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How do I know if I'm in love?

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Last Updated: 08/12/2022 at 9:20pm
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AngelSnake
February 28th, 2019 10:43pm
You know when it happens. You can't forget about them. Burning and butterflies. Checking on them regularly. Doesn't matter if you're with them or not, you still miss them every second. It's unconditional and doesn't really rely on looks or perfection, you maybe have a crush for a long while, then you trip and fall completely in love. It's a very strong bond. Many people who claim to be in love, I think, aren't really. Maybe some aren't able. The first cut is the deepest. After that you might find another love, which is strong, but not quite as searingly painful or above all surprising as the first time.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2019 3:17am
When you can trust that person and you can accept them for who they are and feel comfortable around them. Even if you have conflicts, you trust each other to resolve them. You can support each other and care for one another. You feel safe being yourself around the other person. You have compassion and care for one another and you are understanding of one another. Also knowing that even though there will be hardships, you will be able to face and overcome them together. Supporting each other and active communication are also high indicators of knowing if you are in love.
Ency
May 4th, 2019 10:28pm
Well, there is no one true way to know if you're in love. There are so many different kinds of love, even different kinds of romantic love, that I can't give you one clear answer. In my experience though, love is something that makes you feel like you are safe with a person, it makes you excited to see them or hear their voice, it may even give you butterflies in your stomach. If you love someone you care about them very personally, not just being with them, but about their wants, needs, and ideas. I hope this could be helpful, Ency.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2019 5:42am
If your in love you'll Be constantly reminded of that certain person and feels butterflies in your stomach each time you do so. You'll crave for his/her touch and will get the feeling that you are ready to sacrifice anything for the. if you get these feelings for a long time it can be love but if its only for sometimes it can merely be an attraction .you would love to spend time with that person, would like to help him or her, keeps noticing even small things about them and would feel happy all of a sudden when you get reminded of them.even the sound of their breath will make you happy.you'll get the feeling that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. Good luck if its love !!
LayAllYourLoveOnMe
August 17th, 2019 8:33am
This is different for everyone. Most of the time, when you're in love, you'll find yourself wanting to do more with this person than you do with others. You might find yourself daydreaming about this person in a romantic manner, or you want to learn as much as possible about this person. It´s easier to figure this out when you compare them to other people, what difference do you notice when you think of others and when you think of them? There's a strong possibility that you feel much more towards and want watch more from this person compared to what you have with others. Being in love can also come accompanied with ''butterflies'' in your stomach.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2019 3:41am
You can't stop thinking about a person. you want to spend every waking moment with them or talking to them. you feel like you couldn't live without that person in your life. Sometimes you can't sleep because you're thinking about that person. They most likely will be the first person you think of in the morning and the last person you think of before you go to bed. You may find that you're constantly talking about or looking at photos of said person. You may feel butterflies in your stomach when they compliment you. You may feel sad when they don't answer right away
summerskyeautumn
January 2nd, 2020 11:07am
To know if you're in love, think about the person and how they make you feel, make sure that they make you feel good things and not anything bad that makes you feel anxious. Think about whether you always want to text them and see them and whether u think that they want to text you. If you realise that you are constantly wanting to see them then this is a good sign because it means that you are comfortable in their presence and want to be with them more often. This can also often be a good sign that you aren't getting bored of them in terms of the future
BeHereAlways
January 17th, 2020 8:31am
It starts with having good time , feel happy and comfort , feeling that everything is on its right place and time ,. Like to spend time with him/her , and sharing ur day , Feeling comfortable , want to share more and more , doing things u wouldn't think about it , spending time together would be the best thing ever even without talking , You will feel it , like u feel u want that person , u want to live ur life with , u want to see him more , it feels great when you are in love 🌹
DONOTBEAFRAID2113
February 4th, 2020 3:14pm
You'll know that you are in love when, the thought of the person sends you with the most amazing smile ever, when the thought of meeting them the next day is so soothing that if yiu're in pain, you'll forget that the pain existed, you'll feel the other person when they are arround you, when the person texts you, just a "hey!" and before that you've been having a bad day, you immidiately for get about the bad day, you'll see that when you're with that favourite person, hours would fly by but you'll have no sense of time, it'll feel like seconds. You'll know that you're in love when you feel their pain, be sad when they are and be happy when they are as if you are connected somehow. That was how it was for me anyways. It is different for everyone but one or two of the things ought match each other
Anaiviv01
February 9th, 2020 6:38pm
This is the general rule: love is so overwhelming and “different”, it doesn’t leave you with the doubt. So if there’s doubt, it could be love or it could be not. How to tell the difference? Don’t ask others if you’re in love. Everyone sees it differently and your best option is to take some time to elaborate your feelings better. Oh, and let’s not get stuck in labels and definitions: love is a special experience that starts with you and within you; people can see the difference from the outside but cannot judge your feelings — because they cannot put themselves in your shoes.
