How do I decide if I want to keep my child or give him or her up for adoption?
Last Updated: 12/09/2019 at 1:40am
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Think about what you and the child need, in material and emotional terms. You have to make sure that the decision is good for both of you, otherwise you'd both end up unhappy. Don't be afraid to look for support. You're the only one who can make the decision, but it can help you to talk about it with a trusted friend or a therapist, as long as you don't let them influence your final choice.
Look for what is best for them first. See if you will be able to answer all their needs : food, clothing, housing, emotional support, etc.
Ask yourself if you are emotionally, mentally, and physically stable enough to care for your child. Then ask yourself if you are financially stable enough.
Well you should consider both options, and take both of them very seriously and look to the future. Just look at yourself, it's completely different for everyone. J
I faced that very hard decision myself. There are a few questions you need to ask yourself:' Can I support this child'; 'who will help me raise this child' (i.e. mother, boyfriend, grandparent), and 'am I ready to be a parent.' Just know that giving your baby up for adoption is one of the hardest processes to go through.
Uhh...every mother needs to be a good one...no offense...but from this I can conclude you won't be good
You can never know before you actually hold this child. I mean it's probably the best for you and the baby when you live in "a not so good condition". But only you know what's best for you and your baby.
You need to have a lot of information from those that have gone before. Talk to attorneys, agencies, adoptive parents, other birthmothers, anyone and everyone. I am a birthmother and I'd be happy to share my experience.
It won't be an easy decision, but really think about it, can you live without the child your about to bring in this world or will you be able to sacrifice raising your child so someone else can experieince parent hood and for the other reasons that made you consider adoption
That's always a tough choice for anyone. Take into consideration if adoption would be best for both of you. Are you financially stable enough to take care of the child? Do you have help with taking care of the child? You have to do what's in the best interest for you and your child.
If you feel like you could care and give you're child a good home, I think that should be taken into consideration when deciding weather or not to give your child up for adoption.
If you are entertaining these thoughts, there is a very good chance that you are poorly prepared financially, emotionally, or in some other way to handle the responsibilities of having a baby. Think not of what is best for you, but what is best for your child. If you have not been around babies and seen what they require, spend some time with mothers and their children. Observe. Ask questions. Evaluate. There is no black and white answer. There are pros and cons to both sides. I decided to keep my oldest son. I do not regret that, though, there are times I wonder if I made the right decision for him.
Make sure you are doing whats in the best interest for your child no matter how hard it may be. Think about everything from money, housing and support. Make sure you have family and friends support.
You should decide by thinking about the pros and cons of your child such as is my child in a safe area or do I have enough money to afford my child and etc
Well, first I would think about the possibility of life if you kept them. One of the number one tell tale signs you might want to consider giving them up for adoption is if you are in poverty, in an unsafe living situation, and if financial issues and safety are going to be a problem in the long run. Can you support the child and give it what it needs to thrive? If you cannot, I lightly suggest you to give them their best chance.
Decide first if you are able to provide and care for the child either on your own or with the support of your partner. Realize that this is a life time of responsibility and at the same time a blessing and and an opportunity to experience lots of happiness, joy, pain, disappointments and challenges.
If you feel you cant provide for your kid and want the child to have a great life and not go through struggle that will help you decide on what to do.
Think about how you will be able to provide for the child and how you will help it have a healthy and happy life.
This s a difficult question that has to do with many variables. Consider it only if you considered any other option or help available to you.
Take a look at your emotional and financial ability to raise a child. What resources do you have? What would the childs life be like if you raised them with where and who you are now? Most importantly, do you want to be caring for a child at this time? Because while parenthood is extremely rewarding, it is also physically, emotionally, and financially exhausting.
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