Why do my kids always start fighting right when I'm doing something important?
Last Updated: 07/24/2018 at 3:13pm
Jennifer Patterson, LMFT, ATR-BC
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Because they want my attention. So they're doing so to grab attention from me. When I'm doing something important, I tend to concentrate so hard and it makes me almost forgotten my kids.
They seek your attention. You could find them something to keep them occupied while you are working.
They start fighting when you need to do something important because of coincidence. Although, from a kids point of view, it is our job to be annoying!
Kids fight. It is a fact of life. You probably notice it more when you are trying to get something accomplished. On the other hand, if you generally take on projects for hours on end and ignore your children, they are probably just trying to get your attention.
If you are doing something important, your attention isn't on them. So they seek a way to keep your attention back on them.
Because- they're kids! When you were 5, the most important thing in the world to you was that one moment. Because the next moment and the one after that didn't exist to you. Children live in that one moment, and they don't understand that they're affecting a bigger picture.
Kids always want to grasp attention of all family members... So when ever he feels that others are busy in gossip of any important discussion so he felt him self ignorant ..so just because of making himself important he starts doing irritable things like tapping hands or feet or shouting .kids want to become apple of other's eye ☺ So mother's should be worry just to pay little attention towards their kids and try to engage them in different healthy activities but in positive manner 😊
Because they want to feel important and connected to you. We have a 2.5 year old and 5 year old and it happens to us all of the time. The best approach I've found is, if possible, to take a brief break in what you're doing and use the Socratic method to state observations and collectively problem solve "It looks like _____ is happening is that correct? Wow that's hard. I need your help with something, can you help me? Mommy's working on XYZ because of ____ and I'm noticing that _____, what do you think we can come up with that helps us all to get what we need?" or something like that, just staying receptive, open, and inquisitive goes a LONG way.
They want your attention and time. It helps to have another adult around when you need to accomplish something important. Try to set them up with a more lengthy activity before you start working on something important. (Building legos, coloring, video games, water balloons, etc.)
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