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Why can't I control myself and just breathe?

12 Answers
Last Updated: 03/18/2019 at 10:53pm
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Paola Giordani, Psychoanalyst

Licensed Psychoanalyst

I have helped and am helping people cope with loss, divorce, anguish and parenting. Depression is also a major issue that comes up.

Top Rated Answers
March 4th, 2015 12:50am
Sometimes, your mind doesn't want to work in rational ways when you're, say, having a panic attack. The most important things to do in this situation would be to sit down and remind yourself that you're not in any harm. Your body gets panicked when it thinks it's in danger, even though you're probably not.
March 16th, 2015 1:25am
Your going through some harsh times i suppose. You need to relax. Id like to help you through this if you'd let me. You can do it, i know you can control yourself and breathe.
April 21st, 2015 8:01am
Because your panicking. Your brain has been hijacked by your fight or flight reflex and you feel unsafe. In these times we aren't in control, we are out of control.
May 4th, 2015 11:12pm
I found my uncontrolled breathing being a part of anxiety, being overwhelmed. I also went to see someone as this scared me and found out my solution. I recommend seeking help as this can become scary
June 17th, 2015 8:34pm
Breathing takes practice. A good thing to practice is mindfulness. There are several guides to mindfulness online.
September 17th, 2015 9:11pm
In regards to physical breakdowns: This might be hints of a stroke in the making. Go for a doctor, ASAP.
September 20th, 2016 11:55pm
Anxiety is not so easily reduced and eliminated. It all begins with though control If your thoughts are controlled it will be easier to control your breathing.
November 7th, 2016 6:37pm
It happens to the best of us. Think about anything that makes you happy! Happiness is always there!
April 4th, 2017 12:20am
There are moments in our lives where we can't control our actions, emotions, and such. Don't panic though, it's normal. Meditation can help calm your breathing, or even a happy memory. Try searching for a method that can calm you down, they really help!
April 18th, 2017 3:50pm
Actually you can. But you don't want to. Human beings are amazing creatures. We have the power to do or be anything we want to. So by wanting enough and attempting a small steps increasingly, you'll get to anywhere you want to go.
April 9th, 2018 4:23am
You aren't able to control yourself and breathe because you've been triggered too much and you lost ways to help you relax.
March 18th, 2019 10:53pm
You are testing your boundaries maybe, stressed and overthinking. Be a devil and dare yourself to find calm instead of fear for once. Stop apologising, catch the right train, avoid toxic people and environments. Shake them off and focus on you. It's all that matters in the end. Don't think of it as fighting or winning, just be. Respect others, keep your hopes up. Try holding your tongue still in your mouth, it stops inner chatter. Listen to rain or the wind. Hum, get a weighted blanket. Follow your instincts. . . . . . . . . . . .