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Ex keeps messaging my family through dms this has been going on for years I blocked him on everything. I have a bf and I’m happy and see my future with him. But ex doesn’t seem to just disappear?

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Last Updated: 06/29/2020 at 5:28pm
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January 2nd, 2020 7:27am
Have you gone to the police with this issue? Have you told him to stop direct messaging you? Does your ex-know that you have a boyfriend? Have you told your ex it is over, and you do not want him in your life anymore? You need to talk with your ex and tell him it is over. If he continues to bother you, then call the police. I hope this helps. You need to communicate with him. Why have you not talk to him, your ex? Are you afraid of him? You want him to disappear, have you asked him nicely to disappear? What made you brake up in the first place? Think about those questions, ask some of those questions, towards your ex.
January 3rd, 2020 12:46pm
Hi, is there anyway you can ask your family to also remove him or stop responding to him or even to let him know that it's best for both of you that he moves on? It can't be nice being constantly reminded of your past, nor is it healthy for him to be clinging on for years when you've moved on and met someone new. Maybe your family need a gentle chat from you on how you feel about it as they may not realise how it is affecting you and your current relationship. Alternatively, if he's not contacting you directly maybe just tell your family not to let you know when they speak to him as he is no longer a concern of yours.
January 7th, 2020 1:18am
I'm sorry to hear this is happening to you, is it possible for you to ask your family to block him as well, I am sure your family wants to see you happy and will be more then willing to help. You said this has been happening for years, why do you think he continues to contact family members? Would you like for your family to tell your ex how happy your are now and your headed in a different direction? How do you feel is the best way to control the situation? If you feel you're in danger, is there someone you can tell this too, maybe they can lead you in the right direction for help.
June 29th, 2020 5:28pm
It seems like you are frustrated because your ex is trying to stay in touch with your family, while you are trying to move on. It is hard when you can not control what others do. But you can control how you handle it. If you are happy, that is all that matters. In my experience, I learned that it is okay If your family wants to still be involved in your ex’s life because they may have a connection, but it is also okay for you not to have them in your life anymore. Compromise. If it bothers you, maybe you can express how you are feeling to your family