Entering a long distance relationship soon, any advice?
Last Updated: 04/24/2020 at 4:04pm
Zeina Ghoul, LLPC
I help guide clients to create positive change in a non-judgmental and supportive atmosphere.
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Yeah! It can be hard, undeniably. Many have a belief that long distance relationships won't last, but they will if both people stay committed and trust each other. Communication is really important, too! It's really important that both people reciprocate effort and understand each other in the relationship to make it work. As for doing things together, try playing a game together, watching a movie (there's websites you can both stream Netflix/Youtube on!), or just talk. Distance is a barrier, but try to make the best out of it and enjoy each other's company. It's harder building trust from a distance, but if you do, it'll be unbreakable if/when you're both together. Kinda late response, but best of luck!
Schedule some time where you both can have undivided time together- whether on the phone, FaceTime, or even watch something at the same time and share your thoughts on it as you're watching. Also- don't get too caught up in trying to constantly be in contact with them. They may be busy, or you may be busy, and it's not about the quantity of texts but the quality of your conversation. Try to stay in the loop! With long distance, it's easy to feel like there is a disconnect between you and your partner's life because you don't get to physically be there. Try to connect with their friends as well, maybe reach out for gift advice if a birthday or holiday is coming up! Most importantly, keep talking about the future. That's what always helps bring a long distance relationship back to the heart.
Anything is possible. Long distance relationships are difficult but if it is the right person and you really know this person inside out, and you are both committed to each other then you can make it work. If you can find a way to make your relationship work long distance then you both can overcome anything that comes your way. Long distance relationships can be very special especially in those moments when you can finally come together with that person and enjoy the time spent together. I know from my personal experience how difficult a long distance relationship can be but, i promise you it is well worth the wait when you finally are with that person.
Yea, being in one for now almost 2 years I think I've learned what helps make them successful. First, you can communicate with them often or not as often depending on what works for you. Some LD couples communicate daily, I talk to my partner 2-3 times a week, others once a week/month. Whatever works for both of you. Second, planning visits or opportunities to see each other in person helps make the distance a little more bearable. Again, how often you do that may depend on your (plural) preferences. It may be once a week, twice a month, or once every couple of months. For my partner and I, we try to visit once a month when can. Third, try to check in on future plans every so often. At some point, it will be time to close the distance gap and be together hopefully forever. Communicating future goals/plans/life milstones helps not only with romance but also help see the light at the end of the tunnel. They can be healthy and fulfilling just like close distance relationships. Best of luck!
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