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I was sexually abused as a kid by a family friend. I've hidden it for a long time, also from myself. Now I want to meet that guy to maybe start healing. I was wondering is this a good idea?

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Last Updated: 06/11/2019 at 7:20pm
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January 7th, 2019 1:53pm
It’s not the best idea and it’s not the worst. It’s not that your looking to meet him. You want and need closure. He hurt you and you want to know his reasoning and how he feels about this. You should tell someone. The first step in healing is to speak out. Just be careful if you meet face to face. You have no idea of what he is truly capable of doing to you. Your safety is the most important thing. And just remember it’s not your fault he is the sick one who needs help. Good luck! You should really tell a friend your close to that is a step in the right direction
June 11th, 2019 7:20pm
I am so sorry to hear that you´ve been through childhood sexual abuse. You are very strong for surviving and brave for not hiding it from yourself anymore. Reliving the buried feelings must have been very difficult for you. I was also sexually abused as a kid and from my experience, I´d advise you to find a therapist near you or here on 7 cups and work together on your healing. You deserve support and happiness and you shouldn´t have to face the past and heal yourself all alone. Please ask yourself what are the reasons for meeting that guy again and if they are worthy of your energy. Personally, I think that looking for healing in meeting with the people who have hurt you could mean returning back to that toxicity. What he did to you should have never happened. Please know that forgiving your abuser is never required for recovery. I wish you all the strenght and peace in healing