because your brain is specially designed to be more sensitive than some and that's both good and bad , the good part is you have feelings ! You aren't a rock that feels nothing like some people and that's awesome but the bad part is it may hinder you from other things in your life and that's why you take medication to help you better manage your emotions so your still as sensitive so you can control the outcome emotions without losing your feelings
May 10th, 2016 7:46pm
some people go through emotions differently. some more easier then others. some people need help with medication and others can mange their emotions. its okay if you take meds.
August 2nd, 2016 6:06pm
Many people often wonder this exact question, so if you take medication to function - you are not alone. Needing medication is not a character flaw, it is actually entirely chemical within your brain and is not something people can choose to happen or not. The fact is that some people can calm their emotions without medication, and others can calm their emotions with the help of medication. Receiving help like this is nothing to be ashamed of, and it should actually be seen as a positive step you have taken by bettering yourself with a healthy routine.
August 9th, 2016 11:24am
Everyone is different, some people's emotions are stronger than others and everyones brain works differently. It does not mean anything is wrong with you, just that you're different. Many people need medication as well so no need to be ashamed
September 4th, 2017 9:51am
Everyone is different, and everyone experiences distress differently. If your distress is so strong that a professional has recommended medication, then it's through no fault of your own. Mental illness is never one size fits all. A solution that works for one person may not work for the next and if medication works for you, then there is nothing to be ashamed of.
January 23rd, 2015 12:39am
Never feel embarrassed or ashamed about taking medications to help you. Some people can cope with situations and feeling as well as stress better then other. Medications are not for everyone anyway that's why the world has so many kinds of medications for so many type of ailments.
January 23rd, 2015 1:59am
Taking medication to help regulate your emotions doesn't mean that you're failing in an area where others succeed. Our brains are different, and we take care of ourselves accordingly. I had a similar question once, and I asked a mentor of mine about it. They said to me, "You know I have a prosthetic leg. If I asked you, 'why do I need this to walk when other people can do it without a prosthetic leg', what would you say to me? Would you tell me I was weak for relying on a crutch?" It was a eureka moment for me. We spoke about the stigma surrounding mental illness, and how there's still so much for people to learn. Taking medication to help us live our lives doesn't mean we're weak. It's like taking medicine for any sort of ailment that would help us to live better.
April 1st, 2015 5:21pm
Everyone is different. Sometimes people experience emotions based on particular events, are manageable, or mild, but sometimes they are very strong, long lasting, or caused by hormones and other processes of the body. In those cases, sometimes just 'trying' isn't enough to alter the way your body works and make you feel more balanced. Sometimes medication can provide the base, the jumpstart, or the extra push to becoming more balanced. Despite what we sometimes think, being happy and 'normal' isn't simply a measure of effort. The body is far more complicated than that and molecular level physiological processes and hormones definitely affect the way we think and feel. However, medication isn't magic. For some people maybe it would be overkill or wouldn't be the right fit for their problems or their body. And even if you have medication, you aren't magically 'fixed'. The human body is both miraculous and complex, and in many cases it takes a combination of medication and other methods (such as counseling, exercise, time management, good communication, etc) to actually feel even-keeled and okay with life.
April 4th, 2015 5:32pm
Sometimes people need a little bit of guidance for them to help see life more open minded and clearer
May 14th, 2015 8:18pm
Your question is akin to asking, “Why do diabetics need to take insulin to regulate their blood sugar when others can do it without?” Sometimes people’s bodies can produce too much or too little of certain chemicals. When that happens it can negatively affect your body or mind, and then you’ll require medication to keep your corporeal or emotional health in an acceptable state. Plenty of others use medication to help regulate their moods, so don't need to feel that you're alone in this.
