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Anonymous
September 19th, 2015 10:23am
Find something or someone (the former is suggested) to distract your mind away from the person in question
Fall in love with yourself and learn to live with yourself again. It's extremely hard after having a break-up, but you'll figure it out with time :) (I've been dealing with it the last few days and today was the day when I started feeling better again. Just please keep going, an end of a relationship is not the end of the world!)
Anonymous
September 20th, 2015 3:45pm
The best way to get over a break up is to distract yourself. Go hang out with friends, start a hobby, or do something you love.
falling in love again :D and love your self much more than you love other :)
learn from your mistake of ur past relationship :)
Based on my personal experience the best way to get over a breakup is learning to be okay by yourself
Getting over a break up can be very hard, you can go through a huge range of emotions from sadness, hurt, anger to happiness depending on what type of relationship you had. There is no "best" way to get over a break up and each person handles it differently. Being self destructive like binge drinking or taking drugs will only mask your feelings for a short while. The only way to truly get over a break up is to give it time, the feelings that are so raw and painful at the moment will start to fade. Accept that the relationship is over and accept that you have to move on with your life. Try not to be negative about your ex, bitterness and negativity won't help. Instead think of the good things that person taught you. Sooner than you realise you will feel better
Tell yourself that if it didn't work out with him/her, means that the one I'm supposed to end up with is still waiting for me further down the path life brings to me.
There is no best way to do anything. A lot more when we are talking about human relationships. We are all so different and our relationships are indeed so particular, that we can't assume that there is a best or worst way to do anything. What we can do instead is to try to realize what are the good and bad lessons we can take at the end of our relationships and what we can do in the future to be happier than we were. We can't expect to magically move on from a relationship after doing something stupid. All relationships need a certain amount of grief as they really meant something to us. We can't run from that period of pain as going through it is the only way to actually realize we are still going towards something. Something better!
Anonymous
October 21st, 2015 10:43pm
In my opinion the best is to try to focus on your own needs.
It sure hurts but the pain should go away eventually, keep doing what you have to do and respect yourself.
Anonymous
October 22nd, 2015 6:23am
Try not to think and talk about them, find things you enjoy to do, things which distract you from the thoughts that make you feel down.
distract yourself , slowly forget him, do hardcore exercises. do not think of him.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Anonymous
October 22nd, 2015 7:38pm
I would recommend some me time, Give yourself some time and appreciation, and value yourself, maybe a treat.
Anonymous
October 23rd, 2015 2:36pm
I would say clearing out old things that remind you of the relationship would be important:) It's cathartic and helps you to move on while feeling like you are on a clean new fresh page! Of course, crying will help if you need to cry as well - just let it out~ And don't forget to surround yourself with good friends to bring your spirits back up:)
Remember how whole you were before you met that person and acknowledge that although it may take time, you will feel whole again soon. The entire time, you were still your own person. You are still loved and you are still important.
A break up leaves a tangle of emotions, confusion, and hurt. We need to understand that we've suffered a loss and take the time to go through that grief with the love and support of those who care about us.
There isn't really a best way. Maybe try going out and meeting new people, not necessarily finding someone new right after, but just meeting new people and trying new things, going new places, and keeping your mind off of it, stay busy!
Anonymous
October 25th, 2015 4:43am
The best way to get over a break up is to not let them be the center of your life anymore.You are stronger than you think so , don't think about them too much.
Anonymous
October 25th, 2015 8:12am
Surround yourself with friends and people that support you, eat ice cream, watch Netflix, and cry.... a lot.
its ok to be upset but dont waste alot of your time on the past. lean on your friends and when your ready meet someone new, learn to do things without thinking about your ex, its not going to happen right away but slowly you will notice you'll think of them less and thats when you know you are getting over them remember to keep yourself busy in the beginning.
best ways to get over a break up is Reflect on your relationship, think about what went wrong, why you guys broke it will help you understand why you need to move on. allow yourself to grieve and also to vent those negative emotions out. also find some ways that will distract you, hangout with friends and get yourself busy, go out and do things you never could do when you were in a relationship, also try and take more care of yourself get physically active or even get some new clothes. try and improve yourself and try and be strong you can do it! your ex will find this very attractive as well if your trying to move on and create a positive change to yourself, goodluck :)
I would say one of the best ways to get over a breakup is to surround yourself with the things you love e.g. your family, friends and hobbies. Try not to enclose yourself into a small space and weep over it. Get out more and just try to be who you are and run the life you want. But also you do need to accept the break up but you need to do that when you feel comfortable and in your own time.
The best way to get over a break up is to first, accept that it is over. Until you accept that the relationship is truly over, you will never be able to move on. Once you accept that the break up is over, I recommend keeping a journal. Keeping a journal to record your thoughts and feelings is a good way to deal with emotions. Keeping busy, going out with friends and family, and creating a support system are ideal steps to getting over a break up and moving on with your life.
I'm a fan of chick flicks and ice cream. But to be serious, time will help. Break ups are hard, but over time things get better and you'll find someone new.
Anonymous
October 29th, 2015 10:03am
Give yourself the permission to feel as bad as you need, and do things that make you feel healthy. That, and time.
Breaking up is the greater challenge. If the breakup has already happened, rest assured that it was inevitable and that you are now open to new and better relationships!
well crying isnt always such a bad thing as many people make it out to be, so cry if it helps you to express your feelings. however you have to remember how to smile. once you feel ready to get back to your life try to distract yourself by geting back to doung your hobbies or finding new ones. asking friends to helpp you trough it could be very helpful as well :)
The best way to get over a breakup is to reflect on how this break up made you feel. Was it a good feeling or a bad feeling? Then decide why this made you feel this way and decide whether you liked this feeling. If so, take this reflection in stride and try to apply what you have learned about yourself now. If this was not a feeling you enjoyed, you most likely have learned something from this experience that you can apply to your life now that has resulted in you being stronger.
Focus COMPLETELY on yourself. Who do you want to be, and how are you going to become that person. Breakups are never easy and getting lonely is part of that. Focus on being the best you can be and time will heal the rest.
Time is the best that helps :) It's good to remember that you are an individual person and you are responsible for your own life. You had good times and bad times, keep the good times in your memory and do things that make you happy. What do you enjoy doing?
Go through the pain, grieve, and dont run. Surround yourself with people you love, friends family, confide in someone close to you. make friends and get out into the world. The best advice was given to me by my uncle, he said now you have to do "you" you have to focus on yourself and better your life. That stuck with me, i had forgotten how to be by myself, how to be just geno, and now i am starting to figure it out. Im not going to tell you it gets easier... but you get better. You are strong, you are beautiful and you are everything you need to be. It didnt work out because it wasnt supposed to. Your future is waiting for you, now go find it
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