How do I get my mom do stop yelling at me?
Last Updated: 01/05/2021 at 11:52am
Elaine Kish, LMSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
My goal is to treat clients with respect and compassion. I am a supportive, strengths-based therapist with experience in treating mood disorders, grief, and trauma.
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There are many reasons parents yell at kids, including having parents who yelled, feeling frustrated and angry or a desperation to get your kids to listen. You might think that yelling is relatively benign, but parenting expert Dr. Laura Markham disagrees in “10 Steps To Stop Yelling” at her Aha! Parenting website. If you don’t like your parent yelling at you, you can help unplug the yelling button or find ways to short-circuit a yelling match. Respond when your mom speaks to you, if only to say, “Give me a minute and I’ll be glad to pay attention.” Parents sometimes yell because they believe that their offspring won’t respond to anything else, according to Markham. Ask your mom to walk over and lay a gentle hand on your shoulder if you appear not to have heard her when she spoke to you or ring a bell to get your attention. If you respond to your mom each time she speaks to you, she could feel less inclined to yell because she knows that you are listening.
We can't really change the other person but we all can bring few positive changes in ourselves. Firstly, try to know the reasons behind why your mom does that. Is it because she's herself that stressed? By knowing that you can try to help her in little things as everyone needs help. Also, have a open conversation with her & tell her what you feel when she yells at you. And how you can improve those things together. You need to focus on yourself too. Realize that someone's words can't change your identity. I'm glad that at least you know how you deserve to be treated & trust me it is a big thing. Just try to be with your mom, love her, explain your points to her clearly. You have to believe in yourself. Hope it helps :)
The best way to is to try communicating with your mom. Let her know how the yelling is affecting your mental health and tell her any other way it is affecting you. The best way to have this conversation with your mom is when you have it prepared and you are able to sit down and be open and fully honest with her. If the yelling continues, it may be best to have someone intervene and help. Therapists are a great option since they are there to support you and make sure that you are having healthy interactions with your family and friends.
First you should ask why your mom is getting so angry? Is it warranted or not? If so, maybe you should work on having a conversation to have a better relationship. If it is unwarranted maybe you should think about talking to other adults about help with your mother. Try and remember that your mom loves you and that she is likely trying her best for you. It’s often easy to forget as a child that your parents are people too and they make mistakes the same as anyone else. Maybe a simple conversation with your mother about this issues could help resolve it.
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