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How can I stop being insecure in my relationship?

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How can I stop being insecure in my relationship?
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 11:55pm
Be very open and sincere about everything. Be loving and sincere to him/her and don't hold back!! :)
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 11:24am
When you're going into relationship you must to trust the other person,If you want from him/her to trust you too.Also remember more insecurity into relationship can cause problems..
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 9:30pm
Sit down with your partner and express your feelings, thoughts and worries to him/her, it may help you over come your insecurities,
LovellyLettuce
February 22nd, 2016 1:16pm
Talk through with your partner things that are making you insecure. If you feel like you can't do this, either because you aren't confident enough or feel like your insecurities aren't valid, you shouldn't be with this partner. A healthy relationship should have full open communication. If even after you talked it through with your partner you still feel insecure about anything concerning the relationship (i.e. trust on the other etc...) , consider your relationship.
JDM108
March 18th, 2016 8:27am
When you're secure with yourself then insecurities in relating to people should vanish. Get comfortable with your aloneness, confident with who you are, and step into your power, and this shouldn't be a problem for you
Anonymous
March 18th, 2016 11:19pm
You are always going to start from insecurity then build up to being none insecurity overtime in relationships.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 6:52am
This is a tough one as it depends on the reasons for the insecurities. Of course it can happen because we can be hurt from past relationships, however we have to learn to not judge by others mistakes. Don't worry about what MIGHT happen and start living
zearo3236
March 26th, 2016 6:55pm
This depends on your situation, if you do not trust your partner, this can not be a relationship. A relationship is a promise, unlimited trust, etc. If it's a lack of self-esteem know that we are all filled with flaws. But you can over come them! This person you're with, whether a friend, parent, or boyfriend/girlfriend should be comfortable to talk to you about what troubles you. Have confidence!
fanglife123
April 1st, 2016 3:02pm
Put yourself all for that relationship. Don't just stand and be worrying about it. Try to do what is right.
patientHeart83
April 2nd, 2016 8:44am
The way you stop being insecure with your relationship is by finding out what it is you are insecure with inside of you. Not knowing yourself and your own insecurities can be harmful and self destructive. If you are secure with yourself then you will be secure with your relationship, also knowing that you are secure with your decision to give yourself to another, all because you deserve a good person and you won't settle for less, so maybe look in the mirror and find yourself and why you are so insecure with your relationship. thanks xx
lipsticklez
April 2nd, 2016 9:58pm
Tell them how you feel or be with someone who is considerate of your feelings/ someone that makes you feel comfortable in your own skin
Anonymous
June 5th, 2016 1:20pm
Once you realise that if the person your with wants to be with you then they will stay, if they don't they are worth you being insecure.
DavidPortugal
June 5th, 2016 8:05pm
You can stop being insecure about your relationship understanding that the other person is with you because he/she chose to be like that. Not because there isn't other alternative. Nowadays people break up qhen they want. If it's not your case, then no need to worry.
Leon92
June 9th, 2016 1:22am
Feeling insecurity in a relationship can be quite troublesome. My own personal experiences have taught me that it's good to discuss these insecurities with your partner and / or friends. Discussing these problems with the people you know best can give you perspective. If that doesn't give you the answer you think is right, I'd recommend you to seek out a therapist.
helpfulZebra33
June 10th, 2016 8:35am
My trusting your partner and giving them the freedom to be what they are. When you are not insecure, he/she will start to express more.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2016 9:28am
take a long time to choose my partner before going in any relation and know the personality more and more
phenex2014
April 10th, 2017 2:54pm
No relationship can succeed with out 2 people working together and having open communication if your struggling or feeling insecure you need to convey that to your partner
Anonymous
June 13th, 2017 1:45pm
Believe that you are lovable and that you are worthy of positive regard. Feelings of insecurity might crop up, and while they do, try to remember that you are deserving of love and positive regard.