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Time is the best that helps :) It's good to remember that you are an individual person and you are responsible for your own life. You had good times and bad times, keep the good times in your memory and do things that make you happy. What do you enjoy doing?
I'm a fan of chick flicks and ice cream. But to be serious, time will help. Break ups are hard, but over time things get better and you'll find someone new.
Go through the pain, grieve, and dont run. Surround yourself with people you love, friends family, confide in someone close to you. make friends and get out into the world. The best advice was given to me by my uncle, he said now you have to do "you" you have to focus on yourself and better your life. That stuck with me, i had forgotten how to be by myself, how to be just geno, and now i am starting to figure it out. Im not going to tell you it gets easier... but you get better. You are strong, you are beautiful and you are everything you need to be. It didnt work out because it wasnt supposed to. Your future is waiting for you, now go find it
I believe in a breakup you have to take it 1 step at a time. Firstly try not being to close with your ex cause that will only cause more confusions, Secondly try filling your time doing other things like sports or going out with friends things like that, Thirdly always give yourself room to heal if you have to cry then do it. Lastly never hold on it only makes you feel worst.
Anonymous
November 6th, 2015 5:45pm
Talking about it helps, but mainly it's up to you to understand why the relationship ended, and find healthy closure.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2015 5:04pm
Be excited about the new and better person you will be with next! life is too short to be sad, life is exciting.
Try and ask him to see if he'll go out with you again or ask someone else too (if it doesn't work)
Accept that it happened. Look for the positives from you gained. Identify where you failed. Move on. Don't try to stop thinking about. Choose to stop thinking about it. It's much easier.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2015 1:38am
In my experience what helps is getting into new relationships, they don't have to be relationships with romance involved, but for haps the best way of getting over break ups is moving on.
Honestly, the best way to get over a break-up is to just give it time. Make new friends, explore things with other people. You could also get therapy for a break-up because some people are seriously affected by stuff like that.
Personally, I believe that the best way to get over a breakup is by focusing on yourself and trying your best to take this person out of your life, at least for a while until you can talk to them without it affecting you in a negative way. Focus on your hobbies or dreams, hangout with family or friends. Eventually, after some time and healing, you will feel better. Just remember that you were able to get through life before they came into it, so there is still a life for you after them. I hope you feel better I know it can be incredibly hard.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2020 7:40am
Take the time to reconnect with yourself. Immerse yourself in some of your favorite pastimes and hobbies. Is there anything that you really love to do that maybe you didn't have much time for while you were in a relationship? Now would be the perfect time to rediscover some of those things! The most important thing to do is to be kind to yourself. The feelings you are having right now are perfectly valid, and it's ok to be sad. In my personal experience, time will help to heal you, and you will slowly but surely adjust to your new normal.
Breakups are never easy. People manage differently. Being around friends and family are important and music for me too.
Give yourself some space, hang out with your friends, but then get back into business. Try try try again!
Anonymous
November 13th, 2017 4:25pm
By trying to distract myself woukd be the best solution gor me. Avoid anything triggering to the ex partner, whether it be hobbies, tv shows, games, ect.
As counter intuitive as it may sound: feel the pain, and once in pain take 2 steps. One, recall things you resent and -in imagination- reveal them to him/her, get them off your chest. Two, once that is done, proceed to express gratitude for all the good times. Close this chapter by saying goodbye. Watch your relationship sail away... and that's that. Mourn as necessary when needed. I cried a lot.
Surround yourself with family and friends who arent friends with the person you were just with and try your best to have fun
The best way to get over a break is to reconnect with yourself. Spend time with friends or family, treat yourself to a nice meal at home or at one of your favourite restaurants.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2016 6:55am
Look at your family. Make them smile. Go out with your friends and know your worth. Do whatever pleases you
It's a bit of a combination in my opinion: recovering fully plus stepping into the next bit of our life.
On the one hand, we need to grieve over the relationship - even if we ended it. We need to allow the right amount of time for our situation, however long or short that is. So we need to cry, rant, talk, and so on. We need to take it easy, look after ourselves, get extra sleep, - and let others look after us too. Perhaps we decide to talk about the relationship with a professional.
And then there comes a time it would help us to start easing back into life. Start simple: go for a coffee with friends, walk the dog, spend some time on a craft project. Do one thing a week that you love doing, or used to love doing. (Sometimes in a relationship, we forget who we are, and always do what our partner wants)
If people are pressuring you to "move on", "meet someone new", and so on, they might mean well, but only you know what's right for you. Ensure you are balancing grieving, healing, and moving on.
is to let the time heal you heart and let your feelings and tak about them. Just wait and the right time will come
Anonymous
January 19th, 2016 8:02pm
best way to get over a break up is to do you. worry bout yourself and where you need to be in life. also try to stay away from the person as well
The best way to get over a break up is to give yourself time. Put your focus on yourself, and do the things you like to do. Sometimes in relationships, you lose yourself a little bit. So get to know who you are again. The feelings you feel during a breakup are okay and normal. and Those feelings are also temporary. So when you feel ready, spend time with friends, exercise, and try new things. Remember that you'll get through this.
Anonymous
November 26th, 2015 8:16am
First of all dont think that it will be easy ... n have patience it gonna take some time ... u may be feel sad .... lonely .... ignored .... but it will be over .. n dont try think all about .... just make urself a litlle busy ....with any hobby .... so ur work .... give ur self time ..... always remember they are not right for u thts why u have a break up ..... always be positive take ur break up as in good way n take fresh start ....
Accept that the relationship was no longer good for either of you involved and that is okay. Since it wasn't good for either of you it was necessary at this point for both of you to move on and heal and I think the healing process begins there.
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 9:23pm
The best way to get over a break up is to talk about it with someone you really trust. Don't be afraid to talk about how you feel and always be honest with yourself.
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 1:54am
The best way to get over a break up is to go do things that you enjoy. Spend time with your friends.
Anonymous
November 28th, 2015 10:26pm
Occupy yourself and start a project, painting or diy, anything, and don't let yourself dwell on what had been or what you wanted from it. Time will heal, always.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2015 3:46am
Best way to get over a breakup depends on the type of breakup and what you like to do. Personally I think ice cream movies pizza and being surrounded by people who are there for you is a great way to get over a breakup
Anonymous
November 25th, 2015 3:21am
I'd say the best way to get over a break up is to move on. Find new men/women. There are plenty of fish in the sea! :D
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