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Alex DS Ellis, MA, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist
Feeling depressed or anxious can be so overwhelming. I want to help you feel better and be able to enjoy life. You are not alone and you deserve emotional support.
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Anonymous
August 27th, 2020 3:25pm
Following a rejection, you probably feel hurt or maybe a bit insecure. I feel like it’s important to note that just because someone wasn’t interested in you, doesn’t mean that you are unattractive or unlovable. Everyone has different types, and different things they look for in a person. Rejection is important, it saves you from wasting your time. That being said, the best way to regain your confidence post rejection is by engaging in self care. Take note of your mental state, take care of yourself. Do something nice, or fun, and just keep working on improving your overall health.
Anonymous
May 25th, 2021 1:01pm
I remind myself that everyone is worthy and that people who hurt or are very emotional at that time sometimes can say hurtful and mean things and not really mean it. It is important to know not to take everything somebody says about you personally and know your own worth. It also helps to remember all the good things you have done in your life and how you helped other people. Also looking back and remembering how you grew by being rejected in the past can help you to boost your confidence. We must remind ourselves that rejection is not always a bad thing and that sometimes there are just hidden factors which lead to the rejection and that it didn't occur because we weren't worthy of being accepted but due to these hidden factors.
A rejection hurts regardless we accept the reason or not. A rejection can ruin self-worth, create self-doubts thus ruining self-confidence.
Some self-help you can do to boost self-confidence:
1. Self-care. Make efforts to pamper yourself. Body care, face care, hair care, light exercise. Does it need effort? Yes and that will make your own conscious and subconscious brain believe as a fact that you matter and boost self-worth.
2. Whenever negative self-talk pops up, catch it before it spiralling down by the second and harder to catch.
Once you catch them, replace them with more supportive thoughts.
3. Whenever positive thoughts about yourself pop up, turn the volume louder. Yes, you are enough, lovable and you can achieve anything you put your mind into. All the best! 💜
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2022 4:57am
I know, for myself, when i got rejected I ALWAYS compared myself to another person and connected it to perfection. I had a tough time with that. If your dealing with rejection for a intimate relationship, please remember to deal with this with a balance of emotion and logic (feel your emotions and allow yourself to go through this but also, be logical about what your going through [i.e. is there a place I need to do better? What is something i need to work on for myself? Did i feel genuine connection or was i day dreaming about what i thought was a possibility not what was actually there?). Lastly, i know hearing this line is so mundane, but it really helps me when i find that sweet spot between feeling my emotion yet still be logical about the situation, there’s more available to me. Ive noted, with slight tweaks, this can be applied to jobs as well.
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