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Why do they keep doing things they now they hurt or irritate me if they are supposed to love me?

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Last Updated: 04/21/2020 at 7:30pm
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Top Rated Answers
versatileOasis48
April 30th, 2015 1:29am
Did you tell them that they are hurting you? Sometimes people don't realize that the choices they make affect others.
Anonymous
April 28th, 2015 1:27am
Love doesn't hurt. If they are doing something you don't like, tell them. If they don't stop, ask them if they would hurt someone they love.
Chevy81
May 21st, 2015 6:52am
They just trying to get my attention. When they get it, their irritating behavior suddenly stopped, or is it because I tollerate better? :D
Anonymous
February 8th, 2016 2:41am
Children won't always intend to cause harm, they're young and they don't understand the consequences of their actions. They're still growing, and it's your responsibility to guide them in the right direction. Perhaps some further communication is necessary.
NevaehLee
June 21st, 2016 12:50am
Honey, people will always hurt you, but don't waste your time giving love to somebody who doesn't know how to appreciate your worth. You deserve to be adored and if they can't do that, let them go. You shouldn't have to question why, lift your head up high and walk away. The walk won't hurt as much as the months and years being with someone who constantly lets you down 💜
endearingLion70
June 4th, 2018 10:54am
Sometimes it is hard to understand why people behave in certain ways. The only thing you can do is let them know how their behavior makes you feel.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2020 7:30pm
there could be many reasons for someone to this to someone else. maybe there unhappy in there own lives or maybe something bad happen to them, or maybe there just a mean person. but all you need to know is that if this person cant make you happy and is going out of there way to make you unhappy then its time think of what makes you happy and go with that. you don't need unhappy mean people in your life bringing yours down with them. be happy for you , leave the unhappy people out of your life and just do you.