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Why is it hard to control emotions?

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Last Updated: 11/03/2020 at 2:28pm
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April 11th, 2015 12:02pm
Controlling your emotions doesn't mean ignoring them. It means you recognize them and act on them when appropriate, not randomly and uncontrollably whenever you feel like it. Take control of your life by taking control of your emotions. I think it is also good to recognize an emotion from the moment it materializes, as opposed to letting it build up and intensify. The last thing you want to do is ignore or repress your feelings, because if you're reading this, you probably know that when you do that, they tend to get worse and erupt later.
June 22nd, 2015 12:50am
It is hard to control emotions because when our minds start to race, we forget about our surroundings and who and what are around us and it can become a bit overwhelming. That's why breathing and closing my eyes and trying to picture something serene has helped me.
January 15th, 2015 4:35pm
It can be hard to control our emotions because we can sometimes struggle to identify the cause(s). This can lead to further frustration, which added to the existing emotions can become unbearable. If we are not equip to handle this, we lose all control.
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June 3rd, 2016 10:41am
I think it is hard to control emotions because we use our emotions to see the world. Some people more than others rely on their emotions not their brain. It does't mean something is wrong with you just purely that you approach everything from your heart. Controlling your emotions is hard because it is like trying to control your thoughts. It is almost impossible because they are instantaneous and you cannot help their existence.
September 14th, 2015 6:30am
Emotions are complicated things that we feel, sometimes when they are not expected. Now, imagine that these emotions are all in bottles. Once you uncork the lid (and start to feel something) it is very difficult to put the stopper back in as the liquid (emotion) is flowing out. You cannot control the speed that the liquid comes out of the bottle, but sometimes it is a good thing to not control your emotions. The phrase 'don't bottle it up' comes to mind. This means that you do not have to put yourself under the extra stress to keep the corks in the bottles and if you don't let your emotions out, the pressure in the bottles builds up.
December 15th, 2015 4:02pm
Because in all honesty, emotions are something that human don't understand. We all have our problems but emotions are harder than ever to understand with the capacity our brain holds.
November 7th, 2017 1:17pm
Because when emotions come you loose your conscience. You get so overwhelmed that it's impossible to ignore those feelings you get and if you somehow manage to control it, that control won't last long.
January 14th, 2015 10:17am
It is hard to control emotions because you are immediately reacting on it stay calm and you could control of your emotion.
May 17th, 2015 8:44am
Because you believe that your emotions should be like it is and you believe you won't be able to change it, little do you know you need to be positive about yourself to get a positive life :)
May 20th, 2015 11:42pm
Emotions are complicated and can sneak up on us. Also everyone shows each of their emotions differently. Someone might show something but mean something else and we react to that. Hope this helps anyone.
May 16th, 2016 9:32am
The challenge in controlling emotions is where one must separate between what they feel and why they feel so. The key to successfully controlling emotions is identifying why you feel that way and come in terms with them .. One emotion at a time.
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July 11th, 2016 2:41am
You can't control emotions. All of us have emotions as humans. The idea is to know the right place and time to portray the emotions that you have.
August 30th, 2016 2:56pm
because emotions are based on feelings and it is hard to be happy at a time when everyone is sad its just hard but keep trying
February 12th, 2018 2:01pm
You can't help but feel emotions. When something happens, it's completely natural to react to them- we can't help it most of the time. Emotions can hit us hard and suddenly.. it can also hit us soft enough for us to hide or manage. Sometimes, it comes off as unpredictable.
May 28th, 2018 6:16pm
It is hard to control and emotion because at that point something very meaningful is being perceived as being threatened or stirred up in a way the person does not wish for.
June 17th, 2019 3:33pm
As humans, we tend to be emotional beings. Often times we will react to things emotionally and then try to use logic as a secondary reaction to support our feelings. The more we care, the more our emotions tend to amplify in their intensity. If you feel like you want to be in better control of your emotions, there are a lot of strategies you can use. One popular vein of strategies that you can research and employ for little to no cost and a very small amount of time or effort. There are a lot of resources about mindfulness here on 7cups as well as many on the internet. Best of luck!
June 24th, 2019 7:43pm
it's literally impossible and pointless. An emotion is an instant, gut reaction to something. You'll never have the foresight to see something bad happening, so you'll never be able to say "this is going to suck but I'm gonna be really happy it happened" People who say they have control over their emotions are kidding themselves and leading lives where they make others feel bad because they react certain ways to certain things, in a way that they would otherwise find to be irritating, uncouth or simply not like. It's a lie to think one could ever control their emotions, and even if they do, that emotion is gonna be back.
November 3rd, 2020 2:28pm
The fact we can only function properly if we control our emotions is a pure coincidence. Society has evolved and has gradually become more and more sophisticated. The only way to keep a facade was not to share emotions in public — this has gradually turned into a taboo. Now the goal for a balanced living is not to control emotions meaning to repress them or pretend we're not feeling them. The key is to deeply acknowledge them, listening to the message they intend to convey and explore them until they become manifested and inoffensive. It's a journey that deserves to be taken.