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How do I know if I'm in love?

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Last Updated: 08/12/2022 at 9:20pm
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Anonymous
November 10th, 2017 6:23pm
You know if you're in love you have a boy that puts full attention to you and one that never try to leave your side.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 2:33pm
You can normally feel it in everything you do. If you miss a person when they leave, you love being with them when they're with you, when you feel like you couldn't handle life without them in it.
naycopax
November 17th, 2017 1:37am
when you find that you can't live without that person in your life and that you have a NEED for them to be in your life
TogetherForeverAlways
November 17th, 2017 6:44pm
This a tough one, and I suppose it depends a lot on the person, since some fall in love easier than others. Pay attention to what you feel, react and think when you are with that person (excited, happy, conforted, nervous, smile and laughj a lot, feel positive, etc.) and when you are not (e.g if you think a lot on that person).
Anonymous
December 13th, 2017 4:17am
You feel it in your heart and you always have that person on your mind, and you feel happy thinking of that person.
MightyMango316
December 16th, 2017 8:59am
Back when I was younger I used to use 'like' and 'love' interchangeably. Now that I'm older and have had more experiences and have become more self-aware, I've realized that it's quite simple: I know it's love when I want for her to have whatever she wants in life.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2018 10:08am
Its a feeling you get when you are with that person and when they leave how you long for there presence again. It is the one person who can turn the most awful day into an amazing day
Mariaaa00
January 11th, 2018 6:09am
Love is the question that people have had for a long time. Each person has their own definition of love and an experience of how they knew they were in love. Some may say that you know you are in love if you care more about this person almost more than you care about yourself. Some may say that you cannot imagine your life without this person. Everyone has their own opinions about love.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2018 3:54am
Falling in love is such a confusing feeling. It's when you care for someone and can't stop thinking about them.
MayEverheart
January 13th, 2018 8:15am
Love is a really personal thing. It can have one meaning to one person but an entirely different meaning to another. It's a really complex facet of human emotion and as cliche as it is, you're the only person that can really know if you're in love or not.
RainLover
February 4th, 2018 6:49pm
You can't stop thinking about someone, keep replaying all the good moments you had with them in your head... You want to spend with them more time, get to know this person better and want him or her to be happy.
Anonymous
February 10th, 2018 12:43pm
Usually when you're in love, you become shy and nervous around the person. You'll feel your heart flutter and you'll get 'butterflies' in your stomach. you'll constantly think of that person, and they'll often make you smile.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2018 11:38pm
When friendship feels very special and unique and to feel like you’re the most important person in their life.
BrodieAlexander
April 12th, 2018 3:34am
Wow, What a tricky question. Love is so different than what I thought it would be. Sometimes it feels like butterflies and passion and other times it feels almost nothing at all. Love to me is devotion, to stand by someones side and not quit. It is almost less of a feeling and more of a choice. I think you know you're in love when you consistently decide to put their needs above your own in a healthy and positive way.
Mountainmystic777
May 16th, 2018 2:43pm
If you start caring for a person more than yourself.when you want them to grow and become better not just for yourself but for their own selves. When you want the other person to be happy, if it's with you or not. When keep on thinking about them and wish only happiness for them. When you stand by them when they're down and you help them stand up and find the light of their own being. And when you do this all selflessly, then it's called love.
JuliaK073
June 24th, 2018 9:48am
Feelings of empathy? Mood swings around that person? Are you focusing on the positive side? if all 3 yes - most likely you are in love, congratulations!
Anonymous
July 1st, 2018 5:04pm
In my experience, you just know. there aren't any rules and it may be way different for you than for others, but you just kinda know.
Eleuthromaniac
July 13th, 2018 3:20am
Love is a feeling, chemically activates by an external stimulus and the release of oxcytocin. To be in love is a commitment, to know it is when you find yourself including the other person into your life and caring for them as you would yourself. You’ll know when your mind constantly wanders towards them, when you find yourself involving into their life patterns, interests, and attributing to their personality. You start to morph as a pair when you become in love and it’s a beautiful thing to experience.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2018 8:38pm
It's different for everyone. Warm fuzzy feelings for some, practical choice for some, lust for some etc. Some say it makes you happy, but some experience grief with it too. Love has the power of making you experience best and the worst of the world.
OrageuxJames
August 5th, 2018 10:28pm
You'll feel like that person means the world to you, you'll want to talk to them all the time and when you don't you'll feel a little sad. When they send you a video or call you, you'll have a moment where you just feel so happy. You'll smile when they do the littlest things. Their laugh will make you laugh and their smile will make you smile.
