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How do I know if my kids are going to turn out alright, especially if they know about certain issues I have?

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Last Updated: 01/28/2020 at 11:45am
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Anonymous
March 8th, 2015 11:33am
The kids will be fine if they are taken care of and are explained about the issues they know about you!
Easylistener
March 9th, 2015 7:42pm
Working with kids is a daily task, and if your children know that you are human and have issues is a good thing. Revealing your vulnerability gives children permission to be vulnerable too.
Chevy81
May 19th, 2015 3:59pm
I will never know what the future will be. I just need to doing my best for them and keep on praying for them then I believe that God will do the rest.
tomhardyrockymark99
June 3rd, 2015 8:50pm
You'll never know how your kids will turn out. But, if you are giving this a lot of thought and made the effort to ask one of the listeners on 7 cups of tea, then you are a good mother. A good mom would do what you have done. It's okay to worry about these things, but please don't worry about the issues you have. We all have issues. It just matters how we deal with those issues. May your kids turn out to be exactly as you'd hoped. May god bless you and your family. :)
ClaireyMarie
July 21st, 2015 2:25am
Sometimes the best thing we can do is be real with our children, as long as we aren't asking them to deal with adult issues. We just show them issues that we have, and maybe it will cause them to avoid having these same problems in their future because they get knowledge from us first.
Anonymous
September 8th, 2015 7:53pm
There are never any guarantees. It is amazing how some children who seem to come from "good" homes turn out badly, and vice versa. Of course, we can never know the full story from afar. Parenting is a gamble. It is better if your children do know your issues. Don't play the hypocrite and try to hide who you are from your children. At the same time, know that there is always room for improvement on your part, and everytime you address a character flaw or overcome a negative emotion, it will have an impact on your children for good.
Anonymous
December 1st, 2015 3:55pm
because most kids dont want to be anything like their parents. especially once they get to be like 16 or older.
Mountstuart
December 14th, 2015 7:09pm
Your "issues" are your issues. Discussing them with your children and showing them how you deal with them teaches them how to handle things. It allows them to realize that they can be strong in the face of adversity, that you can overcome difficult situations with work.
Pinkcarpet
December 5th, 2017 12:58pm
You don't, but you can teach them right & wrong, try to lead by example. As parents this is everyone's thoughts & fear, as long as you do your best & love your children limitlessly then you can only hope after that
Caringheart23
April 10th, 2018 3:21pm
That's the thing with kids- we never know how they turn out :) I know it can make you worried or stressed but as a mum all you can do is to love them the best you can and set them a good example. And we all have issues, they'll understand it.
endearingLion70
June 25th, 2018 2:10am
You do not. You do the best that you can and if you are not sure seek counseling. This is all that you can do.
Xen2020
January 28th, 2020 11:45am
Your Kids turning out alright has SO much to do with your personal parenting style, but it's important to try to understand that ALL PEOPLE are unique & your child may not "be like you". if you're child isn't "the way you want them to be" THAT'S OK - making sure a child has the proper direction & advice throughout life whether from their parent or other sources that encourage them to be their best & experience life to it's fullest is SO important. You WILL go through struggles with your children, but identifying with them will certainly help you make sure they're on their own path to "turning out alright" in life.