BluSky123
February 16th, 2020 10:26pm
It is extremely easy to tell if you are in love. There is a difference between infatuation and genuinely feeling love towards a person. Think about the person. Do you trust them with anything? Do you sometimes think about them for no reason at all? Do you feel immense pleasure or happiness simply by being in their presence? Sure, these are signs of infatuation, but love is different. You have an emotional bond to the person. If you pull on this, you realize it hurts when you do. You feel attached to the person on a level deeper than you understand. It is as if they are your best friend, but so much more.
shinimars
March 21st, 2020 12:38pm
I understand you are having a sudden confusion of feeling. when you are in love, you will feel happy whenever you see them. your heart beats fast and you will be shy whenever you are around them. you will feel a sudden rush of emotions whenever you see them. you accept every perfection and imperfection of your love. you will have a sudden rush of great feeling. youll start to love yourself and be a better person for the person you love. Love is one of the common emotions everyone feels. Do you feel these emotions when you are around them?
Anonymous
March 27th, 2020 1:55am
Knowing you are in love is when everything feels right with that person. You are comfortable and can tell them anything. There is an abundance of mutual respect and care for one another and you both are genuinely happy. There is also a great deal of trust between the two of you that reaches all ends. Being in love is different than any other love you have ever experienced for anyone. It also includes seeing a future with this person and knowing in your heart that it is meant to be. Love is love, and if you force yourself to be in love without feeling anything, then it is not true love.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2020 12:15am
You will feel like there is nobody else in the world. When you see them, they will light up the room. No matter what they do, you will always have a special place for them in your heart. If you feel butterflies when you are with them, you are probably in love. You will be happy when you are with them. If you are in love, you will feel alive, and like nothing else matters. If you feel like they are just there, you are probably not in love. You will love to be around them, and always want to be with them.
circusmirror123
April 8th, 2020 6:22pm
This is one of the things that you just know! Love means something different to everybody, and everybody takes a different amount of time to fall in love. Your definition of love may be completely different to what somebody else would define love as. For me personally, I know I'm in love when I trust that person completely, and when I feel completely confident to be who I am around them. When I'm in love I feel satisfied with who I'm with and I can imagine a strong happy future with that person. Being in love with someone makes me feel better about myself too! Again, you'll know when you're in love.
WrenSimon
April 12th, 2020 7:33pm
A lot of people believe love is a feeling. It’s actually an action. It’s a combination of care, respect, knowledge integrity, attention, affection, and open and honest communication. Many people who have not done the work of critically evaluating their attachment styles tend to confuse love with cathexis or lust. Love is love is love. We love our parents and friends from the same place we love our romantic partners. The tendency to over identify with our romantic partners and put too much stake in ownership/exclusivity and being loved in return. True love is unconditional and you will know it because you will want the best for them; even if they decide the best thing for them is not you.
Daniela27
April 15th, 2020 7:58pm
If you feel that you experience comfort and happiness by being around this person, and if this person is someone you would take care of or be concerned about their wellbeing, then that is love. For me, to love someone is to do anything for that person. I would talk to them often, ask how they are doing, develop a strong relationship with them, and see them smile and laugh. To be in love is to make time for them often. Falling in love is a wonderful sensation. There is harmony, peace, and infinite amounts of happiness. If you see yourself smiling constantly every time you see this person, you know you are in love.
LightfootListener
April 22nd, 2020 2:48am
That person will mean the world to you. You will see their name float onto your screen and feel happy about seeing it. They will make you feel at home anywhere, and make all of your problems seem easily manageable. Love is a hard topic for many people because they dont know what to look for, but when you find the person you are meant to be with you will know and it will make a world of difference. Love is a strong feeling too, not subtle like enjoying someones company or enjoing being around them, it is a feeling that when used correctly can change your life.
PsychoPhysics
April 30th, 2020 5:57am
When you're in love, you start seeing your crush as an extension of yourself, so when they're hurt, nervous or really excited about something, then you experience the same feelings as them. However, knowing you're in love feels different for everyone. Scientists have proven that there are actual signs for when someone is in love. For example, people reported having new interests and personality traits after entering a loving relationship from a study collected in 1995. Of course, if you're already envisioning a future with them, you may suspect you’re in love. However, those signals don’t always indicate that it’s the real thing. After all, in the beginning, your excitement around this new relationship can cloud your ability to see whether there’s real potential for a long-term relationship. For many, it just takes time and gentle care to know that he/she is the one.
