Determine whether or not you will be able to give the child a happy life. Are you able to afford all of the child's necessities? Are you going to be able to be there when they need you most? Questions like these are something to consider.
Think of why you want to give up your child. Think in terms of how happy am I with my child, how is life with my child, now imagine life without that child and the possibility of never having your child again. Look into their eyes and make that decision, because when you stare into their eyes, you will never feel a bond stronger than that moment. If you can look into their eyes and tell yourself you'll be okay without them, then maybe it is a good idea to give them up, if you look into their eyes and can't imagine another life, well then you have your answer.
Only do it if you're for sure that it would be best for you child. Do you think that the other person would be better for your child? Try not to be selfish in this situation. Think about the future and the relationship you'd have with your child.
Giving up custody is an extremely heavy choice. To ensure this is more of a permanent feeling rather than situational, I would recommend reaching out to your loved ones and perhaps even a professional. Is this really what you want? Is there a way you could prevent this? Is there a way you could alleviate this feeling? These are questions they can help you answer, but ultimately you know yourself better than anyone else. Reaching out can help discover this answer so you truly discover what you're feeling.
This is a tough decision and I'm sorry to hear you have to make it! I would start with weighing out what is best for the child and what I can change. For example, if I feel that I cannot financially provide for my child and I cannot change that, I would consider that a reason to give up custody.
Another scenario might be I am unable to care for my child because I cannot handle the responsibilities. I would ask myself "Is it possible for me to get help and/or improve my ability to handle these responsibilities?" If not, perhaps I would have to consider giving up custody for the betterment of the child's future.
To conclude, it comes down to how much I am able to change to ensure a safe and loving environment for my child. If I cannot make those changes, then I would have to look at other options. I wholeheartedly believe one of the greatest acts of love can be giving a child to someone who is able to provide a better life for them. it is one of the ultimate acts of selflessness if done with the right intent.
This is one of the hardest things that a person has to deal with and it is a choice that cannot be made lightly. As much as it frustrates people to say, this is a decision that can only be made by the people involved. You have to look at all of your options and make sure that this is the right choice for you and your family.
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December 15th, 2015 8:21pm
First think about how much joy your child is. Giving up something so special is heart breaking and it will hurt for a long time.
There are many things to take into consideration with that. You need to ask yourself if you can provide adequately for your child (love, support, necessities, etc.). If you can't come up with an answer, seek advice.
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May 22nd, 2015 3:43am
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This is not a decision anyone can make for you but just think of what is best for your child and yourself. If you feel you are not capable of taking care of your child and/or feel they would be better suited with the other parent then maybe it would be a good idea but the decision is ultimately up to you!:) Do what you feel is best for you both:)
This is a very serious decision that will affect you the rest of your life. Giving up custody means that you will most likely not gain custody back unless something horrible happens. Nobody wants that! The best thing for you to do when making this decision is determine why you wish to give up custody. Is in the best interest of your child?
The most important thing to consider is if you are able to provide safety and security in a loving environment.
I would consider what support systems you now have in place. Raising a child is a tough job ! You need people who you can rely on for emotional support and also coping/parenting strategies for when things get tough.
In the end, it is really all about what is best for your child. If you are not able to care for your child, that does not mean that you will never be able to. It is possible that you might have to step back for awhile until you can provide for them.