June 13th, 2015 1:01pm
We are all different. We deal with things differently. What one person can deal with another may find extremely difficult to deal with. Needing medication to help cope with something doesn't make you any less of a person than someone who can cope with the same thing without it. It's all about trying to find what helps you deal with it :)
August 11th, 2015 7:00pm
First of all, it is not fair nor productive to assume that "others" are not using medication. Since the use of psychotropic medication tends to be a private manner, some of the people you may have in mind might simply have chosen not to share that information. What is more, medication (i.e. pills) is not the only way people calm or otherwise control their emotions. Some of the ways (that may also not reach the awareness of the public) are maladaptive, such as using alcohol, tobacco, self-injury, impulsive shopping, under- or overeating, excessive sleeping, etc. Other ways of emotional management are positive and constructive, for example, engaging in creative activities, light exercise, practicing mindful breathing, volunteering to help others, keeping a diary, taking a hot bubble bath, interacting with animals, etc. Medication can often be used to bridge that gap - that is, to assist in reducing maladaptive behaviours and increase the reliance on the adaptive ones (although do take this with caution, as I do not have enough information about your situation and this may not be true in your particular case ! The specific purpose for your current medication use should be discussed with your psychiatrist). Finally, remember that you do not have to take the medication for the rest of your life - it is just a temporary assistance during a difficult period of your life and is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of !
August 17th, 2015 7:24am
Everyone is different. For some people they are in some kind of control that they can start building a better self without the help of medication or medication just doesn't help them like it might help you. Different people have different problems and the severeness of that problem that it really depends on certain factors out of your control.
August 18th, 2015 1:24pm
Everyone is different, and everyone functions differently. Some people need medication to simply be able to walk, while others walk without problems. This doesn't make the person who needs medication any less, because the result is the same, both can walk. It's no different when you need medication to calm your emotions, although the stigma around mental health can make it seem that way.
August 31st, 2015 6:08pm
Everyone is different, and we all have different ways of coping and controlling ourselves. Needing medication is nothing to be ashamed of; that's why it's there. To help others.
September 7th, 2015 3:47am
Everybody is different. Everybody's emotions and body chemistry are different. There is no one answer fits all. The best thing you can do is to do what is best for you to feel better.
October 26th, 2015 3:09pm
Some people need an extra "boost" and that is completely ok. Not everyone works the same way but, there is nothing wrong with that.
November 13th, 2015 3:05am
im the same
December 7th, 2015 3:05am
If you think it is possible to calm your emotions without medication then perhaps it would be helpful to do some research on how to accomplish that.
May 9th, 2016 12:53pm
Everyone is different and every situation has its own unique circumstances, it would be absolutely unfair to compare different criteria together...
May 7th, 2018 5:46pm
It depends if you have biochemical imbalance in the brain, how severe it is and how good your support group is.
September 11th, 2018 8:40am
Everyone is different and you should try to accept it, as it will help. Also, if possible don't compare yourself to others. Humans have this innate tendency to do so and it's quite hard to resist to it, but at the same time constantly comparing is quite unhelpful most of the time, including in this situation. Instead, try to seek self-awareness and look to know yourself more. With time hopefully you can decrease and even not need to keep taking medication, but even if you have to do so the most important thing is that you feel well, safe and stable.
March 26th, 2019 3:26pm
Because the other people are just as reliant on those medications as you. The medicine you take supplies you with something, something in your brain. Something those "others" were born with. They're exactly as reliant on these chemicals, it's just that their bodies supply it while yours requires a pill to do that. It's not your fault that your body doesn't produce those chemicals. It's like saying that people born without arms shouldn't get a mechanical one. Just because you were born, or lost something natural, doesn't mean you should have to live without it. We're all reliant on the same things, just some come in pill form.
March 31st, 2020 3:51pm
Unfortunately, some people require a little support from medication to help balance their feelings. For example, my depression is caused by decreased production of a neurotransmitter called serotonin. I require assistance from a type of anti-depressant called an SSRI (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor). These help me to maintain more balanced emotions. many people occasionally require help or may permanently need this help but regardless of when you need medication or not this does not make you any more or less of a person, either way this is normal and there is no need to feel embarrassed or ashamed of this need.
August 4th, 2020 1:55pm
Everyone has different brain chemistry. It's okay to be different. That said, not everyone's brain works the same way, and some of us need help with processing certain things. Sometimes taking medications helps some folks-- and that's just the equivalent of store bought items because you don't have from scratch. Nothing to be ashamed about, and the important thing is at the end of the day that you're taking steps to be your best and healthiest self. I know sometimes our bodies dont necessarily process how we'd like them to. ..but it doesn't make them defective, just different. I take medication to help with my anxiety and am grateful such things exist for those of us who have challenges navigating life with our different brains.