39 year old woman, married 20 years. My sex drive is increasing, his not so much. I know I'm attractive & we're getting older, but it's hard to not take it personal. I'm not ready to give it up. Help?

In my response I will speak only of heterosexual/straight concerns, since this is the question being asked, while fully supporting and recognizing GLBTQ differences, concerns, needs and body types, including intersex. It's a fairly established fact that women's sex drives often ramp up as they age, whereas men's drives correspondingly reduce with age. Hormonal differences between biological women and men account for this disparity in drives. I know that testosterone--the main hormone for males that corresponds to the sex drive, body hair, muscle development, etc--peaks in their 20's and begins to decrease after that point. By his 50's, a man might experience a lessening of muscle tone, thinning hair, and lowered sex drive. This can occur just as a female partner, if he has one, is experiencing an increase in interest in sex. Ideally, they would meet in the middle! But since this is not a perfect world, sometimes the two lovers "miss" one another's sweet spot. It's nothing to be ashamed about. It just takes some creativity and willingness to be inventive. There are various ways to "juice" interest in one another, or in your own emerging sexuality. This could include a visit to the doctor to rule out any hidden health issues, for him or you. Nowadays, there is much more openness to trying new things, new positions, new toys, new whatever! If you live in or near a metropolitan area, try visiting a bookstore that sells adult items. Bring him along and giggle and whisper to each other about what you might do with this or that item, or go by yourself and read in a corner of the store, for ideas on making sex more fun. There are so many books published nowadays addressing a multitude of interests and concerns; you can't NOT find what you are interested in. Libraries and online stores are another way to get what you need. Your biggest sex organ is actually your brain. Exposure to new things, ideas, etc. can, well, stimulate some new ways of thinking. ;) Also, don't be too embarrassed to talk with the adult store staff, if you go to one! Most reputable adult stores are clean, bright, open and welcoming of all types of people. The staff are highly educated and love questions and are eager to teach people to have a better and more fulfilling sex life. Best of luck!