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Why is it that I feel I have to hide my emotions?

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Last Updated: 01/13/2019 at 4:31am
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May 22nd, 2015 3:39am
I feel like I have to hide my emotions because it is what I have learned to do since I was little. I was always told I was over reacting or I felt I had nobody to talk to because I had few friends and I felt like my family didn't care. As I grew up I had people tell me that I might have problems but everyone else does too, so I should just keep them to myself. I feel like I have to hide my emotions because it is all I have ever been taught to do. But I would also like to add, recently I found this site and have found friends willing to listen and I am ever grateful and happy to share now that I know people care. And I want everyone to know it is okay to share your emotions and ask for help, because a problem shared with someone that cares for you, is a problem halved.
September 28th, 2015 9:18am
Many times people hide their emotions because they feel like they are being a bother to people. It can also be because they may feel like no one can help them.
July 13th, 2015 6:49pm
You don't want people to think that you are oversensitive, you don't want people to feel like you are weak.
June 22nd, 2015 1:01am
I know I often feel like I have to hide my emotions because, in my job, I'm supposed to be the strong one. Actually, it's the same way in my family too. So, sometimes we have to hide our emotions to keep up the image of the strong and stable one.
January 28th, 2015 11:51pm
When feeling certain emotions, we sometimes feel like they aren't socially accepted. So when having an emotion that is seen as "bad" or "negative", you feel like you need to hide it in order to be accepted by society and the people around you.
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February 23rd, 2016 1:45am
Maybe its because you do not want others to see your weakness and you don't want to feel vulnerable to others. Its okay if you don't want to show your emotions to people you don't trust but make sure that you have a way to release the emotions. Hiding and keeping emotions can lead to a bad outburst.
July 25th, 2017 12:05am
You don't. Whomever has told you that is wrong. Even if you haven't been told by anyone but still sense that the whole "having feelings is overrated" and the whole "it's 2017, catch flights not feelings" is not where you need to be spending your attention on. Feelings are literally the number one difference and trait about humans that separates us from animals, and possible extraterrestrials out there, (not saying they don't know what feelings are, we just have no knowledge of them). My point is, don't feel subjected to that. If you have a feeling, feel it! Let it out and embrace whatever that feeling is. Whether it's happy, sad, mad, annoyed, ecstatic, confused, nervous, etc, feel every single one and don't think for one second having feelings and expressing things somehow makes you a lame person or "emotional", you are you at the end of the day and that's how you are. Everyone has a different level of feeling and expressing emotions, don't think you have to somehow fit that "standard" or something like that, it's not the ACTs where you need to be a certain score to get into something.
January 30th, 2015 7:27pm
There can be a number of specific issues at play, but a common denominator is probably low self-esteem. The more conscious reason is to avoid the pain of rejection or some other negative reaction to an emotional display. Mind you that sometimes one really does need to be careful in deciding with whom and how much one should share emotions. For example, anger is a real turn-off to most people. Even when there may be justification for the anger, displaying rage or acing out on ones anger may be counter-productive. This is especially so when dealing with children, who are easily traumatized by raw displays of anger.
September 7th, 2015 3:56pm
You have to hide your emotions because as a society we don't really accept any negative feelings. Hiding your emotions will feel a lot easier than trusting someone enough to be yourself around them!
May 7th, 2018 3:30am
You have to hide your emotions for a couple of reasons you may feel others may judge you, giving you the wrong emotional support, unable to express how you feel and thinking they might not be interested in helping you.
January 13th, 2019 4:31am
u may want to hide your emtions because u feel people dont care and I myself feel this way . and when I try to talk to someone about it they ignore me. so I want to hide my emotins because I dont want people to think im weak and i want to hide them also because i dont like to show my emotions i like to hide them. the main reason why i hide them is because i rather have people ignore me so i can be alone. i like to be a loner. and i hope this helps all of you.
September 20th, 2016 5:57pm
because of other people !! because you probably feel like others would judge you and stuff, and make fun of you or something,