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How can I deal with someone that is acting like a 'diva'?

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Last Updated: 03/12/2022 at 4:12pm
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Top Rated Answers
October 5th, 2016 3:24am
Try to look past the diva moments and focus on the other parts of the person. If this does not work, try telling the person they are making you feel uncomfortable.
October 9th, 2016 1:22pm
Keep treating them nicely no matter how much they bother you. Let them know you're a strong caring person! Don't be rude though !!
October 26th, 2016 11:23pm
Try and keep your distance if they are irritating you. You can't change people, but you can change your response to them.
November 6th, 2016 6:54pm
Make sure that you don't let them walk all over you, just because they are full of themselves. It's so important that you maintain your perception of yourself and not let their ego make you think worse of yourself.
November 17th, 2016 7:54pm
Gently try to help them with their problems no matter what they seem to be acting like, because labeling them would be an assumption
February 1st, 2017 4:15pm
Validate any accurate or adaptive perceptions they may have about themselves, and lightly challenge any possible delusions of grandeur by gently asking them to think about the behavior that seems diva-esque. Ideally, with some introspection, they will come to realize that some of their behavior and self-expectations are a bit unrealistic, without you having to directly shut them down on anything.
May 13th, 2017 9:10am
You can distance yourself from them. If you don't like the way someone is acting, you have the right to choose to separate yourself from them. If you don't want to deal with them, don't. If it's someone you care about and you aren't willing to cut them off, then kindly confront them on the issue you are having with them and explain to them how they could change.
August 13th, 2017 6:46pm
I think it's important when dealing with anyone we're having trouble getting along with to try to remember that everyone has a reason for their manner. Try to see things from a different perspective. It might be frustrating, or difficult to deal with someone acting this way, but that doesn't mean we can't do it. If it's getting really out of hand, it might be worth it to pull them aside and talk to them about it. They may not realize they're acting this way. Try to be understanding, and polite, There's no need to call them out and embarrass them in front of others. If that doesn't work, at least you know you made an attempt. If it's more than you can handle, there's no shame in backing yourself away from the situation that makes you uncomfortable.
November 8th, 2017 5:45pm
What kind of relationship do you have with the "diva"? I would recommend setting boundaries with the person. First, identify what kind of interaction you want/are comfortable having with the individual and go from there.
November 15th, 2017 3:51pm
From my experience "diva's" are people that have a big attitude. I have found that the best thing to do is to try to understand why they are acting up. Leaving them to it or calling them out may just make the situation much worse, so it is in my opinion best to listen and understand.
November 19th, 2017 12:28am
well, there simply isn't a legal way to just drop everything and not deal with them, and kick them out. but everyone has something that will intrigue them to stop their actions, just fascinate them.
November 19th, 2017 5:48am
Try having an open, honest conversation using "I" statements. Saying things like "I feel ______ when you _____" and maybe give them some loving suggestions about how they can improve their relationship with you.
November 29th, 2017 2:54pm
There could be many different reasons why that person is acting in the way that they are. The best thing you can do is to try and stay calm, and recognize that you are bothered by their behavior. Maybe try addressing them directly, or going to an objective third party to explain the situation.
December 8th, 2017 10:04pm
Give them a snickers... No honestly I guess you should try to talk with that person get him/her back to earth with honesty and in a calm manner.
January 20th, 2018 11:36pm
You don't need to "deal" with anything unpleasant in life. Look at the situation, changes are that you can remove yourself from the situation, or limit exposure to the bare minimum; once a diva, always a diva (narcissist???); so, don't feed the monster and seek better company. Unless you want to self-sabotage your own life.
January 25th, 2018 4:37am
I think it would depend on how well you know this person. If you are good friends and the person is just having a moment, maybe let them have it. They may be trying to get something out of their system. If they are someone you do not know very well, this may just be their personality, or they may also be having a moment and just need some time to get out of it. I would suggest trying to discern why the person is acting this way, but if it is really bothering you, you may want to find a way to leave the conversation.
January 26th, 2018 4:27pm
If someone is acting in this way, try to talk to them about how you feel in a non-confrontational way. Could you tell me more about how you are feeling?
February 1st, 2018 9:47pm
Minimal and unemotional responses seem to work best with somebody who is acting overly dramatic. Typically a diva wants to stir up drama. When you don't give them that, they don't have much to work with.
February 16th, 2018 4:01pm
I need my personal experience the best way Tom deal with a diva is to either walk away. Failing that. Try to make them see the bigger picture. Show them that there is more to it than just what they are seeing.
April 11th, 2018 12:44am
In my opinion I suggest you respond to that person's words and actions in a neutral way as possible. What do I mean by neutral? I mean by not expressing any feelings in your words and actions. Don't try to fight that person because that person will be more of a diva than ever. Don't accept it and submit under that person's diva personality. What I mean by that is don't treat her like she's the center of the world. That will only add fuel to the fire. If that person says something or does something that indicates a diva then just interact with it by treating that person like a normal person. I know it would be hard to ignore that person. It's gonna be hard putting up with a diva. Don't give up try to be neutral as possible.
April 16th, 2018 5:59pm
indifference is your answer. you don t want to lose your chance because someone's behavior affects you. in the end, no one really cares about you, than the family. so let her make her own show.
April 22nd, 2018 9:36pm
Understand it. By using the word 'diva', it's clear to see you feel negatively about it. Try to understand why you do feel this way, and what you need to do about it.
April 25th, 2018 4:36am
There are a few definitions of a Diva, But I assume you're using it in a disparaging manner and to refer to those who act entitled, Narcissistic. Whether it is in the workplace, or at home, you have to settle a Diva down by telling them EXACTLY what is distasteful about their behavior, and then set some boundaries for them. This will make it extremely clear to them about what they're doing and now you have a clear line in which they should not cross.
May 13th, 2018 5:36pm
When someone acts as though they are a "diva", they are deflecting off of themselves and onto you. :) When someone acts like this, the best thing (imo) to do is to humor them or to express to them how it makes you feel. If they do not respect your feelings, they are being very toxic towards you.
June 9th, 2018 8:56am
Confront them about it and ask them why they are acting this way. Maybe the person is trying to hide their real feelings by putting up an act. Tell them that it’s bothering you and talk it out.
June 9th, 2018 4:08pm
The first suggestion i could say to be the best way to deal with this is to try your absolute best to accept every individual for who they are. You may not like to be around this 'kind' of person or character and there is nothing wrong with that but, it would be totally unfair to treat them any different from anyone else. If you find yourself getting annoyed or uncomfortable to be around someone whom is acting like a diva, the next best thing to do is to walk away.
June 27th, 2018 2:49am
Just ignore them. They aren't worth your time or effort. If they want to continue to be a child for your attention , then just leave it alone.
June 28th, 2018 11:26am
I can deal with someone who is acting like a diva by not being responsive to the behavior which is usually aimed at intimidating the other person.
July 7th, 2018 10:28pm
From the wording of your question I feel as though we are similar and I think the same about some important people in my life. However, you have to understand that everyone reacts differently to situations and effects them to different extremities. Do your best to leave judgement behind and maybe by offering genuine support or trying to figure out why they’re acting this way you may find they calm down. Acting like a diva may be a form of subconscious attention seeking. However, at the same time if the person is being a “diva” do not let yourself be treated badly, and do not deal with toxicity.
July 21st, 2018 9:51pm
Respect that in them. I know- it is real hard to do this. But maybe they are very confident in their self esteem, they love themselves a whole lot!