I feel a hard time telling women I date about my past same sex experiences. At what point should I tell them?
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Last Updated: 08/04/2020 at 1:39pm
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Think to yourself, write it out, what makes sharing or disclosing this difficult? Why would these women be entitled to this information? Why would anyone react negatively to knowing this about your past? Do you want to be with a person who can't fully accept you? How were you feeling when you had these past experiences, and can you be fully honest with yourself about it all? Are your needs going to be met if you keep it to yourself? People tend to be hurt more, the more their partner waits to disclose things. You'll know when the time is right.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2020 1:39pm
Sexual experiences are a personal matter. If you're struggling to discuss those experiences, it could be that you don't feel the need to share them right away. I think that when it comes to sharing specific information it's entirely optional. When it comes to discussing that information, it can be on a need to know basis. Also, when it comes to the when to discuss with a new relationship, or an established one, it's a serious conversation to have...but only one that ideally would only be approached when you are comfortable. it's one of those that if/when you choose to discuss it scenarios.
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