Why do I often feel like no one cares or wants me around and feel unappreciated?

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Last Updated: 07/02/2019 at 9:18am
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LilyFlowers
May 18th, 2015 5:08pm
It sounds like depression and a lack of appreciation from you for others and people. You can't expect from other what you don't give yourself. You need to be the change you want to see in the world. If you want to feel people care, then start doing acts of caring for other people. Really doing it. It's easy to be disconnected from our true heart and go through the motions, but when you really do it, you will feel it, and in that, you will know and you will have your answer. The secret to life is now in your hands. Run with it.
Anonymous
April 14th, 2015 1:45pm
It happens with so many people around the world. It shows you are different than them. You are unique and you are no less than anyone. If they can't care for you, it's their loss not yours. :) Just be positive and live life king size.
Compassioness89
December 1st, 2015 2:26pm
Often it is because you don't appreciate yourself. You FEEL unappreciated, that is YOUR own personal feeling, but are you really? Try to do something that makes you feel good about yourself. What defines you? What are you good at? What are your skills?
Amy96
March 15th, 2016 8:43pm
Imagine depression as a walking water ball. When you are inside of it, you can't really hear anything that is happening in the outer world, unless it is incredibly loud. It can also happen that you are so occupied with balancing and walking in a safe direction and getting up after each time you fall, that you don't even pay attention to the noises. The thing is, that not hearing the encouraging voices in your life does not mean they are not there. You might have a supportive family, good friends, interesting hobbies, you might excel at something or you may be an amazing person, but depression is being nasty and tries to suppress it. But don't get worried. There will be people who will reach out to you, who will comfort you, and will eventually touch you. You will go on and on with the help you get and one day you will recognize the support and the talents you've had all along. And even if you feel you really don't have any support or talents... It's never too late to build it. It's hard, it's slow, but worth it.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2016 3:20pm
This can be due to keeping feelings to oneself, staying in one room, watching adult content online all alone... trust me, watching all that makes you feel alone in the long run.
Bblovetj
March 7th, 2016 5:27am
I feel like if there are people in your life that make you feel this way, you should find other people to hang out with or talk to or even spend some time with yourself. There is nothing wrong with that.
hugsandtea
November 16th, 2015 12:18am
Often stress at school/work/etc, causes thoughts like these to come to mind, you could be in a stressful or sad mood. Or you may not have a nice friends/people around you, which can worsen if not addressed to those people. Or, you may even be in a beginning stage of depression, or have anxiety. But the best thing to react to these types of situations, is to breathe and relax. :)
chanelsdaisy
June 28th, 2015 6:03pm
you may can't believe that people are actually liking you. Maybe you was getting hurted someday. Just allow yourself to be a part of others.
PoliteOcean
September 13th, 2015 6:27pm
Its hard to say. Nobody is the same. Everyone is different. You could be overly sensitive or overly emotional to your feelings, or perhaps you could speak to a counselor or therapist to help you understand your feelings better. You could also try speaking to your loved ones to tell them how you feel.
bluedark
July 2nd, 2019 9:18am
You have to do something different, or you are just the guy who goes out there and has a great match, but nobody cares. You have to have different layers to your character,start to care with ur self at first, u can start new missions, new targets, meet new people, go to events courses matches maybe u haven't met who understand before, looking for them, struggling, start caring with someone u feel comfortable sure he/she will exchange with u the caring, do beautiful things even nobody cares, also don't forget we in 7 cups always care about you :)