Anonymous
May 1st, 2020 4:44am
No one else can describe your love for you. Its a feeling in your inner heart. Sometimes we are in love but we get it as love in a months time. People care for each other as friends, but love is beyond friendship and sometimes its selfishness too. Let the time come to your side, till that happens let her feel your tenderness, your love but don't go for passion. It's not love. Don't mix it up. Take care of her until she really understands your love. Girls usually feel the protection of a boy within weeks. She will understand you.
courageousheart96
May 6th, 2020 7:47pm
This person is on your mind literally all the time. They annoy you, but you still want to be around them. You want to show them all of your favourite things. You would rather stay in and do nothing with them than go out. You feel safe when you are around them. You want them to be happy.​ You love their quirks​. Your sense of self has grown through knowing this person. You are becoming a better person. You celebrate their triumphs even if you fail. You start planning a future involving them. You have started thinking about introducing them to your family.
aspectyourmom
May 13th, 2020 2:40pm
I used to not believe in love until i met this girl. she made me feel safe , loved , cared for and more. this feeling was so overwhelming for me. i’m normally a person who’s extremely pessimistic and i rarely believe in “love” due to other experiences. but , with her i felt optimistic and joyful. she filled with me with glee and i began to always want to know if she was okay , i would check in on her and want to talk. for once in my life i saw a future with someone and i was ready. she made me feel .. like i was the only one. every second of every minute i couldn’t help but think about her , she was intoxicating and everything about her i loved. she made me strong and let me know it was okay to cry. but , when she left me for an unknown reason all i wanted was the best for her. i knew i was in love because at that point her happiness was all i wanted. i wanted her to be happy with or without me no matter how badly it hurt. i just wanted her happy and i still do. i wish i knew why and i wish she told me but i’ll never truly know. i still love her dearly. i hope she’s happy. you know you’re in love when you want them happy , when they make you the happiest you could be and make you feel safe. that when you argue you just want it to be over. you realize the wrongs you’ve done and what they’ve done. you accept their flaws and who they are.
Anonymous
May 15th, 2020 10:43am
You will smile for no reason. He/She will be occupied in your mind completely. You will be so eager to meet him/her, if you meet or talk, the very next second you will start missing them. You will start thinking your future with him/her. A message or a call from him/her in unexpected situations is the best, makes you all happy. You start enjoying being alone with his/her thoughts all over your mind. Your surroundings can easily find good difference in you, in the way you behave, everything changes for good. Hope this answer helps. All happy, good luck and cheers. God Speed.
Anonymous
May 16th, 2020 5:15pm
Love is a magical wonder, and sometimes it just comes unexpectedly. When you find love, your heart will guide you and you will know. Like life, love has its own path for different people and has its own obstacles and milestones throughout its path, but falling in love brings you the utmost happiness and it makes you enjoy life, and makes you look forward to doing things you love. It also helps you realize who you are as a person and makes you see life from a different perspective. The answer to your question is in your heart and I can't say a definite answer, but love itself is a beautiful part in the journey of life.
Anonymous
May 17th, 2020 9:44am
You'll feel safe and calm around that person or you might start blushing, and just get this fuzzy feeling in your heart making you feel warm and joyful, your smile might widen and your day will become 10 times better when just seeing that special person, the way you just feel like you can absolutely tell that special person anything, love is something you' can sense when its there, it'll just feel right and amazing, when you are in love, there will always be a beating heart full of excitement in your chest, a heart directing you towards your happiness!
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2020 1:15am
This is a great question. It can be really tough to figure out whether or not you're in love with someone. Other emotions, like affection, fear, anxiety, and desire can get in the way. For me, love is about sacrifice, or giving things up for another person. If you are only infatuated with another person, you probably won't have a selfless desire to do nice things for that person, or give up your own time and resources for them. If you're trying to figure out if you're in love with someone, consider asking yourself how often you think about their wellbeing. Ask yourself how often you experience the desire to give up your own time or resources for that person, without getting anything back for yourself. Good luck; you've got this!
Asher
June 6th, 2020 7:16am
I would explain love as being with someone you can't live without. When I was younger I loved someone that i thought could be my whole future, but it didn't work out that way. I should also clarify that love takes time. You have to work at it non-stop for it work out. Love can make someone really grow as a person. It can be found when we aren't looking. But most importantly it change a lot of things. It changes us as people, changes how we interaction with people. It changes the stories of our lives, which is magically in it's own sense.
CalmCourage
June 7th, 2020 12:48am
Hey there, that is a great question! I guess it could be different for everyone but in my experience you spend a lot of your time thinking of them. Thinking what nice things you could do with them. You can feel you respect the person what they do and get excited by where they are going in life and want to help them in any way you can. You feel that excitement when you see them and can't help but smile. You laugh together and can tell one another things. You're not hiding who you really are with them. I guess in the first stages though you get the excitement, the nervousness the anticipation. Hope this helps.
Cajacks4
July 2nd, 2020 6:08pm
I know that I am in love when that person is the only person I want to talk to. When I go to sleep I wake up thinking about that person. I only want that person and I want to wake up next to that person every day. That person brings joy to your heart. You plan a future with this person and talk about the future with them. You know what makes this person tick. You can tell what the person is thinking and what they are feeling. You know what to do and what not to. You do not want to hurt this person instead you want to help them grow and see them win.
Hopeforjoy
July 8th, 2020 3:50pm
If you think about the person in a deeper way of understanding and wanted to have relation with them always....Feel uncomfortable when you don't have answer from them.. you feel so loved when they are around you even if they might not say by their words. You can even observe the changes in yourself regarding the thoughts and the behavior you will have when you talk or listen about a particular person whom you love. First of all you will be talking to them a lot of hours and the hours that you spent will be like seconds to you..