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How do you keep your teenage child from hating everything that you do for him?

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Last Updated: 02/27/2018 at 7:44pm
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Anonymous
November 9th, 2015 7:01pm
Teenagers are at a point in their lives where they want to assert their independece. He may feel smothered by what you do or how you do it for him. You can not longer treat your teenager like a child or he will resent it. If he makes it clear he no longer wants you to make his bed for him (doubtful), then don't do it. Your task is to encourage independence, not discourage it. Understand that on some level you may be grieving the "loss" of your child, but handled properly, you can enjoy a lifelong friendship with your adult child.
OwlKnowsAll
January 27th, 2015 9:13pm
Make sure you reach him on his level and not yours. Teenagers sometimes need to try things themselves to appreciate what they got. Also they have a lot going on in their minds so give him space! Sometimes teenagers just want to be rebellious because they feel a sense of no limitations. Sometimes they want to be independent and that's were you should let them make mistakes, so the know consequences of their choices
pm229
January 28th, 2015 5:03am
I have struggled with this situation for a while and I have received a lot of recommendations and tips from some friends here. I am happy to say that my teenage son is talking to me now and not hating everything that I do for him. All i did was to stop treating him like my baby and gave him some freedom on making certain decisions. That's working so far.
Alwaysdreamin
April 13th, 2015 3:55pm
Currently in my house, I have 2 teenagers and a pre-teen so this house if filled all stages of puberty so I really get this question. I ask myself this question a lot. In my experience, my kids have gone through a phase where they did not like me touching them or doing anything for them at at all. For our family, this was during the middle stages of puberty. I am finding that even though it breaks my heart, I must give them space to become an individual. They do come back to you in the later stages of puberty but right now, they think they are independent but they are not. Give them space and a chance to help make decisions, but always ask for respect in return. Work through it together where you are both showing kindness and respect.
versatileOasis48
April 30th, 2015 4:56am
What if you asked them where is the median? Or try to find some sort of middle ground. There has to be something that they don't hate that you do for them, right?
Chevy81
August 12th, 2015 1:32pm
Provide times to talk about those things that he hate and not, asking him how can I express my affection to him. Spending more time with him if he like to, doing things that he loves together with him (i.e. paling online games, watching movies, etc.) -but most of all: communicate.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2015 3:07am
Being teenager, i have this to a parent. What got me to stop disliking everything about my parent or what they did- is they pulled back for a bit, and waited me to need them again. They waited for me to come them when i finnaly realized that i needed someone talk to and help me.
grumpymama
February 20th, 2016 4:40am
Nothing. Plain and simple. Teenagers do not want your help for anything. Sometimes they do need to fail before understanding that you do know a thing or two.
Greatlistener87
June 27th, 2016 4:11am
Teenage hood is the hardest times for parents, this is because this is your child's rebellious phase. Anything you do will be wrong to them and they will rebel alot. Just remember that you have been there once and what would u have done if you were your own parent.
lovelyJewel61
February 27th, 2018 7:44pm
talk to them about why they hate everything you do for them, maybe there is some reason. maybe it isn't you, maybe they're just going through some things. they may not be aware.