How can I stop being insecure in my relationship?
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Be very open and sincere about everything. Be loving and sincere to him/her and don't hold back!! :)
When you're going into relationship you must to trust the other person,If you want from him/her to trust you too.Also remember more insecurity into relationship can cause problems..
Sit down with your partner and express your feelings, thoughts and worries to him/her, it may help you over come your insecurities,
Talk through with your partner things that are making you insecure. If you feel like you can't do this, either because you aren't confident enough or feel like your insecurities aren't valid, you shouldn't be with this partner. A healthy relationship should have full open communication. If even after you talked it through with your partner you still feel insecure about anything concerning the relationship (i.e. trust on the other etc...) , consider your relationship.
When you're secure with yourself then insecurities in relating to people should vanish. Get comfortable with your aloneness, confident with who you are, and step into your power, and this shouldn't be a problem for you
You are always going to start from insecurity then build up to being none insecurity overtime in relationships.
This is a tough one as it depends on the reasons for the insecurities. Of course it can happen because we can be hurt from past relationships, however we have to learn to not judge by others mistakes. Don't worry about what MIGHT happen and start living
This depends on your situation, if you do not trust your partner, this can not be a relationship. A relationship is a promise, unlimited trust, etc. If it's a lack of self-esteem know that we are all filled with flaws. But you can over come them! This person you're with, whether a friend, parent, or boyfriend/girlfriend should be comfortable to talk to you about what troubles you. Have confidence!
Put yourself all for that relationship. Don't just stand and be worrying about it. Try to do what is right.
The way you stop being insecure with your relationship is by finding out what it is you are insecure with inside of you. Not knowing yourself and your own insecurities can be harmful and self destructive. If you are secure with yourself then you will be secure with your relationship, also knowing that you are secure with your decision to give yourself to another, all because you deserve a good person and you won't settle for less, so maybe look in the mirror and find yourself and why you are so insecure with your relationship. thanks xx
Tell them how you feel or be with someone who is considerate of your feelings/ someone that makes you feel comfortable in your own skin
Once you realise that if the person your with wants to be with you then they will stay, if they don't they are worth you being insecure.
You can stop being insecure about your relationship understanding that the other person is with you because he/she chose to be like that. Not because there isn't other alternative. Nowadays people break up qhen they want. If it's not your case, then no need to worry.
Feeling insecurity in a relationship can be quite troublesome. My own personal experiences have taught me that it's good to discuss these insecurities with your partner and / or friends. Discussing these problems with the people you know best can give you perspective. If that doesn't give you the answer you think is right, I'd recommend you to seek out a therapist.
My trusting your partner and giving them the freedom to be what they are. When you are not insecure, he/she will start to express more.
take a long time to choose my partner before going in any relation and know the personality more and more
No relationship can succeed with out 2 people working together and having open communication if your struggling or feeling insecure you need to convey that to your partner
Believe that you are lovable and that you are worthy of positive regard. Feelings of insecurity might crop up, and while they do, try to remember that you are deserving of love and positive regard.
I would suggest allowing yourself to be open to trusting someone, it's definitely hard but telling yourself that this is an important aspect in a relationship really helps. Try to ask your partner for reassurance when needed be if he/she is ofcourse okay with that. Maybe that would help you feel like you are trsuting him/her and will push through the doubts. Also, maybe you should look back to why there is mistrust in the realtionship and try to find solutions that work for you don't be scared to try new things and see what helps you best. :)
You need to build a good foundation. I understand that we all are results of compound situations in our childhood which is usually the root of lack of the trust and feeling security while being in a intimate relationship or any other relationship in our lives. This is my personal opinion, I started working on myself because i hardly trusted anyone and was highly insecure about myself without even realising. It made me toxic unintentionally and would lead to unnecessary fights or argument and thus the pain. I sat and thought things out, it took me months to work on. Firstly I started journaling my feelings. write it down. Regardless how it sounds or if it's rational or not. Then i started applying some techniques of CBT. that is breaking down and dissecting my thinking pattern. I would ask myself, what happened? How does that make feel? Then... Is that what actually happened? Or did I perceive something due to my truama filter? Was my reaction rational? What possibly could trigger me? With my relationship, i started involving my partner. I would take a break when enraged then come back with cool mind and tell him how i felt and why. He responded better. Slowly we build repor and our foundation got stronger with time. Next, self worth is super important when it comes to insecurity. When you are in a relationship, you should be sure to have a life of your own. Your life shouldn't resolve around the relationship. Thays a part of your life, not your life. Keep your hobbies and engage with friends. Alot of people fail to do so which results in clingyness which is usually the result of insecurity and fear of abandonment and loneliness.
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