KurtCups711
August 10th, 2018 12:01pm
Love is less an involuntary feeling and more a choice. Choosing to love someone when you are arguing or when they let you down is real love. Knowing that your partner will still love you despite your flaws, is more powerful than the temporary euphoria you get from physical contact or a honeymoon phase. Though both are fun :)
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 10:12pm
love feels different for everyone, don’t feel as though you have to validate weather what your feeling is love or not, just feel what you feel
Anonymous
September 2nd, 2018 11:30pm
When you're in love, you'll often find yourself thinking about that person most of the time. You'd want to talk to them, spend time with them and be close, and all their "flaws" don't matter to you. Whatever they might share with you, it won't change your feelings towards them, which is true love. People who are in love often think about their future with their crush, and if you and your crush are a couple already, you two might talk about your futures together long before any of it actually happens. Whenever you and your crush disagree or argue, you try to resolve the issue instead of blaming one another or simply choose the easy way out. You want to be with this person, and so your best to stay together
Anonymous
September 5th, 2018 12:31pm
Love is very difficult to distinguish from infatuation (I know I've personally struggled with this for roughly four years). I think one of the easiest ways to tell the two apart is to consider it as such: if this person makes you feel as good as you feel when participating in your favorite hobbies, you feel connected to this person, and if this person brings joy to you constantly without having to force anything to work -- I'd say there's a good possibility you're in love. Infatuation, on the other hand, causes distress, panic, and sometimes anxiety when thinking about or being with this person and can certainly lead to some rather toxic problems down the road.
Anonymous
October 14th, 2018 3:34am
it is when that person won't leave your mind.. that person makes you happy and sad at the same time... happy when they are around... and missing them when they are not... you are willing to set aside your own happiness for them... being inlove makes you do things that you don't want to do... you always long for the presence of that person even if they are the reason of your tears... simple things does remind you of that person... your simple ways in life you want them to be informed... you never see their flaws... instead you cover them... their simple ways leaps your heart... their smile... their laughter... the way they look... even their sent makes you happy... you want them to be part of the first and the last thing of your day😊💕
WarmLight17
October 20th, 2018 3:55am
When you can't go a day without speaking to your significant other. When they tell you they love you and you get this feeling in your stomach. When you love unusual things about them.When you love their flaws. That's how I knew I when I fell inlove. Been together for almost 10 years now. I love the little things. His smile and the way he coughs. It's just so cute to me. Just him walking is the cutest thing ever. Lol So yeah. If you feel any of these , that might tell you that your inlove. Good luck and I wish you the best.
Happysam99
January 10th, 2019 1:41pm
Love is a tough concept to deal with. Why? Love can be mistaken for attachment. Love comes from inside the heart of the human being. There are creation aspects that can help you identify this. The first example is Want vs Need. An individual that loves someone genuinely will not fear change, interaction, or honest communication with the other person. He/she can live without the other individual but they want them the other person with them. He/she can admit their mistakes and forgive each other. An individual that is attached can fear change and will beg and plead that they can't live without the other person. He won't make attempts to fix things either and might make jealous moves to make the other person guilty.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2019 5:01pm
How do you know if you are in love? I'll tell you. You know you are in love when their smile melts yours heart or when you could die to make them smile. You know you are in love when just thinking about them makes you smile. You know you are in love when the first thing you think when u wake up is them and also the last thing you think about before going to be. You know that you are in love when they cry your heart explodes from sadness and you feel bad. You know you are in love when you see them from across the street maybe with even the ugliest sweatpants and a Tshirt and they are still beautiful
Anonymous
February 20th, 2019 3:00pm
When you start to love yourself more around a person, and when you see them as a part of you, you know you're in love. Aside from the butterflies in the stomach, the person you're in love with will make you feel like you're on top of the world. With them, you'll learn and be willing to learn so much more. You'd trust them with anything, and you'd never break their trust either. They make you crave their presence because every experience with them seems so magical regardless of how simple the task may be. And as cheesy as it sounds, if you think you're in love, you probably are.
AngelSnake
February 28th, 2019 10:43pm
You know when it happens. You can't forget about them. Burning and butterflies. Checking on them regularly. Doesn't matter if you're with them or not, you still miss them every second. It's unconditional and doesn't really rely on looks or perfection, you maybe have a crush for a long while, then you trip and fall completely in love. It's a very strong bond. Many people who claim to be in love, I think, aren't really. Maybe some aren't able. The first cut is the deepest. After that you might find another love, which is strong, but not quite as searingly painful or above all surprising as the first time.