With the love and support that a parent should show to their child regardless. No matter your child's gender identity, your role as a parent does not change and what your child looks to you for does not change.
Let's go back to when you was pregnant. Remember when you was pregnant, am I correct when I say when you didn't care what gender they are, as long as they're healthy. Yes, they have grown up as a gender and you've been spending all their life as the gender they was born into this world as. However, if they feel like it's not them, then you need to learn to accept it as I believe you wouldn't have minded if you gave birth to the opposite gender so it shouldn't make a difference. Of course, being in your shoes, it must be hard to process, however if this is how they feel then their happiness is the most important thing to us.
Let them talk about it and express their feelings openly. If you have any questions, ask them, but always in an empathetic and tactful way. Make sure they have all the support they need. Acknowledge their identity and their needs, support their journey towards being the person they really are. If you're new to all of this, do some research about what it means to be trans, maybe look for support from an LGBT associations - many of them are used to supporting the parents of LGBT people and helping them understanding and coming to terms with it.
At the risk of sounding perhaps a bit harsh, perhaps the better question would be "How do I help my child cope?" Perhaps by helping your child, you will help yourself. Helping others is in of itself quite empowering.
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August 31st, 2015 4:33am
Accept them as they are. Try to understand they can't help it as sexuality is something internal which is can not be changed.
Accept it! It's hard, I'm sure. I've never personally dealt with this but I do believe that everyone deserves to be accepted with who they are. They didn't ask to have those feelings, it just happened. They need the people they love most to support it, and that would be you!
You can always search for more information about it. Support and listening it's always important.
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December 29th, 2014 9:29pm
They're your child. They're no different then who they are now. They're expressing themselves and growing. Just because they are transgender doesn't mean you didn't raise them right. The fact that they're a great person, that they're happy, that they even feel comfortable to tell you this, should help you with your unease. It's not something easily to accept but give it time to.
Accept them. Be there for them. It might be difficult but make sure they know that you love them either way and that you are always going to be there by their side. They are going to need you, so don't leave them. Just try and know that thats still your child, the one you care about and love, no matter what
This can be a difficult and overwhelming situation for a parent to deal with. The best thing to do is to "listen" and "talk" with your child about what they are feeling and experiencing. If you are unable to deal with or cope with what they are saying or telling you, perhaps seeking further assistance with a child psychologist, counselor or therapist can help you both through the feelings that you are experiencing.
First, it's important to realize that it's not your fault nor their fault that they are this way; neither of you did anything wrong that "caused" your child to be Transgender. Like thousands of others, that's just the way your child was born (ie just like your child was born with a certain personality that neither of you had a say about). That being said, having a Transgender child can be both confusing and difficult for both you and them. Your role in respect to your child is to realize that he/she is probably going through a super difficult time and needs and craves the stability of your love and acceptance for who they are - now more than ever. Of course for yourself it might be helpful for you to join an online or in person "parents of LGBTsupport group. " this can help you process everything, clear confusion, and give you hope for what can initially look like a negative future. Of course, a healthier,less confused parent will mean a healthier child as well.
Like all children, your child too can succeed and be happy with the proper love and acceptance. Good luck!
Sexual identity in our kids is confusing a bit. I can only say to try and understand them, validate how they are feeling and thinking, support them in questions they have, or reach out for things they can read or a person they can talk with. Just don't push them away-but embrace them they are your "baby" still no matter what. Good luck
Accept them no matter what. Their gender doesn't change the little human that you raised, shared laughs and hugs, that loved you unconditionally. Try to document on it, what it means to be transgender, and try to understand and support them