What do I do if my child is getting into trouble at school?
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Children usually cause trouble when they want to seek the attention of an adult. In Psychology there are three methods mentioned by which one can reinforce a behaviour. Positive reinforcement, negative reinforcement and punishment. B. F Skinners research states that - Positive reinforcement strengthens a behaviour by providing a consequence an individual finds rewarding. For example, if your teacher gives you £5 each time you complete your homework (i.e. a reward) you are more likely to repeat this behaviour in the future, thus strengthening the behaviour of completing your homework. The removal of an unpleasant reinforcer can also strengthen behaviour. This is known as negative reinforcement because it is the removal of an adverse stimulus which is ‘rewarding’ to the person. Negative reinforcement strengthens behaviour because it stops or removes an unpleasant experience. For example, if you do not complete your homework you give your teacher £5. You will complete your homework to avoid paying £5, thus strengthening the behaviour of completing your homework. Punishment is defined as the opposite of reinforcement since it is designed to weaken or eliminate a response rather than increase it. Like reinforcement, punishment can work either by directly applying an unpleasant stimulus like a shock after a response or by removing a potentially rewarding stimulus, for instance, deducting someone’s pocket money to punish undesirable behaviour. (Note: It is not always easy to distinguish between punishment and negative reinforcement.) These can give parents/teachers an idea of how they can deal with the child. One thing to remember is that punishing a behaviour only stops the bad behaviour and does not reinforce anything good/positive hence parents should make sure they are able instil positivity in the child. Furthermore, it is a good choice to talk to the child and see if there is something bothering them. Often times underlying problems cause children to react and behave unusually. They tend to release their frustration through rebellion. Maybe there is something causing this reaction in your child.
First, you need to talk with your son, give him love and all the support you can (because he is in a bad time, right?) tell him about how bad is all of this things.
Usually a child which gets into trouble at school needs help. Please analyze Why the kid is getting into trouble.. Talk to the child and understand the reasons.. Please do not be hard on the kid as it will have a toll on her self-esteem.. You need to dig into the details and If required talk to the concerned parties and try to understand what is bothering the kid and kindly get the help needed.
You can sit your child down and have a honest conversations. Try to avoid blaming them or screaming at them, as they will feel safer if you're kind and friendly and will more likely trust you and listen to you. After that it would be smart to come to a conclusion and a solution for the problem together.
The first thing to do is speak with them to find out what exactly is going on from their perspective. Next talk to the other individuals involved to see what happened and then decide if discipline needs to be applied so long as it is never physical abuse.
Talk to your child and maybe involve the teacher as well. Together maybe you can come up with a Plan of Action to set reasonable standards for your child. If they are involved, they will most likely be more open to changing the way they are acting out.
Try to talk to them and ask them what is the problem, if that doesn't result into anything then please go to the school and have a nice discussion with the principal.
Have you tried sitting down with your child and discussing his or her actions. Make he or she understand that what they are doing is wrong behavior
As an ex-teacher and a parent I'd say the important thing is to try and work in partnership with your child and the school. Try and work out the reasons why your child is in trouble through discussion with your child and not just blame. There are a whole host of reasons why children misbehave: boredom, bullying, finding the subject difficult, external stressors, wanting to push boundaries to name but a few. It is important to try and tackle the root cause and not just label your child as 'naughty'.
ask him what is happening and why he is doing these things? ask him a lot of questions but do not try to talk down to him. do not too angry unless he starts being uncooperative. if he has problems at home try to fix them.
It is good if you can sit your child down and talk to him or her. Find out why he/she is bursting put in the way that they have and let them know that you are there for them to talk to whenever needed.
Sit them down and see what is causing their misbehavior. Maybe theyre dealing with bullies, home problems, friend problems, or even self esteem/emotional issues. The more open you are with them the more theyre willing to cooperate
Let them know that they will face consequences not only at school but at home as well. Also try to talk to them to find out why they are acting out . Children start to rebel when either being influenced by their environmental surroundings.
Ask them calmly and patiently why they got into trouble and make sure they understand they did the wrong thing if possible reward them when they've done good so they're less likely to get in trouble as much, just remember it's all normal for children to get in trouble now and then at school and it's whats expected.
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