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How do I know if I'm in love?

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Last Updated: 08/12/2022 at 9:20pm
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Ukiyothepeace
July 23rd, 2021 4:31pm
Being in love is different for different people. But the common pattern is that you entrust them with something you don't usually do. You think of them without needing to remind yourself of them. Things that they like and dislike are visible to you in everyday life that wasn't before e.g. the song played was their favorite or they hated how the plot of a movie was. You want to make them happy by doing small gestures. You want them to be around you more than most (especially if you are an introvert). Above all, you just care for this person more than anything and foolishly always get a sudden feeling of peace and happiness either when they text/call or talk to you or their name is mentioned. yes, we've all been there!
unicornlatte
August 18th, 2021 4:24am
This is pretty abstract. There is no definite or fixed answer for this question. When you are in love you just know you are. Because love doesn't feel the sam for everyone, and when you are at it, you just know. when I was in love the last time, I mean I still am because when you love someone you don't stop loving them ever, there'll be one part of you that always reminds you of them and you just can't get rid of it. When you are in love, even if people tell you that the person you like is not good and stuff, you'll always find ways to not fall out of love. It is really complicated.
colorfulSugar8571
August 25th, 2021 1:38pm
Being in love is a tricky subject. everyone feels differently and there is not really a specific feeling for being in love. however if you find yourself thinking about a person and wanting them to not only be happy but to be happy with you is a good sign that you may be in love. trusting someone on an deeper level than everyone else may mean that you are in love. other signs may be wanting to spend lots of time with them, wanting what’s best for them, feeling happy when you’re with them, feeling in touch with their emotions, etc. being in love is a feeling that’s extremely hard to decide and honestly you will know when you’re in love. best of luck to you!
Anonymous
December 1st, 2021 3:04pm
1) you constantly feel like you want to be around that person. spending time with that person makes you feel beautiful. 2) you are ready to go lengths and bounds to do anything for that person. something that you know would make him/her feel good. 3) that person reciprocates you feelings and you feel some sort of connection with that person. 4) we constantly feel and think of that person. we feel his support and encouragement. The person who is in love with the other stays through his/her dark times with them. they never leave your side.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2021 3:21pm
Being in love feels different for everyone, so it’s hard to just tell you if you are or not, but there are some things that most people experience when they’re in love. Some of these things are: 1. Having the person almost always on your mind 2. Thinking about, and longing for a future with the person 3. Feeling happier when they’re around, and like something is missing when they’re gone. Of course those are only a few simple things, and like I said, it’s different for everyone. For me personally, I know when I’m in love when, whenever I think about my biggest wish, it has to do with the person, and whenever I think about the future, I imagine them being in it, and get sad when I realize they might not be.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2021 8:59am
You will feel butterflies in your stomach and deep down know they are the missing piece and the one for you, your best friend, your lover, partner in crime! It will feel as if any thing is possible as long as they are with you, you will want to hold them tight every single night, you won't care what people think, you will know they are just perfect for you, you will have small arguments every now and again but still have those fun laughs everyday. "I was afraid of falling, from heights, and in live but I knew when I fell for you that I would fall safely into your arms"- Alison bailey
Womerz
December 24th, 2021 12:31pm
It is literally a feeling in your chest. I know it sounds cliche, but it is true. You just look at them and your heart glows. If you have ever watched 'Jane the Virgin' I think it is so true to that question.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2022 1:12pm
When you accept and love even their biggest flaws. When you support them in their decisions even if you don't agree with it (obviously if the decision is an extremely bad one you try discussing it with them instead). When you start caring more about their happiness instead of your own (the 'as long as you're happy, I'm happy' kinda thing). When you love them for them, not the idea of them that you might have came up with in your head. When you get no 'icks' when he does something that you would usually get 'icks' from other people.
AlexandraSaved
January 21st, 2022 4:36pm
Love is an action. Love is something you wake up every day and choose. It takes work. It means that, despite all the less than stellar things the person does, you love them through it. My mother told me that her relationship with my dad (which involved a divorce, remarriage, and two separations) only started to work when she stopped having a plan B. Love is not wanting a back up plan. You know you love someone when you don't have a plan for getting away from them when they aggravate you. Love is loving them even though you see their flaws. Love is an action. Love is not passive.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2022 8:25pm
Well, do you feel that tingling in your chest every time you see that person, when you see them do you see your future with them or just present. Do you smile around that person, like genuinely smile. What does it feel like? Do you feel a powerful sense of emphatic toward them, it’s when you feel their pain as it is your own. You go to sleep and wake up thinking about this person. You want to take care of them, and vice versa. You feel like you grow together. They complement you rather than "complete" you.
Anonymous
April 30th, 2022 6:53am
How would you define love? Is it when you feel vulnerable? Secure? Is it when you trust them? Do you want to spend your time with them? Do you feel good around them? Do seeing them happy makes you happy? These questions are just general and I believe, there are different kinds of love. Only you can answer what love is for you, different people experience different kinds of love and their definition wouldn’t always align with yours. And aren’t we all always a little bit in love with everything? The colours, the flowers, sceneries, animals, our favourite shows/movies or characters etc etc.
Sharma10
May 20th, 2022 8:00am
PS: This is based on personal experience. We being humans, we first love through our eyes and we find someone very attractive and we get to know them. You fall in love when you can find things similar or common among the both of you. You tend to fall in love with the person who is similar to you in some way. You feel butterflies in your stomach everytime you see them or see their message. Everytime you watch a movie or listen to a song or read a book you tend to involve them and think about the same situation where it's you and them together. At one point I was soo in love I started losing my appetite
Anonymous
May 26th, 2022 6:35pm
There is a zing to being in love. It is indescribable, and yet the best way to explain it is that you just "know." There is no question, you simply...finally, know that person is the one for you. Hopefully, that one makes you happy, cared for, and loved and you do the same for them. There is balance in the relationship. You consider their wants, needs, and feelings and they do the same for you. When you are in love you do not want to hide the person. You want to introduce them to family and friends. You think about them day and night and they do the same.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2022 9:20pm
Love can feel different for many people and comparing feelings is not a way someone can help you discover it is love......we all might have happy and excited feelings to talk or see the person of our interest but that attraction and arousal may be lust.... I think it is a personal realization and a deep knowing that you are in love......a feeling that can not be talked out of that does not have to meet requirements but is just always there in good and bad. many people I believe create the illusion of love and that is why some seem to fall in and out of it so easily others whom may not experienced before do not trust their selves to really acknowledge it when it is there. Some may not want it to be there but it happened .... i met someone when i was feeling like i had fallen out of or no longer felt love and even though i know it is doomed and can never be the connection is so strong I a person who tries to think through everything am willing to throw caution aside for this feeling ..... i tried to not say it and skirted around the issue but once i did say it i knew .... even as irrational and bad timing ... impossible odds etc .... Love is what it is