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When is the ideal age of losing virginity?

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Last Updated: 09/03/2023 at 3:11pm
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Anonymous - Expert in Women's Issues
September 22nd, 2020 7:42am
The ideal age is when you feel like doing it. When you are comfortable with your body, when you trust your partner. And you are not pressurized into it. When you are ready to care for a child, because that remains a possibility in intercourse, as we know, no contraception is 100% safe. When you can laugh in the morning about clumsy clothes and awkward elbows. When you know that it is OK to be a virgin. You'll know when you find the right person, because he/she won't make your heart beat faster, they'll make you feel warm and safe and happy. Hope it helps :)
lulullamacorn
January 28th, 2021 9:41pm
I think the ideal age is the age that you've married your soulmate. Now, I know it sounds far away and lame, but think about it this way: whatever you do with anyone, except for the one person who is your spouse, you are doing with someone else's spouse. I've had three boyfriends, and I can tell you now that I feel bad for everything I did with them that they'll never get to do for the first time with the actual love of their life. I know it's hard, it's even hard for me, but remember - a truly good partner will admire and respect you even more for your strength in this. They are out there, and they are proud of your ability to save everything you have for them. You got this:)
SNEDOCTORBIRD
June 14th, 2021 10:13am
Firstly, you should be of a legal age. Once you are at a legal age then the ideal age to lose one virginity is when you have the mental capacity to process the impact it will have on you as a person. Also being at an age where you are able to make a wise choice on the person to share yourself with. The right age is the age where you are not being manipulated into losing your virginity. The person you chose will value and not abuse you. There is no ideal age to lose your virginity it is when you and your partner are ready to value each other.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2023 1:18am
After the legal age of eighteen, only then should you consider this question. And even then, depending on how committed and extroverted you are it will most likely be up to you to insist on barrier method birth control, (condoms). For some strange reason men feel as if they are above contracting stds, even hiv, the last guy I was seeing gave me Chlamydia and ghonerea and I had to plead with him to go get checked. You don't want to start life with hiv. Always use protection. Always. Your not above being human. More importantly, don't give in to pressure, despite how hard it is to reject a persistent guys advances, whether he shows it or not, he'll be impressed you had the -*lls to say no and save your sanity. It's always awkward when sex is a result of one or both participants bad behavior. You're better than that and way too sophisticated. Wait until there no question you would trust him with your life or if you feel there's no compromising whatsoever and no pressure. Good luck, You're in my prayers.
niamh333
September 3rd, 2023 3:11pm
I think the ideal age is when you yourself feel entirely ready. Virginity is a social construct so we all have different views and experiences of what it is, and when we should 'lose it'. Bear in mind, virginity doesn't necessarily mean penetrative sex, it can be any form of sexual contact that makes sense to you. There is absolutely no age where one should have lost their virginity as some people don't feel ready until they are much older, or married, or not at all. Some people never want to have sex and that's okay. I would say that it is important to look at the laws in your country, to make sure no one is committing a felony. Other than that, if you think you are ready and you understand the practicalities of safe sex, consent and possible risks then it is up to you at what age you begin having sex. It's also worth considering why you want to have sex - is it because you want to, and you feel ready, or is someone persuading or forcing you?