How do I admit to my boyfriend that I was suicidal but not anymore?
Last Updated: 10/19/2020 at 4:19am
Cynthia Stocker, LCSW,
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
My approach is direct, kind, honest & collaborative. My clients appreciate that I help them in a way that cuts through the jargon and gives clear explanations.
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There are certain times when love changes people, sometimes for the good & sometimes for the bad. And in my opinion if the change of mind wasnt too difficult,admitting wont be difficult either.so If you are frank with your bf,then it should not be a problem.just like you share other incidents,other stories, tell him there have been certain things in the past which you want him to know because you dont want any secrets between you two. im sure he'll understand. :)
Explain what made you suicidal . And how you have dealt with those toughts. Tell him that that was the past and that it's now over.
The two most important things in a relationship: honesty and communication. I would sit down with him and let him know you want to talk to him about something and just be honest. Tell him you once felt this way, but it's in the past now and you feel differently.
You shouldn't have to "admit" to being suicidal, tell you boyfriend you'd like to sit down, as you would like to speak to him about something important to you. Don't feel like you have to apologise in any way/shape/form. Speak to him about the time before you had these suicidal thoughts, any moments you had that could have triggered these feelings. Make sure he understands that you are not that person anymore, that you've come a long way from who you used to be. I hope he listens to you and that you also listen to him, because your past should NEVER have to put your relationship at risk
To be honest, I think that you should just straight up tell him when you guys are alone and in a good mood. Don't beat around the bush too much. But only tell him when you're ready. There's nothing obligating you nor is there a certain time you need to tell him. Take your time, love.
Recovering from such a feeling is incredibly brave. It is something you should be proud of. It is something we do not talk much about but it is exactly like surviving. Being suicidal hurts, that's evident, feeling such a way is destructive. So when you realise that you came out of that, that you fought for yourself and that you're still alive today, it is important to keep all that in mind. It is important to wake up and admire yourself for breathing and living life again. Your boyfriend may be a part of your happiness today, he may be one of the things that make you feel good, so he should be open to discuss about your past. Especially because thank of your bravery you're alive today. Because you fought for yourself, now you're able to live and have a significant other with whom you could experience amazing things for the years that are coming. Be proud of what you accomplished. I guess, just start a random conversation and drop the thing. Make sure you're comfortable and he has to understand that it was hard for you and that things are better but you still feel like he should know about that period. Take care and I hope this answer helped ! xx
I'm glad to hear you're not suicidal anymore. Why do you feel you want to tell him you were previously suicidal? If it is so he can understand be prepared if you start feeling that way again, then I believe it is a good thing to inform him of. If not, then is there a need to let him know? It is hard to bring up such a sensitive topic but I'm sure he'll respect a serious conversation with you about it. Keep reiterating that you are no longer suicidal so he had no reason to be concerned for your safety!
Just be honest, the sooner the better. Because if it comes up later than it will be worse. Honesty is the best policy.
Tell him your story so he understands. Make sure to mention at least once that the way you felt is in the past, so he doesn't have to worry about you anymore.
The best thing for any relationship is honesty, but I understand it's difficult. I would suggest asking your boyfriend to sit down with you for a while whilst you both get anything you have on your chest, out in the open. Explain that you used to suffer with suicidal thoughts and wanted to end your life, explain why that was so that he understands, and then go on to explain that he has nothing to worry about because you are no longer suicidal. I think it would help if you reassure him that if you are ever in that position mentally again, you will seek help either from him or a professional.
being honest is always the best answer. Also saying it at a right time will help so he doesn't start worrying about you, as if you said it unexpectedly it might shock him and scare him. Make it very clear that you aren't anymore and specify on how you're feeling mentally now, as well as how you were feeling when you felt that way. Also! Say what helped you to get out of that state so he knows that it's taken care of! depression is really hard to deal with, but being honest about how you feel with your loved ones is a key to a strong relationship. I think even revealing your struggles often connects people further. The national suicide hotline is 800-273-8255 if you ever need it! best wishes
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