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How do I know if I'm in love?

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Last Updated: 08/12/2022 at 9:20pm
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awgeful
September 16th, 2020 5:58pm
From my experience, you are in love when you wake up and look forward to seeing them. Every second of your day, you feel excited whenever they talk to you, text you, etc.. Your day gets better whenever you see them and it just feels like you're on "Cloud 9", like you're just so happy that there's no good word to describe it. You smile at everything they do, no matter if it's good or bad, and you can always rely on them and they can rely on you as well. It just feels like you're constant excited and happy.
Anonymous
April 19th, 2018 12:10pm
you know when you're in love when you can't stop reading the text messages over when they're taking forever to reply. You know when you see them look at someone else and you get super jealous. You know when you see them but right when they leave you miss them already. You know when whatever they're going through you want to help them and you never want them to be sad or upset.
Anonymous
May 11th, 2018 10:19pm
When they are the one you find yourself always thinking about, when they’re your lady’s thought before sleeping, when all you can ever wonder is what they’re doing, when your world practically revolves around them and you find yourself caring for them a lot
shinimars
March 21st, 2020 12:38pm
I understand you are having a sudden confusion of feeling. when you are in love, you will feel happy whenever you see them. your heart beats fast and you will be shy whenever you are around them. you will feel a sudden rush of emotions whenever you see them. you accept every perfection and imperfection of your love. you will have a sudden rush of great feeling. youll start to love yourself and be a better person for the person you love. Love is one of the common emotions everyone feels. Do you feel these emotions when you are around them?
Anonymous
March 27th, 2020 1:55am
Knowing you are in love is when everything feels right with that person. You are comfortable and can tell them anything. There is an abundance of mutual respect and care for one another and you both are genuinely happy. There is also a great deal of trust between the two of you that reaches all ends. Being in love is different than any other love you have ever experienced for anyone. It also includes seeing a future with this person and knowing in your heart that it is meant to be. Love is love, and if you force yourself to be in love without feeling anything, then it is not true love.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2020 12:15am
You will feel like there is nobody else in the world. When you see them, they will light up the room. No matter what they do, you will always have a special place for them in your heart. If you feel butterflies when you are with them, you are probably in love. You will be happy when you are with them. If you are in love, you will feel alive, and like nothing else matters. If you feel like they are just there, you are probably not in love. You will love to be around them, and always want to be with them.
circusmirror123
April 8th, 2020 6:22pm
This is one of the things that you just know! Love means something different to everybody, and everybody takes a different amount of time to fall in love. Your definition of love may be completely different to what somebody else would define love as. For me personally, I know I'm in love when I trust that person completely, and when I feel completely confident to be who I am around them. When I'm in love I feel satisfied with who I'm with and I can imagine a strong happy future with that person. Being in love with someone makes me feel better about myself too! Again, you'll know when you're in love.
WrenSimon
April 12th, 2020 7:33pm
A lot of people believe love is a feeling. It’s actually an action. It’s a combination of care, respect, knowledge integrity, attention, affection, and open and honest communication. Many people who have not done the work of critically evaluating their attachment styles tend to confuse love with cathexis or lust. Love is love is love. We love our parents and friends from the same place we love our romantic partners. The tendency to over identify with our romantic partners and put too much stake in ownership/exclusivity and being loved in return. True love is unconditional and you will know it because you will want the best for them; even if they decide the best thing for them is not you.
Daniela27
April 15th, 2020 7:58pm
If you feel that you experience comfort and happiness by being around this person, and if this person is someone you would take care of or be concerned about their wellbeing, then that is love. For me, to love someone is to do anything for that person. I would talk to them often, ask how they are doing, develop a strong relationship with them, and see them smile and laugh. To be in love is to make time for them often. Falling in love is a wonderful sensation. There is harmony, peace, and infinite amounts of happiness. If you see yourself smiling constantly every time you see this person, you know you are in love.
LightfootListener
April 22nd, 2020 2:48am
That person will mean the world to you. You will see their name float onto your screen and feel happy about seeing it. They will make you feel at home anywhere, and make all of your problems seem easily manageable. Love is a hard topic for many people because they dont know what to look for, but when you find the person you are meant to be with you will know and it will make a world of difference. Love is a strong feeling too, not subtle like enjoying someones company or enjoing being around them, it is a feeling that when used correctly can change your life.
PsychoPhysics
April 30th, 2020 5:57am
When you're in love, you start seeing your crush as an extension of yourself, so when they're hurt, nervous or really excited about something, then you experience the same feelings as them. However, knowing you're in love feels different for everyone. Scientists have proven that there are actual signs for when someone is in love. For example, people reported having new interests and personality traits after entering a loving relationship from a study collected in 1995. Of course, if you're already envisioning a future with them, you may suspect you’re in love. However, those signals don’t always indicate that it’s the real thing. After all, in the beginning, your excitement around this new relationship can cloud your ability to see whether there’s real potential for a long-term relationship. For many, it just takes time and gentle care to know that he/she is the one.
