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Hey, that's a tough dilemma which you can really only solve yourself. If you tell him, he might be mad, upset, angry... It may or may not be the end of your relationship. If you don't tell him, and he finds out, he'll most likely be mad, upset and angry as well. If you don't tell him, you might carry a sense of guilt with you for a long time. You might want to make a list with these and other ups and downs to telling him you can think of. I don't know your boyfriend, so I can't tell you what will happen if you do or don't tell him, so a list like this might help you make a decision. Good luck.
This is a tricky one that is entirely up to you, however, honesty is really important in relationships for them to work well. This is a big decision and really, only you can make it because no one knows you better than you do, and it's likely that no one knows your boyfriend like you do too. It could be good to keep in mind that a relationship is mostly about love, trust, loyalty and honesty. There are definitely both pros and cons to telling him, but it's a pretty big and important decision that only you can make yourself.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2020 10:43pm
depends, i know that sounds bad but if your relationship is going well telling ight ruin it. but then again if it was going well you probably wouldn't have cheated in the first place. first step would be it sit down and have a talk with each other and find out where both of you stand in the relationship. that way you will know where he is at and if he has something on his mind it gets out on the open too. from there you can decide if its worth telling him or not. and depends on what kind of cheating as well. if its just a kiss or something deeper.
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