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Trusting people causes me to have panic attacks ! Is it possible to trust people after what iv been through ?

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Last Updated: 02/22/2021 at 2:08am
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June 11th, 2015 8:32pm
In my exe prince, every person is a unique individual. As it isn't clear from what you have shared in this question in regards to both what you've been through, trusting people, and the panic attacks that I am sincerely sorry to hear you have experienced, in my opinion there is always hope in these type of situations in a person's life. I think form what you've asked you feel there is a strong relationship between the panic attacks and your ability to not trust other people. If this is the case, you might want to consider looking at these challenges you are currently dealing with as separate issues, if at all possible, or at least to some extent. That said, there are many ways you might choose to approach the panic attacks, including but certainly not limited to working with a Doctor, a therapist, practicing mindfulness, deep breathing, and other techniques as well. In regards to trusting other people after what you have been through, you may want to consider from many options, as well, including but certainly not limited to taking "baby steps" with a friend or family member that you currently have some level of trust in if possible, as well as journaling about this, and perhaps, again, working with a Doctor or mental health professional that specializes in the challenges you are currently dealing with at this point. Hope this helps, and all best to you in your journey.
March 31st, 2015 8:27pm
Maybe it's not trusting people that you are struggling with but rather the specific people that yo have placed your trust in.
April 3rd, 2015 4:26am
Remember that what you've been through is something that happened in the past. Although past experiences should inform us about future encounters, we shouldn't let it define what future encounters would be like. Therefore, when we meet people, start by envisioning them as a plain piece of paper. Don't let your past experience cause you to see everyone with the word distrust written on the person without even knowing the person at all. If there is nothing that person is doing to cause us to distrust them, then we should trust them.
May 3rd, 2015 5:37am
It is possible. However we must really come to terms with that happened, understand it, see what we can learn from it and our role in it, if any. Trauma, pain and loss is just the worst things in the world, I know, I have them all. But we just need to keep moving forward, it's all we can do.
May 26th, 2015 9:32pm
Sounds like you've been through some pretty bad stuff. Don't rush yourself. Take your time. I'm sure the other person/people will understand. Just breath in deeply and slowly. There's no rush for you to do anything you're not comfortable doing. Take care :)
June 3rd, 2015 6:55pm
i'ts always possible to trust in people. we need it. we can't live a life without trusting anyone, or we will risk that noone we'll trust us. you have only to find a really, sincere, awesome person c:
November 2nd, 2015 10:05am
It is ok not to trust everyone you meet, and to rely on your instincts, as this will make you safer. Trust comes with time, it's about taking little steps to give people a chance and to get to know people better so that trust can build. It is possible to trust again, you need to give yourself a chance to meet the right people that you can begin to feel comfortable with.
November 9th, 2015 6:25pm
I do not know what you have been through. But if you feel like you cannot trust anyone else anymore, it must have been something really intens. Maybe you could try to focus on just a few people who you'd like to trust. If you are not sure whether you can trust someone maybe just tell him/her a little lie. Then see if he/she keeps it. If yes, you can probably trust that person.
November 9th, 2015 9:24pm
I am so sorry to hear that you have been through this experience and I am also sorry to hear that you feel like you cannot trust people lovely. You are very strong for even considering trusting about what you have been through. Trust me though, I could find you ten nice people for every nasty one that you meet so I would hate for you to give up hope. There are lots of lovely people around and even though there are a few people who damage us, there will be a team of caring people to repair you again. Keep hope, sweetheart!
November 16th, 2015 6:24am
You would have gone through a traumatic experience with people that causes the panic attacks. Its good if you could get a counselor/therapist to talk to about your traumatic experience that caused the attacks in the 1st place and they will help figure out a way for you to deal.
December 15th, 2015 1:20pm
The only way to trust another person is to trust yourself. Is it possible? You are the only person who has that answer.
April 4th, 2016 2:29am
It is possible to trust people, you need to learn to trust yourself first though. Once you are comfortable with yourself and have learned to accept what you've been through, you can trust people but it will probably never come easily.
December 4th, 2017 4:23am
Not everybody is the same. A lot of people could have done you wrong in the past, and maybe it feels like there are people around you who you can't completely trust, but eventually you will come across somebody who you can 100%. It's not easy, but it is a relief to eventually find that person, and you definitely will!
May 7th, 2018 8:28pm
It is very possible. But it does take some time. You'll get there if you really work on it. Hang in there! :)
October 19th, 2020 10:21pm
It will take time but it’s not impossible. Finding positive a loyal friends is hard but there are some good people out there. They will come when you are ready to meet new people. At the moment you are not ready. First of all try breathing exercises for your panic attacks and just relax, once your body is relaxed YOU will know yourself if that person is worth your trust or not because you will be in that mindset of thinking straight. When someone is stressed and having panic attacks it makes it hard for that person to think straight and then we make mistakes. Once you have found someone who you can trust you will find the panic attacks become fewer and fewer.
February 22nd, 2021 2:08am
It is sometimes hard to trust other people. There are many areas of trust between people. For me, I sometimes doubt friends on whether he will be able to keep stories I told him to himself. As I got older, many hardships came in my way, and I always looked for an emotional support. While parents could be great support, I wanted someone who can better empathize and someone who is going through the same thing as me. It was a deep story which I thought multiple times before deciding to talk to my friend. But when I heard her talking about my problem to my friends, as if it was nothing, I was really heart. From that point on, before I talk to my friends, about something deep and serious, I came to think, is it alright to say those stuff to friends? Maybe what I see in the movie and TV shows, the lifelong supporting friends, don't exist. Maybe life is all alone and the friendship is just superficial. But, even though there are people who may fail you with your trust, there is always someone who is trustful and would genuinely care for you. Most of the time, when you have a conversation with a genuine, caring friend, you can notice. It will be different from those who are superficial. But I don't think being superficial friend is a bad thing. Most of the relationships are superficial, and only 1 or 2 are deep. While it may be superficial, you can still have a great time, it's just that there isn't enough bond for them to handle your stories. So try to not stress so much over superficial friendship. Just stay open for deep friendship and they will be the friends whom you can trust. Don't close your door entirely.