Anonymous
May 1st, 2020 4:44am
No one else can describe your love for you. Its a feeling in your inner heart. Sometimes we are in love but we get it as love in a months time. People care for each other as friends, but love is beyond friendship and sometimes its selfishness too. Let the time come to your side, till that happens let her feel your tenderness, your love but don't go for passion. It's not love. Don't mix it up. Take care of her until she really understands your love. Girls usually feel the protection of a boy within weeks. She will understand you.
courageousheart96
May 6th, 2020 7:47pm
This person is on your mind literally all the time. They annoy you, but you still want to be around them. You want to show them all of your favourite things. You would rather stay in and do nothing with them than go out. You feel safe when you are around them. You want them to be happy.​ You love their quirks​. Your sense of self has grown through knowing this person. You are becoming a better person. You celebrate their triumphs even if you fail. You start planning a future involving them. You have started thinking about introducing them to your family.
aspectyourmom
May 13th, 2020 2:40pm
I used to not believe in love until i met this girl. she made me feel safe , loved , cared for and more. this feeling was so overwhelming for me. i’m normally a person who’s extremely pessimistic and i rarely believe in “love” due to other experiences. but , with her i felt optimistic and joyful. she filled with me with glee and i began to always want to know if she was okay , i would check in on her and want to talk. for once in my life i saw a future with someone and i was ready. she made me feel .. like i was the only one. every second of every minute i couldn’t help but think about her , she was intoxicating and everything about her i loved. she made me strong and let me know it was okay to cry. but , when she left me for an unknown reason all i wanted was the best for her. i knew i was in love because at that point her happiness was all i wanted. i wanted her to be happy with or without me no matter how badly it hurt. i just wanted her happy and i still do. i wish i knew why and i wish she told me but i’ll never truly know. i still love her dearly. i hope she’s happy. you know you’re in love when you want them happy , when they make you the happiest you could be and make you feel safe. that when you argue you just want it to be over. you realize the wrongs you’ve done and what they’ve done. you accept their flaws and who they are.
Anonymous
May 15th, 2020 10:43am
You will smile for no reason. He/She will be occupied in your mind completely. You will be so eager to meet him/her, if you meet or talk, the very next second you will start missing them. You will start thinking your future with him/her. A message or a call from him/her in unexpected situations is the best, makes you all happy. You start enjoying being alone with his/her thoughts all over your mind. Your surroundings can easily find good difference in you, in the way you behave, everything changes for good. Hope this answer helps. All happy, good luck and cheers. God Speed.
Anonymous
May 16th, 2020 5:15pm
Love is a magical wonder, and sometimes it just comes unexpectedly. When you find love, your heart will guide you and you will know. Like life, love has its own path for different people and has its own obstacles and milestones throughout its path, but falling in love brings you the utmost happiness and it makes you enjoy life, and makes you look forward to doing things you love. It also helps you realize who you are as a person and makes you see life from a different perspective. The answer to your question is in your heart and I can't say a definite answer, but love itself is a beautiful part in the journey of life.
Anonymous
May 17th, 2020 9:44am
You'll feel safe and calm around that person or you might start blushing, and just get this fuzzy feeling in your heart making you feel warm and joyful, your smile might widen and your day will become 10 times better when just seeing that special person, the way you just feel like you can absolutely tell that special person anything, love is something you' can sense when its there, it'll just feel right and amazing, when you are in love, there will always be a beating heart full of excitement in your chest, a heart directing you towards your happiness!
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2020 1:15am
This is a great question. It can be really tough to figure out whether or not you're in love with someone. Other emotions, like affection, fear, anxiety, and desire can get in the way. For me, love is about sacrifice, or giving things up for another person. If you are only infatuated with another person, you probably won't have a selfless desire to do nice things for that person, or give up your own time and resources for them. If you're trying to figure out if you're in love with someone, consider asking yourself how often you think about their wellbeing. Ask yourself how often you experience the desire to give up your own time or resources for that person, without getting anything back for yourself. Good luck; you've got this!
Asher
June 6th, 2020 7:16am
I would explain love as being with someone you can't live without. When I was younger I loved someone that i thought could be my whole future, but it didn't work out that way. I should also clarify that love takes time. You have to work at it non-stop for it work out. Love can make someone really grow as a person. It can be found when we aren't looking. But most importantly it change a lot of things. It changes us as people, changes how we interaction with people. It changes the stories of our lives, which is magically in it's own sense.
CalmCourage
June 7th, 2020 12:48am
Hey there, that is a great question! I guess it could be different for everyone but in my experience you spend a lot of your time thinking of them. Thinking what nice things you could do with them. You can feel you respect the person what they do and get excited by where they are going in life and want to help them in any way you can. You feel that excitement when you see them and can't help but smile. You laugh together and can tell one another things. You're not hiding who you really are with them. I guess in the first stages though you get the excitement, the nervousness the anticipation. Hope this helps.
Cajacks4
July 2nd, 2020 6:08pm
I know that I am in love when that person is the only person I want to talk to. When I go to sleep I wake up thinking about that person. I only want that person and I want to wake up next to that person every day. That person brings joy to your heart. You plan a future with this person and talk about the future with them. You know what makes this person tick. You can tell what the person is thinking and what they are feeling. You know what to do and what not to. You do not want to hurt this person instead you want to help them grow and see them win.
