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How do I get my son to get a job?

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Last Updated: 11/30/2021 at 2:44am
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December 17th, 2014 12:40am
Stop Paying for his/her stuff, Phone Bills and gas and things like this add up an put unwanted Stress on Parents and Guardians. Older Children Need to know the value of money and if its willingly handed to them then it has no perceivable monetary worth. Having a job also has the added benefit of personal growth and self worth which you cant put a price on, unlike that new I-phone they keep pestering you for.
November 27th, 2014 6:09am
It depends on your son! The economy is hard and it's tough to get your son a job. Seeing a life coach or therapist will help you and your son figure out what's best for him or what avenue he might want to go down for work. Start there! It's worth it.
December 8th, 2014 7:57pm
You should try to present him with reasons that suit his wishes. Often times parents demand their children to do something and the reasons are one's that suit themselves but they forget that the best way to get anyone to do something is by letting them see why they will benefit from it. Maybe you should talk to him and conclude on something that makes him realise the importance of a job in his life.
December 18th, 2014 6:15pm
Getting your son a job may be quite difficult, and it's really not your role as his parent to do that. You can encourage him to search for employment, and give him guidance on how to dress, and how to make a good impression during job interviews, however, finding a job is up to him.
August 4th, 2015 7:26am
While you may need to feel you have an obligation as a parent to help your children in certain ways, but finding a job should not necessarily one of them. Having your son find a job on his own can help him to develop certain skills in life such as resume writing and people skills while searching. It doesn't mean that you cannot help or lend a helping hand. You as a parent could help with directing them where they can search if you have a lead, or helping to take the time to show them how to start writing their own resume. You can help by being there if they need a ride to interviews or if they just need support. In the end, you as a parent shouldn't be responsible for helping to get the job, but you can always help by being the support they need while getting there.
November 26th, 2014 11:23pm
Explain to him the importance of being independent, then suggest jobs he may enjoy based on his interests. For example, if he has a particular interest in animals then you could suggest he apply to work at a local pet store.
November 28th, 2014 11:01pm
You can't get your son a job, he needs to get a job. If he's in college, help him find something that pertains to his current studies and accepts college students, if he's in high school then try to help him get a job somewhere at a fast food restaurant, or anything else that allows high scholars.
December 22nd, 2014 10:34am
Ask him what he's interested in. Talk to him and guide him through the path that he wants as his career
April 22nd, 2015 3:45am
A job can be a great way for your son to show some responsibility in his life. You can try to find things that he loves to do, and try to find a job that will incorporates things he loves to do.
June 3rd, 2015 2:33am
You can reward him with an extra thing when he gets a job and when he keeps it like go a day out with him to a park or something or to a concert or whatever he likes :)
November 10th, 2015 10:12pm
First understand what he likes, i mean his interest. And start talking him about it and show him that you support what he loves. After that start suggesting jobs that share his interest. For example if he loves physics, say "how about becoming an engineer?" at this point he will start loving the idea and he will start searching for the job. But if he is not responding and avoiding to get a job just because he is too lazy to do so,then you have to show him the other side by telling him "im not going to pay you, you should start paying for yourself" My parents used the first option and it worked for me i am an engineer and i love it haha.
December 21st, 2015 9:33pm
If you would like your son to get a job whether it's to support the family or for himself. The best way is not to pressure them or push them into it. It good too sit down when your son is feeling good and talk to him about what he thinks about a job. Let him know that a job can offer a lot of experience and have an overall positive effect for him and help him meet a lot of people and it can actually be fun sometimes (depending on the job some jobs are more fun than others ) Talk about your own experiences about how you got a job and what it was like. Be honest with him and let him know what factors motivated you to ask him to get a job. Honesty goes a long way. It can be a great chance for son and mother or son and dad or both to come closer together or work together as a team :-) If these are difficult times let them know that getting through it together can be rewarding and their help would really help. Be patient and loving
February 16th, 2016 1:34am
Make your son understand why you would like him to have a job and what are the benefits to him. Best to sit him down and talk to him find out why is he procrastinating to get a job and what is stopping him.
May 15th, 2017 7:57am
You have to be patient and not force. He has to want to do it. I found that by being loving and earning the trust of your son or daughter makes all the difference. It also helps if you yourself are a good role model for your kids. In most cases they will just do it due to the example you set by being a responsible parent. You must have their trust and they will do it on their own, and they will do it if you show how much you love them and care about their well being.
June 20th, 2017 2:36am
It's pretty hard to get older children to do things. I would encourage him by talking to him about what he wants to do with his life and if he has any plans. Then I would share how a job can give him some independence
March 13th, 2018 10:14pm
I would try to show him the advantages of having a job and tell him that it would make his life easier and that he needs to start being independent. Depending on his age, let him know that he needs to start learning how to earn the resources to support and take care of himself. After all, it's a part of growing up and assuming more responsibility. If you are currently helping him out (i.e. money, shelter, clothes, allowance), give him a little responsibility (i.e. you need to work because from now on you will be paying your own phone bill). Hopefully this motivates him! Best of luck
November 30th, 2021 2:44am
What I would do is explain to my son that he needs to get a job, for various reasons. State your reasons. Help your son explore is options with his skills, provide resources so your son can help himself find a job of interest. I would explain that it can be part-time, that you understand that he may have other obligations, (such as school) but he could work a few shifts a week, or maybe just weekends. Be honest as to why you want him to get a job. Do this without yelling or being demanding. Show some comfort and listening to your son.