Hopeforjoy
July 8th, 2020 3:50pm
If you think about the person in a deeper way of understanding and wanted to have relation with them always....Feel uncomfortable when you don't have answer from them.. you feel so loved when they are around you even if they might not say by their words. You can even observe the changes in yourself regarding the thoughts and the behavior you will have when you talk or listen about a particular person whom you love. First of all you will be talking to them a lot of hours and the hours that you spent will be like seconds to you..
Anonymous
July 11th, 2020 6:06am
You will start envisioning your life with the person. They will consume your thoughts no matter how you are feeling. You will want to be with them frequently and you will want them to experience life with you. Sometimes it is difficult to know if you are in love, but when it comes to you, there is not a better feeling. The relationship will not feel forced; it will feel easy. You will feel like you are able to share everything and anything with the person. They will become your “go-to” person that is with you through everything. They will make you feel safe and loved.
dreamUnicorn7
July 16th, 2020 7:12pm
Well, I think you won't know that you're in love. It just happens. You start feeling things you have never felt before. Your partner's happiness becomes your happiness. His/her priority becomes your first priority. His/her problems becomes your problems and you feel a powerful sense of empathy towards them. You start smiling out of nowhere and the next thing you know, you are thinking about them. You start seeing a future with them. You fight for this person. You can turn the world upside for this person. Your heart rate and mind synchronizes with theirs. You wanna grow with them. You want to be good for them. Your everything starts with them and their happiness. You long to be with them. It's just a weird feeling and you're just happy about it.
soothingBlanket3694
July 22nd, 2020 4:04pm
When you are in love you are more forgiving than ever. You feel lighter no matter how much weight you are given by your life. You live by feeling an existence with you all the time who makes you feel you are not alone. You feel like you have someone whom you can go back to no matter what happens. You feel like you have a person who is home. You have a hard time thinking of drifting apart from that person. Simply seeing them calling or messaging makes you more than happy. Or hearing their voice makes your day. Funny is they can give you butterfies- both romantic and painful. Hope you realize you found your love at the right time in this world full of manipulating loves. Love.
joyfulMango7240
July 25th, 2020 11:08pm
Love is something quite subjective to notice and there are also different types. If you develop a crush for someone, you may pay more attention when they are around, feel nervous and want them to have a good image of you. Gradually as you get to know a person better the crush may develop in falling in love which is a stronger feeling (it happens gradually). They might lift up your spirit just by being around and you might wanting to spend as much time as possible with them. You might become protective of them (although that's something you can feel strongly for friends as well) but there also appear wishes that will be different from that of a friendship - because you are attracted to that person, you may like when not only they give you attention and are affectionate, but also enjoy or imagine kissing them or generally being physically intimate. Overall, it's quite a distinctive feeling you can't confuse, you may simply overestimate or underestimate its strength.
calmwaves8
July 27th, 2020 5:43pm
When I was in love, I usually think about the person frequently and have questions about the person in mind. I also thought about the person's well-being. Often, I find the person's habits quite adorable and note the person's dislikes and likes. Although it might sound creepy or weird, I usually catch myself noticing small details. The person's text would bring a smile to my face all the time. When I am around the person, I feel the happiest and smile like an idiot. I also find myself going great length for the person to make sure the person is safe, happy, and successful. Giving 10000% support when the person need it.
khwaab
August 5th, 2020 7:36am
Love is understanding that a person is their own entirely separate entity, as are you. You both understand that at any moment one could walk away from the other and go on to live an entirely healthy and fulfilling life, but you choose not to go it alone. Love is committing to putting someone on the same level as you, to be never above nor beneath you. Love is arguing constructively, building positively and supporting equally. Love is a two way street with one lane. At times it's difficult to navigate, but with cooperation it can be done. Love is not saying that you love someone, but showing it through your actions. Love is being brave and secure with yourself, and taking a leap of faith to trust someone who owes you nothing. But in return they'll do the same. Love is consistent. Love is a sacrifice, but the reward is a best friend that cares for you as much as you do them, it's a warm spot on the other side of the bed and a level head to help you when you can't seem to balance your own. Love is the most powerful bond in the universe and it exists beyond the constructs of space, time and reality.
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2021 5:38am
You will accept yourself and the person if you're really in love. You will pay attention to little details and not focus on materialistic or superficial things. You respect each others feelings, views, opinions and emotions without giving up on your core principles. You will feel free to express your feelings and thoughts without any hesitation but keeping in mind you don't hurt the other person and have a good rapport between each other. You will trust and have faith in the other person no matter what. Also, on the same note being trustworthy and honest with your partner.
Sharma10
May 20th, 2022 8:00am
PS: This is based on personal experience. We being humans, we first love through our eyes and we find someone very attractive and we get to know them. You fall in love when you can find things similar or common among the both of you. You tend to fall in love with the person who is similar to you in some way. You feel butterflies in your stomach everytime you see them or see their message. Everytime you watch a movie or listen to a song or read a book you tend to involve them and think about the same situation where it's you and them together. At one point I was soo in love I started losing my appetite